Venting how do some people kill themselves so easily and randomly

[deepdarkgills]

I have heard too many stories of people just killing themselves, it always sounds like they just did it with 0 problems. I dont understand how CTB feels so fucking impossible and for others it just happens like snapping your fingers. I want to kill myself, I have wanted to for a very long time but never successfully did it and its starting to annoy the fuck out of me why im still here

sometimes they just happen to have a easy access gun

 

[EmptyBottle]

I have heard too many stories of people just killing themselves, it always sounds like they just did it with 0 problems. I dont understand how CTB feels so fucking impossible and for others it just happens like snapping your fingers. I want to kill myself, I have wanted to for a very long time but never successfully did it and its starting to annoy the fuck out of me why im still here

they could have attempted before, failed, and then hit the death jackpot

 

[Linda]

I have heard too many stories of people just killing themselves, it always sounds like they just did it with 0 problems. I dont understand how CTB feels so fucking impossible and for others it just happens like snapping your fingers. I want to kill myself, I have wanted to for a very long time but never successfully did it and its starting to annoy the fuck out of me why im still here

What appears "easy" to you may actually be the result of thorough and careful planning.

 

[NonEssential]

The method and situation are also an important factor. It would make more sense for someone to just have the final straw snap and shoot themselves with a nearby gun than to go and hang themselves.

 

[BlooBerryBanjo3000]

I believe for some it's because they don't over think it. They don't let themselves get bogged down in details. I completely understand the desire to troubleshoot possible problems but I also think it can mess with your mind if you allow yourself to dwell on all the things that could go wrong. I believe sometimes it's just better to make that jump, pull that trigger etc... and not over think.

Being an over thinker is a curse. I always overthink things and wish my mind would shut up majority of the time.

 

[Renato]

I laugh when I see posts of people saying, "it's nice to know I can ctb anytime I need to." As if it's that easy.

I think it depends on what you mean by that: a few days ago I received my rope and what I'm doing is practicing a little bit every day. The purpose is just to get acquainted with the method (I'm practicing partial but when the time will come it will be full). I'm taking it slowly but the goal is that in a few months I will be able to perform a full hanging in just a few minutes: the idea is that if you have indulged in that kind of stuff for enough time, SI won't kick in when the actual moment comes. So it should be just a matter of waiting for the next crisis and I should be done. For me that's the meaning of "it's nice to know I can ctb anytime I need to".

 

[usernamesarehard]

I have heard too many stories of people just killing themselves, it always sounds like they just did it with 0 problems. I dont understand how CTB feels so fucking impossible and for others it just happens like snapping your fingers. I want to kill myself, I have wanted to for a very long time but never successfully did it and its starting to annoy the fuck out of me why im still here

They're ready to go. A lot of people aren't. I think that's partly why some of us are here.

Also I don't think anyone commits randomly. It may seem that way to outsiders or people who weren't listening when the dead person said they were close to the edge. But I think 99% of the time if someone commits they were thinking about it for a long time. The other 1% is kids. Kids usually commit because of bullying or fear of being an adult. I don't think the majority of kids have the ability to really assess if suicide is a good option to deal with whatever problem they have.

 

[karakoltriste]

They're ready to go. A lot of people aren't. I think that's partly why some of us are here.

Also I don't think anyone commits randomly. It may seem that way to outsiders or people who weren't listening when the dead person said they were close to the edge. But I think 99% of the time if someone commits they were thinking about it for a long time. The other 1% is kids. Kids usually commit because of bullying or fear of being an adult. I don't think the majority of kids have the ability to really assess if suicide is a good option to deal with whatever problem they have.

Idk, friend committed suicide after breaking up with his first girlfriend and the relationship did not last long. He jumped on a train. I think it was impulsive and unprepared...

 

[thereisnoneed]

I have heard too many stories of people just killing themselves, it always sounds like they just did it with 0 problems. I dont understand how CTB feels so fucking impossible and for others it just happens like snapping your fingers. I want to kill myself, I have wanted to for a very long time but never successfully did it and its starting to annoy the fuck out of me why im still here

YES, it's crazy how 11 years olds do it but adults can't

 

[dearlydeparted44]

They're ready to go. A lot of people aren't. I think that's partly why some of us are here.

Also I don't think anyone commits randomly. It may seem that way to outsiders or people who weren't listening when the dead person said they were close to the edge. But I think 99% of the time if someone commits they were thinking about it for a long time. The other 1% is kids. Kids usually commit because of bullying or fear of being an adult. I don't think the majority of kids have the ability to really assess if suicide is a good option to deal with whatever problem they have.

This is one of the realest replies I've read on this site. Very honest and truthful. Great comment. Catching the bus is not something people on a whim. Most people have to plan and work up the nerve and momentum to do so. That can take years to do sometimes.

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

I went to a park and there was a place along a railway line where a young male had thrown himself in front of a train. Fuck. How can someone do that. What kind of courage people have to throw themselves in front of a train? Have you seen the wheels on a train engine?

I admired him but yes, how can someone be able to do something like this.

I know right! I just read a story about a guy who recently threw himself in front of a semi truck. Balls of steel.

