Discussion How to come to terms that death isn't a big deal?

[Obliviate]

I and others are having some intense chronic anxiety/panic attacks over CTB/Death. Dying is scary but living is even more scary. Just the thought of doing the actual deed, what will happen after you close your eyes for the final time is terrifying. I think watching NDE's can be comforting and also acknowledging how many people die a day and people just move on. Anyone have any tips on focusing on death being more positive? That life is fake and made up? Existential crises? To be excited about death

 

[hungry_ghost]

Well here's my perspective (always subject to changing):

Maybe "fear of death" is some sort of built-in program by whoever is running this show/simulation.

It's not real, but it feels real, because we live according to our physical five senses.

Our bodies are just avatars that we are jacked into for the time being, like being in VR.

When we die, maybe we wake up in our real life outside of this place, and what we thought was years in here, was actually a few minutes, or a few hours.

Our life here will fade gradually like when you wake up from a dream.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

I think focusing on your inherent mortality is the best the way to cope with dying. This isn't anything that isn't destined to happen no matter what you do. You're not bringing about some thing that isn't inevitable. You're just fast-forwarding to the end.

No individual was meant biologically to live forever. Life wouldn't have worked otherwise. Nothing is permanent. As far as I understand everything reaches its end eventually. The Earth, humanity, and the Universe itself.

 

[trayansh]

I think Death is not scary, Life is scary. When you die you are just asleep eternally. You will feel no pain, no worries, no heartache, just like when we were before our existence.

 

[sunshiningbackwards]

it kind of is a big deal though. it happens to us all, but the finality of life is the only thing that gives each moment purpose

 

[theboy]

I have the same problem as you.
I look forward to reading tips in this thread

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I don't think there's anything fake about life. It's about as real as anything gets. And in reality, death is kinda a big deal. Right on par with birth, as the most important events in this world. There's birth, living, and then death. Birth you have absolutely no control over. You have some control over living, but, unfortunately, as is so often the case, too many outside influences eff that up for too many people. And then there's death. Natural death you may have little, or no, control over. However, putting death into your own hands gives you total control over one part of the triad of the life cycle. That's pretty powerful. I don't think it helps to make death easier simply by dismissing it's importance. Better to embrace it's importance and relish the power that taking control over it gives to you.

 

[Huntfish34]

I understand what you are saying and I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you. . Death is a pretty big deal to me which is probably why my dumbass can't find the courage or strength to pull the fckn trigger already. I Really want to do it,. but the whole ceasing to exist; going to a dark / black void , afterlife, whatever... Just stops me in my tracks.

I wish you the best in whatever may happen.

 

[Un-]

It's just my opinion.

I think we're all insignificant. We are. Homo sapiens have a horrible tendency to believe they're much larger than they are. Even if you're not a nihilist, you can just look at the moon, the stars, our sun, the milky way, and every other known sun and planet and realise that we're just a speck.

I mentioned it before, but there's a website out there that mapped out the Earth's life onto a 365-day calendar, and humans are the last few seconds of the last day in December.

We're nothing. Our lives aren't a big deal. Our deaths aren't a big deal. Everything problem you have - every belief, every this, every that.. Everything that makes you, you, is as significant as everything that the ant that you squished a couple of days ago loved.

It's just what I think. It makes death a lot easier. Knowing that, when you do die, it'll be as if you've never existed anyways. And that your existence never even mattered anyways.

 

[Worndown]

Even in a bad situation, there is a predictability to life that we can understand. Death is the great beyond that none can actually anticipate.

 

[ManicPanic2018]

"Picture a wave. In the ocean. You can see it, measure it, its height, the way the sunlight refracts when it passes through. And it's there. And you can see it, you know what it is. It's a wave.

And then it crashes in the shore and it's gone. But the water is still there. The wave was just a different way for the water to be, for a little while. You know it's one conception of death for Buddhists: the wave returns to the ocean, where it came from and where it's supposed to be."

Its just a quote from a TV show, but I keep coming back to it lately (From The Good Place, if you haven't seen it. 100% recommend).

I cant wait to return to the ocean.

