Discussion How does therapy even help?

[prettyclam]

Why does whenever I talk about my mental health, people immediately suggest therapy? I've been to multiple clinics and had multiple therapists who never helped. Each session went like this:

Me: I'm so depressed that I'm going to commit suicide.

Therapist: Why?

Me: Because I live in an abusive environment, have no future, have no passion for life, no ambitions, and have nobody who cares about me.

Therapist: Have you ever tried yoga?

Like honestly I don't know what I'm supposed to be getting out of therapy. I've quit it after months because of how much of a waste it is. Then when I told an acquaintance about how depressed and suicidal I am, she told me to go back to therapy. Maybe some people don't understand how unhelpful it is. Either that or I'm just an incurable person.

 

[DivineSpark]

Talking does nothing to me anymore, and meds neither.

 

[Dyingoportunity]

. A lot of people, like me, have trouble trusting or opening up to people, which causes the therapist to misinterpret what the problem actually is.

A lot of other problems can be because (a) the therapist doesn't really practice what they advertise themselves to practice -for example, a therapist who claims to be good with people of all ages but is really only good with children, and they tend to infantilize their adult clients as a result, (b) is just shit at their job in general or (c) care more about filling a quota than actually helping people. It can take forever to sift through the bad ones to find the good ones, and that discourages a lot of people. That and it's really expensive in some countries.

you seem willing to be open and willing to participate as a client. Don't give up if you want to turn your life around. Even if therapy doesn't work out you can still talk to your friends, family, people on this site, or whoever else you trust.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Why does whenever I talk about my mental health, people immediately suggest therapy? I've been to multiple clinics and had multiple therapists who never helped. Each session went like this:

Me: I'm so depressed that I'm going to commit suicide.

Therapist: Why?

Me: Because I live in an abusive environment, have no future, have no passion for life, no ambitions, and have nobody who cares about me.

Therapist: Have you ever tried yoga?

Like honestly I don't know what I'm supposed to be getting out of therapy. I've quit it after months because of how much of a waste it is. Then when I told an acquaintance about how depressed and suicidal I am, she told me to go back to therapy. Maybe some people don't understand how unhelpful it is. Either that or I'm just an incurable person.

I also think therapy is crap. It's the right medication we need imo. Just my thoughts.

I had a similar situation for you. I hope you can one day be free

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I get that too. I've never been to therapy but know many people who have. Half of them are in some make-believe land thinking that they were helped but will unravel after a while. The other half say it's rubbish. A few have told me about actually useful things such as techniques for dealing with panic attacks which really work for them, so it's not a total scam. I've been in therapists offices and it feels like a weird mind-game or something.

 

[Griever]

For me personally, therapy is simply unnecessary and pointless

 

[Lxions]

i cant open up

 

[LostLily]

i cant open up

That the problem with me. I saw someone through a text-base service for 5 years and never told her that I was suicidal.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I can relate. When I was an 8, or 9 I didnt want to talk. I really wasnt willing to listen, but when I did sometimes it helps in certain ways. Granted some of us have truama that just runs way to deep.

 

[Forveleth]

I am also in an abusive environment and I realized that all of the therapy in the world is not going to help me while I am here. I can be given all of the "coping mechanisms" in the world but if I am being proverbially punched in the face every day, there is no way I can cope with that.

Therapy works great for a lot of people and that is fine but it does not work for everyone in every situation and people need to realize that.

 

[deathisapanacea]

Therapy is very helpful, for the Therapist.

On a serious note, Therapy can helpful if the Therapist is any good and you are determined to get out of your mental issues and open up to the Therapist.

 

[divinemistress36]

Talk therapy is worthless for trauma and finding a good trauma therapist is very hard.

 

[VoidButterfly]

Maybe I'm fortunate enough to be fucked up enough that I've been able to access a lot of help in a country where accessing that help is also free to me, but I've found in quite helpful. Admitedly I'm more used to having a mental health team more than just a single therapist, but even just the single therapists I've found to be helpful. Quite often they can help me take problems I'm facing and break them down into smaller problems that I can overcome, teach me methods to move past things I'm mentally stuck on, teach me coping strategies for anxiety or crisis moments, and generally just being a place I can go to when I need to run away. Just three days ago I was given new safe houses to escape to if I need them, and sometimes you just gotta run away and getting a cup of tea with someone is better than doing something impulsive. It's a whole spectrum of help I guess I'm saying, from learning coping strategies to finding me space in a week long voluntary stay in not-hospital. There's some areas where they've been not so helpful, and I've told me team I think I'm honestly beyond help this time, but they have been genuinely helpful over many years all across the country.

 

[prettyclam]

Talking does nothing to me anymore, and meds neither.

Same its rough out here

I am also in an abusive environment and I realized that all of the therapy in the world is not going to help me while I am here. I can be given all of the "coping mechanisms" in the world but if I am being proverbially punched in the face every day, there is no way I can cope with that.

Therapy works great for a lot of people and that is fine but it does not work for everyone in every situation and people need to realize that.

You worded it perfectly!! My therapists always suggest deep breathing, going outside, learning a new hobby or whatever, but that's not gonna change the fact that when the session ends I gotta return to an abusive home I wish there was a way out of this

 

[MapleS]

It helps if you have type suitable for you. Like "What we can do about your abusive environment. How you can cope with it and how you can get out of here" therapy is good.

Some people need to get through their trauma, some need coping skills, some need to talk to somebody, some need to understand they are not broken but need help, some need help managing their problems/disabilities... (list goes on)

 

[jbdCkFqV]

people immediately suggest therapy

It irritates me when people say "go to therapy" like it's some kind of instant magic that I've never heard of.

 

[22yearsbroken]

The only think that therapy has ever helped me... is what it helped me do and that waste a shit ton of my time, helped me empty my wallet and bank and moat of it helped me to become even more frustrated and even more worse off mentally by dragging up memories id spent years burying deep down within...

 

[starboy2k]

Trauma is free, but healing from it costs. Yea its a scam.

 

[The Unanswered Q]

Therapy only works if the problem is in your head, so it only works if you're delusional.

 

[Carrot]

I don't know where you guys find these therapists, mine seemed pretty good. I'm still not a fan of it, there is some good about it.

They give me some conditions that I need to fulfill (reasonable, verifiable things that I can do), are willing to work with me, but they need to know that I am serious about it as well. It's not about going somewhere every week to vent. It can add people who care about you to your life, although this is different from family/friends/partners. I think it could work, I did feel better, but some bad real life events were stronger. Also medications (not therapist part, but you need to go to some psychiatrist at the same time). Bonus points if your therapist knows/works together with the psychiatrist.

Therapy is weird. The results are not tangible compared to some surgery.