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I was kinda known as what was referred to as a slut back in the day. 
Which, honestly, I took as a badge of honor and not the shaming people thought I should. Think about it -- guys are supposed to be "experienced". It is a badge of honor for them -- "notches in the bedpost" ring a bell? Well, who did he get those notches from?? Other guys?? (Gasp!! I could have cared less about some fellas getting it on together but I was a young adult when the AIDS Epidemic blew up. People were worried and rightfully so -- I lost more than a few friends. 
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All things considered it has been both a singularly boring and spectacularly interesting life. So far anyway.
You know, I'm right there with ya. The "happiest" I have ever been was the times I was single (read: ALONE). I don't have to worry about some guy being in a bad mood, the house looks EXACTLY like it did when I get home as it did when I left, the only dishes I have to wash are the one I dirty ... blah, blah blah ...
Good for you!! So many kids think having a relationship will help them and honestly, my boys have all told me (my kids are old enough to be your parents lol) that they wish they hadn't got "mixed up with girls" (all my kids were boys) until they were MUCH older. Like in their 30s older -- gotten their work, career, housing, all that other stuff worked out. My one son who has turned out to be the smart one says if he had done that -- just waited and not worried about it -- he could have "missed out on a shit-ton of misery." Lol That kid ... He is a mess!
Yep. I've been single for just over 2 years by choice. I don't have to explain where I'm going or what I'm doing. No drama, no bullshit arguing, just me and my silence.You know, I'm right there with ya. The "happiest" I have ever been was the times I was single (read: ALONE). I don't have to worry about some guy being in a bad mood, the house looks EXACTLY like it did when I get home as it did when I left, the only dishes I have to wash are the one I dirty ... blah, blah blah ...
I really don't think I am cut out to be in any relationship longer than about 15-20 minutes. Maybe a half hour if he is a "keeper".
I've been married twice. They have both passed on. I don't see me doing a long-term thing ever again. I am in a position where I can focus on MY mental and physical health and I fully intend to do just that.
Exactly!!! I live in what is termed a "historical neighborhood" so there are more than a few homes where the owner is a widow/widower. All the widows were like "if your old man goes before you, get ready, because these guys are like vultures". I just laughed and told them I didn't think I had anything to worry about because I am not pretty by any stretch of the imagination.
OMG those ladies were NOT kidding! Only thing I can figure is men "of a certain age" have actually been taken care of their entire lives (first mommy, then girlfriends, then wives) -- I know my late husband was -- and they are just completely overwhelmed (or just lazy) and can't/don't want to do what the rest of us do. Yeah, nope. I am the crazy cat lady my husband always told me he was "saving me" from becoming. 
I live in the woods, and the closest house is about 200 yards away, so pretty secluded here, and the way I like it.Exactly!!! I live in what is termed a "historical neighborhood" so there are more than a few homes where the owner is a widow/widower. All the widows were like "if your old man goes before you, get ready, because these guys are like vultures". I just laughed and told them I didn't think I had anything to worry about because I am not pretty by any stretch of the imagination.
Oldest I ever dated, I was 19 and she was 32. She's around 67-68 years old now.
To be honest... sometimes I feel like I'm behind in life when I hear people my age talking about their lives, but I don't think I would be ready for a relationship. After school, I want to focus on my apprenticeship (I want to become a carpenter) and afterwards I'll maybe go on a job-related journey for three years and a day (German tradition from the middle ages), but I'm not so sure about that yet. For now, my parents' marriage has too much of an negative impact on how I view relationships so I probably won't bother to search for a partner in the next ten years.
