Discussion How many people have reached out for help but been rejected? Pro-lifers- please take note!

[ChronicPain23]

Sometimes there is no salvation, only the CTB remains. I take medication, but I just look realistically at my life and this sick, evil world, that's what makes me not want to go on living. I don't fit in here, I don't want help, I just want to die.

 

[Keliphah]

This is me. I've reached out for help and had varying responses. From the emergency department dr who said I was "attention seeking" when I presented with open bleeding cuts on my arm, to the psychatrist who said there's nothing we can do.

The hospital stay where I said point blank I am suicidal and I will hurt myself if released and being told sleep will fix everything.

But then I've spoken to a psychologist who was open to everything and genuinely tried to help, just hard to do much when financial difficulties means you can barely afford food let alone treatment.

To the General Practicioner/Primary Care Physician who was happy to keep trying different medications to see what might help.

The absolute best rejection was when I said yes I want a hospital stay and it was understood as no I'm refusing treatment

No where else does this happen other than with mental health. I swear it's more frustrating than pulling my own tooth out

For context I get about $5/meal if I'm lucky, max $50/day to cover everything. Or about $18,000 a year when minimum wage is $45,905.
Half of that $18,000 covers rent. So you see, at probably minimum $150 per appointment for a psychologist, treatment is incredibly prohibitatively expensive and the public system so stretched and underfunded looks at me and says can't be bothered. You're a complex case that would take too much time and money to fix.

 

[chloramine]

I've tried therapy. I guess I'm technically still in it? Probably won't book another session though. It can help short term because just having someone listen without worrying about making them hate me is nice. Long term I don't think it's provided much meaningful change but there were definitely a couple of points where that short term boost was extremely needed. I got pretty lucky with my therapist though because I know she's not going to call 911 on me or anything and her attitude isn't "dying is always bad" but "you should have a chance to experience life away from the things that led to this before making that decision". I also had one therapist who made things worse and one who just wasn't helpful at all as well.

 

[eve2004]

I saw a psychologist and it was harmful. Set me back further than if I hadn't reached out for help. Now I am seeing another therapist mostly to undo the damage of the first one. If I lose my insurance, I'm SOL. As for reaching out to other people, no. Besides, I have no friends anymore.

 

[sadpeach]

I've been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, severe anxiety, and social phobia since I was 13. Almost 11 years later and I'm still trucking it somehow. Medication doesn't work despite how many I take, hospitalizations are a joke, telling anyone just results in a generic,"You need to get help." response. As if I haven't tried. I'm done fighting.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

Yeah it's an entirely fuck situation. I live in one of America's biggest cities. And after taxes and health insurance(which I can't seem to escape) I bring home about half of that. Right now it's honestly one of my biggest driving factors in suicidality. I was actually doing fine when I had this job and my states single payer healthcare. but I was forced to get off of that and get health insurance and ever since then every day it's been a constant struggle getting absolutely nowhere. it's not even like I can refuse to pay for my health insurance, it's taken out of my paycheck before I even see the money.

You must live in New York

 

[Hunter2005]

I have never reached out for help because everyone got their own problem going on and they don't care. All that reaching out for help stuff is lies.

 

[kindalone]

My first visit was a doctor, who told me I was a "strong young man" and probably didn't need something like that. I'm just too sensitive. Seond time, my doctor thought I was just a lazy bum who wanted an excuse to skip an exam. She scoffed and told me that she wouldn't do this for every exam. There was one incidence, where a counselor at my uni straight up didn't understand why I felt so anxious and depressed when things weren't "as serious" in her opinion. Once I told my sister, that I was suicidal and she had to retreat and told me it was too much for her. Basically, I was too well put together, things weren't as serious or I just looked too chill or normal to be depressed or anything like that. People I cared about weren't at all ready for my confession. Nobody is. My depression is just a terminal illness at this point, because of a shitty system that puts the blame on the victim.

 

[deadtrace]

My experience over the years trying to get support has been infuriating.

First I get shoved theough endless admin and bureaucracy. Waited literal years to hear anyrhing, rejected for "not accepting treatment" when I hadn't been contacted at all amd was told to wait every time I contacted them. Tried again, same thing happened. Tried a third time, got 5 cbt sessions, didn't help, was told it'd be years for anyrhing else. My last attempt I was denied because apparently people who have self harmed and are suicidal are too high risk to help. When asked they had no idea as to where I'm meant to get help. That was the last straw for trying to get help.

In the mean time I've been cycled theough many different antidepressants by other doctors. None helped, they've just had horrible side effects on me. I've just given up and stopped renewing them at this point it's gotten ridiculous.

I'm sure there are people who have been able to get help in situations like mine but for me it's been a disaster. Overall its made me even worse.