How many people can you honestly say loves you, unconditionally?

[CTB Fella]

I only really have my nan.

She raised me, because my "mother" gave me away at birth.

My nan is the only person who loves me unconditionally (with all of my EUPD & OCD quirks) and I love her the same.

How about you?

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

No one

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

My mum has said that to me before and I even laughed when she said that to me because I even said to her don't say things like that to me because me I don't say words like love to someone when I don't mean it. To me a mum that loves her child will never want harm to come her way. I saw this woman on YouTube who was screaming at a man who harmed her child and at that moment I felt like why didn't I have a mum like her. Tbh I have seen you tube videos of mums humiliating their kids on social media and that sh!t ain't cute you will just make your kids resent you.

 

[pole]

never have been unconditionally loved nor do i believe i will.

this goes for most people i guess, but i don't think just about anyone can be unconditionally loved. does that mean they are unlovable? no. it just takes someone to love you unconditionally and not everyone has that.

i've only been able to love a couple of people unconditionally. it is difficult and the feeling is rare. you don't feel that for just about anyone.

on the other hand, it's difficult for anyone to unconditionally love someone who is broken. whether they're chronically depressed, ugly, struggle with trauma, etc; being able to whole heartedly accept and embrace someone for who they are, even with the baggage that comes with them is something i don't expect many to do nor do i blame them.

i wouldn't able be able to unconditionally love myself either if i were another person.

 

[Crono]

00000

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Absolutely 100% no one. Not even myself.

 

[hananover]

I think the fact that nobody loves me unconditionally actually helps me. I've always had less attachment to the world because of it. I won't be breaking anyone's heart.

 

[captive]

0...

 

[Jezzibell]

None. And that is an absolute fact

 

[The anhedonic one]

Erm... absolutely nobody. Nope.

 

[Never_got_better]

There's this one person. A friend that I have a crush on, who keeps telling me things will get better. And that they don't think they could move on if I died. They're the only reason I'm still here. I love them dearly. I hope that they're wrong, and when I'm gone, they'll be able to move on, and forget all about me.

 

[mlcs]

Between 0 and 10 I guess. It doesn't matter anyway, as I don't love myself. I was never dependant od someone's love.

 

[ghost44]

The people who cared about me are dead.

 

[GettingOut]

I think my definition of "unconditional love" is very different from how my friends view "unconditional love."

For me, it really is without condition, and that is how I have loved my family/friends. But I was hurt by the fact that they don't love me "to the same extent" as I love them. So technically, there are few friends that care and will be affected when I'm gone, but none of them loved me as much as I have loved them unconditionally

 

[Techef]

I have no idea. If I look at this simply from a results-oriented approach, zero - I have nobody to turn to for even a small amount of support, much less love (or "unconditional" love). I am certain my father and sibling loved me very much, but with both relationships there came a breaking point where they either cut me off to save themselves (sibling) or were too busy dealing with their own hell of a life (father) to engage in a genuinely loving/caring relationship. I still love my sibling very much, but after trying a few times to restore the relationship I gave up. Maybe that means I don't unconditionally love them after all, and I too have a breaking point. In fact, I am not sure what unconditional love is or what it is supposed to look like. I miss my father even though it's been almost 2 decades since he passed, but I have no idea if we ever had a relationship that could be described as unconditionally loving.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

No one. My mother hates me. I make my Dad & brother uncomfortable & they dislike me.

Unconditional love outside of families one is born into is impossible imo..so I never had it and never will.

 

[crimsonpool]

i have a good friend who maybe does, other than that no one, understandable im a hard person to love lol

 

[SVEN]

My wee, old dog.

 

[spirittheyregone]

My boyfriend, that's probably it though. Oh and my kitties :), it makes me feel so happy when I walk in and see them scramble at me to the door

 

[InaudibleEcho]

Nobody. They either love a false version of me that they made up or they only like the parts of me I show. There's a lot of secrets I keep that if I told anyone close to me, I'd lose them in an instant. Not just lose them, actually. They'd probably tell me to CTB. Luckily, I was already planning on that.

 

[leavingsoon99]

Nobody.

 

[Unattainable666]

One, my cat

 

[Not_A_Seagull]

I only really have my nan.

She raised me, because my "mother" gave me away at birth.

My nan is the only person who loves me unconditionally (with all of my EUPD & OCD quirks) and I love her the same.

How about you?

No one, not even my own parents. They just use me as a trophy

No one, not even my own parents. They just use me as a trophy

To them im some emotionless robot who. Should work 24/7 and needs no care

 

[charlotte_]

Is there truly unconditional love? I mean, isn't love in any ways a form of exchange? You must posess some qualities and perform in some ways that get the affection of the other person. No one loves each other because of nothing. But that's just the way I think, glad to see OP and some people here still feeling loved even if it's just 1 person/pet.

 

[SexyIncél]

"Unconditional" and "love" are unclear. Love = emotional adoration? Or effective actions to boost & defend you?

And can you be loved by a society — full of different people who can overall fulfill your desires? Or must it be individuals loving you full-force?

Also, how far can you push the "unconditional" thing? Can you be a jerk, and they'll look through it & love you? Or can someone make a good faith effort to love you, if you avoid crossing the line of cruelty & ingratitude?

Anyway, saw this interesting video. Makes the case that, at least in jobs & relationships, you're not free to be yourself. Also morally justifies society being structured like this. Whether or not it's justified, I think it's accurate description of most current human relationships

 

[glowstick bones]

I'd say I have two people and one dog

 

[Archness]

no one

 

[BookPostponed]

Things went to absolute fucking shit within the last week and I absolutely need help. Not a single fucking person in my life loves me. I have done so fucking much for these people, and I have just been messaging them to seek support or even mediocre conversation- and no one has talked to me in a week. I didn't trauma dump, but they know what's going on as in a the specific situation I'm in.

I've just been saying "I would like to get together sometime". All left read.

And, it's going to be the same people "shocked" that I killed myself, feeling guilt or fucking whatever- and I'm sorry that I'm not sorry that their predictive guilt pisses me off. I'm over this life.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I don't know- I haven't tested it....

Is it even all that good to love unconditionally? What about someone who slaps their partner around, abuses them, has affairs? Do they deserve to be loved unconditionally? Or- are their partners just being a mug to put up with all of that?

Does love need to be reciprocated? Is it ok to love someone unconditionally when they don't love you back? I'd say that was very unwise.

To some extent- I admire people who stand by their loved ones when they make (sometimes serious) mistakes. Still- being unconditionally loved kind of implies someone has already done something unideal. I think it DOES depend on what that is! So- failing a maths test seems more forgiveable to me than have affairs with multiple partners or assaulting them.

As for me though. I truly don't know. The only person left who maybe would love me unconditionally is my Dad. I know he'd certainly be disappointed if I did certain things. Maybe he would stand by me in the end though. I don't really plan to test it though! Because I love him. I do my best not to really upset him. That said, neither of us have been the best in our father/ daughter roles. I'd say we've both made pretty selfish mistakes. Perhaps we do already in fact love one another unconditionally.