How r people comfortable in their bodies ? With themselves?

[Parnate]

I have always been so uncomfortable in my body, with myself. I am always awkward and nervous around people. I don't like clicking pictures cause I don't like myself. I am above average looking, I have been told my skin is good. But, I can't even fathom how average looking people put their pictures on social media, how are they so confident and comfortable with themselves?

 

[Lady_V]

Same, I have always been uncomfortable with myself. I hate my body, I hate my face, I am saving up for a lot of plastic surgery currently. People get sad when I tell them this because they think I'm pretty already, but I'm convinced I'll be happier (and people will treat me better) with a lot of work done. I don't even care if I die on the operating table at this point.

 

[Hollowman]

I'm above average too.It doesn't matter at all because my personality got messed up from a med/illegal drug interaction. I've been told I'm handsome a lot and I've been rejected and abandoned a lot.

 

[MissAbyss]

Interesting question. As a teenager and young adult, I felt completely unattractive and very insecure. And yet, I looked above average, and still do. I didn't appreciate the attention I received at all. It was only when I got older that I started to see it. Yet, I never feel the need to share photos of myself; it feels so shallow.
So, probably due to aging.

 

[tiltedcompass]

It all comes down to high self-esteem and social skills, or maybe just outright not caring about your appearance having influence in social spaces (except that this is obviously wrong, there's always bias towards conventionally attractive people).

As for me, I didn't feel anything positive nor negative as a teenager. I used to be very skinny, and several classmates had crushes on me. Strangers also harassed me since I was young which was uncomfortable, but didn't cause me any sort of repulsion towards my body. I started feeling more self-conscious when I was already 18 and gained a lot of weight. I can't handle looking at myself (my stomach and thighs are particularly atrocious), I hate going outside because that means I'll have to use clothes that don't fit me. My face looks off and weird whenever someone else takes a picture of myself, to the point where I think that's someone else instead of me. It's hard to believe my partner whenever he tells me I'm beautiful.
In some way, I'm grateful I'm not getting harassed anymore since I've changed and now I'm considered "fat and ugly" by society standards. I don't think my face is ugly by itself, but god I wish I could lose some weight and feel more confident in my own clothes again.

 

[London2005]

going to the gym

 

[Forveleth]

I did not like how I looked as a teenager and a young adult, but my looks were based on influence from my parents and not how I actually wanted to dress. I finally started curating a wardrobe of clothes that I liked. I cut my hair the way I wanted, and I stopped looking a particular way for someone other than me. I never wear things because they are a fashionable or trendy. I wear things because I like to wear them.

Once I let myself look the way I wanted to, it was a massive confidence boost. I also worked out and got into shape and that made me feel a ton better too.

 

[fallingbehind]

Literally every single day since I was a child Ive hated my body. I seriously cant comprehend otherwise.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

How r people comfortable in their bodies ? With themselves?

Not at all....

 

[darksouls]

since the sepsis and the amputation I look awful, I dont own a mirror

 

[copioushopelessness]

since the sepsis and the amputation I look awful, I dont own a mirror

I'm so sorry! What did you have amputated?

 

[darksouls]

I'm so sorry! What did you have amputated?

both of my female breasts

 

[copioushopelessness]

both of my female breasts

That's awful. Did you have cancer?

 

[darksouls]

That's awful. Did you have cancer?

supposedly it was not cancer, every doctor said something different, all I know is that I was in unbearable pain for a long time

 

[Alexandra_]

I hate everything about myself. Some people say I'm beautiful, but I don't care what they think

 

[Aesthetic guy]

i have pectus excavatum... do the math