It depends on the person. Personally I wouldn't set the date too far in advance. I feel that it would put too much pressure on me, and I know that I would get more and more anxious as the date approached. I would probably not set a date more than a few days in advance at most.
I feel really similar.
The thing is, I can't do it at home so I have to book a place which means it has to happen then, and spend money etc.
So, I'm super anxious as I think it needs to very soon, but I'm also still getting everything together.
I think it'd be different if I lived alone for example.
I think the earlier the better in case anything happens (even if im just sick. I have a chronic illness)
It depends on the person. Personally I wouldn't set the date too far in advance. I feel that it would put too much pressure on me, and I know that I would get more and more anxious as the date approached. I would probably not set a date more than a few days in advance at most.
Also thank you for your message. That was really reassuring to me as im nervous