 

[isthisforreal]

My view is that sometimes it is just out of some kind of massive emotional impulse or something like this. They might be in a moment where everything comes crashing down at once and their brain just shuts off any fear instinct or whatever else and they are just focused on getting out of the situation by CTB. Other times there are also the fact that we don't know what exactly they may have been feeling beforehand, often it is not as easy for them as it seems on the outside. I don't know if anybody else has any data on this but I personally feel like methods that are associated more with just instantly deciding to die are probably less common than more thought out methods. If this is actually true perhaps it can show how these aren't the norm, people deciding to CTB on an easy decided whim are an anomaly compared to people who plan things out and deliberate for a long long time.

 

[Life'sA6itch]

Zero idea how many times they attempted tbf.

100% true and this is very important as we do learn from mistakes

 

[One Day At A Time]

I've asked myself the same thing so many times: why does it seem so "easy" for some people to die, like it just takes a second, while for others — myself included — it's this long, torturous process of thinking about it without ever going through with it?

I think there are two very different mechanisms at play.

The ones who take their lives "suddenly," after a fight or a crisis, are often driven by a powerful, almost animalistic impulse. All the pain concentrates into a single moment, explodes, and the brain just shuts down. There's no room for fear or reflection — just action. It's like a blackout, and the body moves without thinking. If the circumstances allow it (no one around, access to a method, isolation), the act completes itself in seconds. That's it.

But those who've been thinking about it for years are often stuck in a kind of psychological limbo — the pain is chronic, not sharp. There's too much thinking, too much imagining, analyzing every detail. And in the middle of all that thinking, the survival system kicks in: fear, uncertainty, the sense of "maybe not today." It's like walking with the handbrake on. The mind says one thing, the body says another. And you end up frozen, exhausted, pissed off at yourself for not even being able to "do this right."

So no, it's not that others are braver. Sometimes the impulse just wins. But in the stillness, there's a paradox: that part of you keeping you stuck might also be the part that — in some other version of reality — still wants to live, or at least wants something to change.

I'm not saying this to be poetic. I'm saying it because if you're still here, even if you're angry and tired, maybe there's still something inside you that hasn't fully given up yet. And maybe, just maybe, it's worth listening to that before shutting it out completely.

I've asked myself the same thing so many times: why does it seem so "easy" for some people to die, like it just takes a second, while for others — myself included — it's this long, torturous process of thinking about it without ever going through with it?

I think there are two very different mechanisms at play.

The ones who take their lives "suddenly," after a fight or a crisis, are often driven by a powerful, almost animalistic impulse. All the pain concentrates into a single moment, explodes, and the brain just shuts down. There's no room for fear or reflection — just action. It's like a blackout, and the body moves without thinking. If the circumstances allow it (no one around, access to a method, isolation), the act completes itself in seconds. That's it.

But those who've been thinking about it for years are often stuck in a kind of psychological limbo — the pain is chronic, not sharp. There's too much thinking, too much imagining, analyzing every detail. And in the middle of all that thinking, the survival system kicks in: fear, uncertainty, the sense of "maybe not today." It's like walking with the handbrake on. The mind says one thing, the body says another. And you end up frozen, exhausted, pissed off at yourself for not even being able to "do this right."

So no, it's not that others are braver. Sometimes the impulse just wins. But in the stillness, there's a paradox: that part of you keeping you stuck might also be the part that — in some other version of reality — still wants to live, or at least wants something to change.

I'm not saying this to be poetic. I'm saying it because if you're still here, even if you're angry and tired, maybe there's still something inside you that hasn't fully given up yet. And maybe, just maybe, it's worth listening to that before shutting it out completely.

I actually love this response. Feels well thought out and is eloquently put. I absolutely relate to what you said in your penultimate paragraph. I want out for sure but my other version of reality clings onto wanting and hoping something will change. It's the only thing that stops me frustratingly. I live in this fantasy world where I hold on to things changing but my conscious self feels its a hopeless pipe dream

I've asked myself the same thing so many times: why does it seem so "easy" for some people to die, like it just takes a second, while for others — myself included — it's this long, torturous process of thinking about it without ever going through with it?

I think there are two very different mechanisms at play.

The ones who take their lives "suddenly," after a fight or a crisis, are often driven by a powerful, almost animalistic impulse. All the pain concentrates into a single moment, explodes, and the brain just shuts down. There's no room for fear or reflection — just action. It's like a blackout, and the body moves without thinking. If the circumstances allow it (no one around, access to a method, isolation), the act completes itself in seconds. That's it.

But those who've been thinking about it for years are often stuck in a kind of psychological limbo — the pain is chronic, not sharp. There's too much thinking, too much imagining, analyzing every detail. And in the middle of all that thinking, the survival system kicks in: fear, uncertainty, the sense of "maybe not today." It's like walking with the handbrake on. The mind says one thing, the body says another. And you end up frozen, exhausted, pissed off at yourself for not even being able to "do this right."

So no, it's not that others are braver. Sometimes the impulse just wins. But in the stillness, there's a paradox: that part of you keeping you stuck might also be the part that — in some other version of reality — still wants to live, or at least wants something to change.

I'm not saying this to be poetic. I'm saying it because if you're still here, even if you're angry and tired, maybe there's still something inside you that hasn't fully given up yet. And maybe, just maybe, it's worth listening to that before shutting it out completely.

I actually love this response. Feels well thought out and is eloquently put. I absolutely relate to what you said in your penultimate paragraph. I want out for sure but my other version of reality clings onto wanting and hoping something will change. It's the only thing that stops me frustratingly. I live in this fantasy world where I hold on to things changing but my conscious self feels its a hopeless pipe dream