I've had suicidal thoughts since I was 10. (Now 42). They have definitely ranged in intensity but I'm not sure I've ever been really free of them- Even in good periods, it seemed like the best option. I guess I've always had suicidal ideation but actually doing it seems a lot more complicated.
For a long time, I felt like there were certain people I just couldn't upset that much- my God Mum and my Dad. My God Mum passed a few years ago. I just don't know what I'll do when my Dad goes. Sort of feel I might still linger on though. Weird but that kind of annoys me.
Really I guess I'm such a coward. I really don't want to risk hurting myself in a failed attempt- even a successful attempt preceeded by a whole load of pain sounds awful.
Plus, while I'm not strictly religious, I'm unsure enough to fear an afterlife with punishment. Logic wants to reassure me there's nothing but hell/purgatory/reincarnation is a nasty-enough nagging thought to frighten me.
I sort of understand the judgement that 'you don't really mean it' if you're still here after all this time supposedly wanting it. Honestly though- it pisses me off when people say stuff like that. No one can know someone else's pain and it's so belittling and dismissive hearing stuff like that. Plus- I don't think it really makes a great point. I suspect many people succeed in commiting suicide partly on impulse. Maybe they didn't 'really mean it' but because they suceeded- does that make their pain/wish more 'valid'?
Not exactly a healthy thing but I actually admire people who go ahead and do it in a way- not to say I don't admire people who manage to turn their lives around- that's incredible. Still- I guess it's in response to people calling suicide 'the cowards way out.' I think it's an incredibly brave thing to do, the most autonomous decision you can make and the most decisive one.
I've always felt that for me to do it would be a matter of bringing things to their logical conclusion but I still have a (horrible) feeling that I won't and I'll die having lived my whole ridiculous life like this.