 

[makethepainstop]

My own comming to terms is due to logic. I have computed that my health is in decline, my financial condition cannot improve, I am now old, conditions cannot be changed nor improved. Thus logic suggests now is time to ctb. Next life considerations, having died several times before, I saw what was there. I have never felt such peace, joy, calm, love ,and refreshment. The brightest white lite that in real life would hurt your eyes to see it. Logic again says if I was not afraid of being born,... Much love and heavy hugs to you. I

 

[hatehypocrisy]

I and others are having some intense chronic anxiety/panic attacks over CTB/Death. Dying is scary but living is even more scary. Just the thought of doing the actual deed, what will happen after you close your eyes for the final time is terrifying. I think watching NDE's can be comforting and also acknowledging how many people die a day and people just move on. Anyone have any tips on focusing on death being more positive? That life is fake and made up? Existential crises? To be excited about death

It's really not a big deal, I just haven't found a quick and painless way yet.

 

[lost1]

"Picture a wave. In the ocean. You can see it, measure it, its height, the way the sunlight refracts when it passes through. And it's there. And you can see it, you know what it is. It's a wave.

And then it crashes in the shore and it's gone. But the water is still there. The wave was just a different way for the water to be, for a little while. You know it's one conception of death for Buddhists: the wave returns to the ocean, where it came from and where it's supposed to be."

Its just a quote from a TV show, but I keep coming back to it lately (From The Good Place, if you haven't seen it. 100% recommend).

I cant wait to return to the ocean.

 

[Hope:-)]

I see it as the passing on to eternal life. I'm worried about physical pain, and not really death personally. I'm not religious btw. I just believe in eternal life. I don't believe we get punished in death. These beliefs help me not be too scared about death.

 

[FuneralCry]

For me personally the thought of non existence is very comforting. I believe it to be like how before we were born where time passed and yet we were not aware of anything. We are just returning to that state of non existence. Death is not a big deal as it's our inevitable fate as humans, we are all destined to die and be forgotten, our existence is incredibly meaningless, so death really isn't something to fear. Death could never be a big deal as when we die there is simply nothing. All emotions belong to the living, not the dead as the non existent have no consciousness, they are unable to feel or perceive anything. Death solves everything as it removes the true cause of all our suffering in the first place which is life itself. This is why I believe that it's always better not to be alive.

 

[thedaywillcome]

You die anyway.

 

[outrider567]

It's really not a big deal, I just haven't found a quick and painless way yet.

My Nitrogen is ready to go at any time I want to use it, I just put the EEBD hood on, adjust the flowmeter and turn on the gas, and lie down--That's it, eternal sleep and eternal relief

 

[Alabama_death]

I already know that I'll be scared as hell when it comes to it. But my life has been way more painful, so death will just be a relief

 

[Julgran]

I and others are having some intense chronic anxiety/panic attacks over CTB/Death. Dying is scary but living is even more scary. Just the thought of doing the actual deed, what will happen after you close your eyes for the final time is terrifying. I think watching NDE's can be comforting and also acknowledging how many people die a day and people just move on. Anyone have any tips on focusing on death being more positive? That life is fake and made up? Existential crises? To be excited about death

Remember that it has been estimated that only 6 to 7 % of all people who have ever lived are alive today, which means that 93 to 94 % of all people have already died, so it's more out-of-order to be alive, rather than dead.

 

[CTB Dream]

Death mean end suffer very good problem pain method idea head indoctrination also ,people afraid unknown afraid pain if more peace method access less fear fear made human prolife make ctb hard ctb taboo, if everywhere peace method easy no afraid Become normal thing

 

[freedompass]

When we die, maybe we wake up in our real life outside of this place, and what we thought was years in here, was actually a few minutes, or a few hours.

You have just described my dream

 

[Forever Sleep]

Afraid I don't have anything terribly deep to add. I do the same as you- focus on the amount of people who have already died, especially family members and think- one way or another, one time or another, I will be simply following in their footsteps.

