how do you make friends as an adult?

[themisfell]

I don't know. I feel like a retard. For the longest time, I've basically had no friends I regularly talk to and it drives me crazy. My previous friends who I used to be super close to are from a hobby I'm not really into anymore, and I don't know how to make new ones. I have friends, but they're all people I've known for a really long time and we rarely talk and it's awkward because our interests have diverged a lot. and in the case of one of my main interests (online gaming), I actually find it really hard to make friends due to getting both stressed out with social interaction and with how loud/aggressive people who play competitive games online can be. I know this sounds so fucking pathetic, but does anyone have any suggestions for making friends as an adult?

 

[EternalShore]

I was going to say, wow, I'm so sorry, same~ >_< but geez... From what you say in your actual post, you actually have friends, just that they no longer do the same stuff as you~ >_< If it's possible, why don't you try to invite your old friends into your new hobbies~? :) perhaps, try to find something that they might like about it and highlight that aspect~ :)

 

[darksouls]

I don't know. I feel like a retard. For the longest time, I've basically had no friends I regularly talk to and it drives me crazy. My previous friends who I used to be super close to are from a hobby I'm not really into anymore, and I don't know how to make new ones. I have friends, but they're all people I've known for a really long time and we rarely talk and it's awkward because our interests have diverged a lot. and in the case of one of my main interests (online gaming), I actually find it really hard to make friends due to getting both stressed out with social interaction and with how loud/aggressive people who play competitive games online can be. I know this sounds so fucking pathetic, but does anyone have any suggestions for making friends as an adult?

if I were not so disabled I would adopt a dog from the animal shelter

 

[sdnlidnc]

How about switching to some less competitive multiplayer games?

 

[themisfell]

How about switching to some less competitive multiplayer games?

do you have any suggestions?

 

[Trazyn]

What type of games do you enjoy? That might make it easier for people to narrow it down and give you some suggestions.

 

[MapleS]

in my country there are special interest groups for adults. you can also go to charity... idk really

 

[imtiredasf]

Yeah, man, I feel it. I went through a partial hospitalization program somewhat recently and every single time someone said "Yeah, I've got this that for support," whatever, it pissed me off and made me a little jealous. My "friends" have mostly fucked off to hang out with shittier people and I won't come with, so I'm out of friends myself.

It's hard to make new friends if you don't go out and drink like a fish or act like an asshole at some club, it seems, so I've resorted to online communication to fill that Sims-esq social meter. Try Webfishing or an MMO like City of Heroes or something! Something you can go at your own pace, interact with chat if you want to, and vibe with people who hopefully vibe back.

 

[bankai]

It's very difficult. I am jaded now. I used to be quite different in my childhood. that time i would make friends without thinking twice. Now ive become more suspicious more reluctant.

 

[sdnlidnc]

do you have any suggestions?

Card games, party games? Tavern Brawl of Hearthstone? I don't play many games.

 

[whatishope]

How about switching to some less competitive multiplayer games?

This is a good point. Competitive games are by their nature very competitive (duh) so the people playing them will ofc be highly competitive. In this environment, skill is all that matters, so it's about the worst place to make friends. In general, where there is competition friendship is hardly found. It's why people never make friends at work in highly competitive industries.

If you want to make friends, for gaming, look for cooperative games. I remember I managed to make online friends in MMO's pretty easily.

Best way to make friends as adults is to go out to social events. In my city, a bunch of places are organising regular board game nights. These regular events also have regulars.

 

[FoxSauce]

Well could be video games and interest but tbh I dunno..

People can just use you for personal gain but when you find this put is too little to late.

 

[SchizoGymnast]

Ouch, I feel the struggle. I have some pointers tho. I'll fill you in after work.

 

[SchizoGymnast]

Take a class. Either something that you're good at, or something that you've always wanted to try. Let's take drawing. If you're good at drawing, you can offer advice and compliment other people's work. If you're not good at it, make something and share it with someone and ask their input. There's no money back guarantee on this advice, but it works like a charm for me.