How to cope after a breakup???

[Meowers]

I broke up with him yesterday. And I regret it, so bad. I am disinterested in doing anything else than doomscrolling and rotting in my bed. Eating feels like a sin. I ate a sandwich but I don't like feeling "full" so I purged to feel clean and empty. I used to be a compulsive SH-er and it got so bad before I got sent to the hospital and spent time on the psych ward which is not free. The costs made me quit. I was spending so much on my SH supplies and hospital visits. I am currently clean for a year and three months. But now, I keep on fantasizing slicing my arm and mess it up. I believe I have no ability of how to cope in a healthy way, everything feels too exhausting now. How to cope in a way that is healthy when healthy coping is just not interesting and sounds so exhausting? I'm just so tired right now, and I want the pain and all this crying to go away. How to convince yourself that you're not a terrible person? It feels like delusion.

 

[monday?]

the way i got through the first few weeks of a painful breakup was rewatching bojack horseman. put on a nice comfort show that you've seen before, get yourself something to eat and take small bites throughout the day if eating is hard and accept that you're gonna be in pain for a while. it doesn't get less painful but it makes it a bit easier to bear. try to go easy on yourself for a while. that's what helped me at least. if you have friends to talk about it with that helps even more

 

[elpurp]

completely agree with monday here, indulge in your favorite media and give yourself grace if you do relapse. i also broke up with my ex a month ago and i'm still single and it fucking sucks but then the feeling passes.

it's so corny and you prolly don't wanna hear it but i promise you it does get better. eventually it won't hurt so much anymore. you got this.

 

[sunshine.ca]

It's honestly so hard, when I broke up with my ex I couldn't even imagine doing anything productive or healthy. Sometimes, you do have to just rot and doomscroll for a bit. It's okay to be sad and gloomy for a bit. What helped me get out of the initial rut was just finding simple activities that I enjoyed doing. I really liked embroidery, those diamond paintings, and watching Disney movies. Just filling your time with mindless or repetitive activities helped me stop ruminating and eventually led me to developing healthier habits and moving on

 

[wantingdignity]

Breakups are really, really impossibly tough. Do not go back to the person. Lean fully on your support system. If you are missing support, look for it. You can't do it alone.

 

[3rdworldsadness]

I never had breakup so I can't say fully but I'm a highly sensitive person and I have mild heartbreaks for people I liked yet they didn't liked me or had gf. but I know my mind and situation is terrible, so I just don't indulge in love cause nobody would love me like i supposed to. I just avoid that feeling mostly. I will recommend watch your comfort shows. I watch doraemon, listen to other people stories, play some song you like. And write your feelings. Drink your favourite beverages. I hope you heal soon

 

[angelhopes]

Breakups are really hard, I normally just watched or listen to my favorite movies. First day of breakup I would listen to only sad songs to let it all out but, the next day i try to get more sunlight and I would ask my friend to hangout so I dont have to think about it. I also try to be more close with my pets for comfort ^_^

 

[Kamaainakupua]

A friend once told me (after someone dumped me), "the fastest way to get over a man is to get under a new one". I don't recommend it, but I know people that have "rebounded" into better relationships. If you want to avoid the revolving door, don't go near the entrance.
My first reaction after a breakup is to blame myself, and try to figure out what I did wrong. The truth I've found is that these things are rarely that simple, and that choices on both (or all) sides resulted in the end. The question is not 'what did I do wrong?', but 'what do I do next?', and you've already found the first answer, by sharing about it and asking for help. There is nothing new under the sun, and anything I've ever felt has been someone else's experience, too. Thank you for opening up, and being willing to ask for help. I hope you find some peace here.