I'd like to share a story though- my Mum used to teach. One of the parents was telling her that her father had recently passed away. As is often the case, they told her child that 'Grandad was in heaven now.' But they kind of over-did the sell on heaven because one day, the Mum was having trouble with something and the child said: 'Don't worry Mummy- you'll be dead soon.' Bit of a long winded story but I thought it was funny.

Guess that's part of the problem though- without really knowing what comes after this (or at the very least, firmly believing or indeed- not believing in something), it's bound to feel scary- most especially with ctb because it's effectively facing whatever that may be immediately. I wish I had the answer. Reckon it would sort a lot of life's problems out for everyone.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

For me, it's actually quite simple: no matter how scary or painful it could potentially be, that will end at some point and I will FUCKING FINALLY be at peace. That right there makes just about anything endurable.

 

[Lost Magic]

My own comming to terms is due to logic. I have computed that my health is in decline, my financial condition cannot improve, I am now old, conditions cannot be changed nor improved. Thus logic suggests now is time to ctb. Next life considerations, having died several times before, I saw what was there. I have never felt such peace, joy, calm, love ,and refreshment. The brightest white lite that in real life would hurt your eyes to see it. Logic again says if I was not afraid of being born,... Much love and heavy hugs to you. I

Can you explain more about your near death experience? It sounds like bliss. I am going to leave this world soon, so I just hope it is as peaceful as it sounds.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Knowing that, when you do die, it'll be as if you've never existed anyways. And that your existence never even mattered anyways.

This right here is what I am certain will happen after death and to me it seems like the most wonderful thing EVER.

 

[Sun n showers]

I and others are having some intense chronic anxiety/panic attacks over CTB/Death. Dying is scary but living is even more scary. Just the thought of doing the actual deed, what will happen after you close your eyes for the final time is terrifying. I think watching NDE's can be comforting and also acknowledging how many people die a day and people just move on. Anyone have any tips on focusing on death being more positive? That life is fake and made up? Existential crises? To be excited about death

It's not the death... death is peace. Its the doing it !!

 

[hatehypocrisy]

My Nitrogen is ready to go at any time I want to use it, I just put the EEBD hood on, adjust the flowmeter and turn on the gas, and lie down--That's it, eternal sleep and eternal relief

I bought a helium tank, but it's only 80% helium. I am looking for 100% nitrogen.

 

[Obliviate]

I understand what you are saying and I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you. . Death is a pretty big deal to me which is probably why my dumbass can't find the courage or strength to pull the fckn trigger already. I Really want to do it,. but the whole ceasing to exist; going to a dark / black void , afterlife, whatever... Just stops me in my tracks.

I wish you the best in whatever may happen.

This. Yes it's scary. Going from a moment of being alive to then a black void and after that.....well we'll have to find out. Maybe we can think of it like sleeping? essentially that is what also happens. We're awake and then all of a sudden fall into a deep sleep with darkness/not being conscious....lost only in our heads.

It's just my opinion.

I think we're all insignificant. We are. Homo sapiens have a horrible tendency to believe they're much larger than they are. Even if you're not a nihilist, you can just look at the moon, the stars, our sun, the milky way, and every other known sun and planet and realise that we're just a speck.

I mentioned it before, but there's a website out there that mapped out the Earth's life onto a 365-day calendar, and humans are the last few seconds of the last day in December.

We're nothing. Our lives aren't a big deal. Our deaths aren't a big deal. Everything problem you have - every belief, every this, every that.. Everything that makes you, you, is as significant as everything that the ant that you squished a couple of days ago loved.

It's just what I think. It makes death a lot easier. Knowing that, when you do die, it'll be as if you've never existed anyways. And that your existence never even mattered anyways.

This is amazing. I always think about the ant theory as well. We really are a speck of dirt in X number of universes out there. We really are tiny and irrelevant yet find any way possible to hurt one another. Also can you explain more about this 365 calendar thing?

 

[Rational man]

I used to attend a spiritualist church out of curiosity and must admit that i was given some ' evidence ' about my dad which kinda made me think but in the end i realised that death is just a sequence of events, jus like nature. I think attachments to people and objects can add to our fear because in the end accepting that we leave everything has helped me. I do fear dying of disease. I need control and i am working on this.