Venting How do I stop feeling so guilty?

[normalgirl]

I'm ready to leave and I have a plan already, but I know how much pain my mom will be in and I feel an overwhelming amount of guilt and selfishness.
I have no idea how to make this guilt go away

 

[Baron]

It's alright so be selfish. I believe everyone should have the right to live or die how the want. Maybe write a letter to her, explaining your situation, that might help with the guilt. In the end there's nothing you can do about it, a mother will always be sad when her child kills themself's. You have to be strong minded and overcome that feeling to finally end it.

 

[Jolene79]

If you can't tolerate anymore and are determined then could you write a letter. I think parents will always blame themselves. If your mum is not abusive and not the reason then maybe explain that as lovingly as you can - that there was nothing she could have done to change your mind

 

[DreadDuck]

I'm ready to leave and I have a plan already, but I know how much pain my mom will be in and I feel an overwhelming amount of guilt and selfishness.
I have no idea how to make this guilt go away

Well if you feel guilty maybe theres still a reason to stay? Other than that you just have to forget about it and do it ig.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Suicide is inherently selfish and it needs to be. It's about the needs of oneself over the needs of others. I think for someone to get to the point of actually carrying out suicide, and not just contemplating it, one's own pain has to become so unbearable and overwhelming, that the pain that person's suicide might cause to others pales in comparison. I think you just reach a point where you just don't care what it *might* do to others and you become cognizant of the fact that they'll get over it, or, at least, move on with their own lives, in time, after you're gone. Remember, most people aren't suicidal, so the will to live and move on will eventually take over again for them.

 

[aGoodDayToDie]

Talk to her about it, get it in the open, face it head on.

 

[MrDarkness]

Death will always bring sadness you can't avoid it, it sucks that your love ones will be in pain, but it can't be avoided

 

[FuneralCry]

The true selfish thing would be expecting someone to stay here and suffer against their wishes, we all have our right to die and it's a personal decision deciding when to leave. And the reality is that we all have to die someday, loss is inevitable and death is the most normal thing, so it's up to the individual deciding when that is, I bet that eventually most of us won't even exist in the memories of those who continue to stay here.

 

[Nista]

Talk to her about it, get it in the open, face it head on.

That might be hard, cause then her loved ones will try to stop her. Or at least, that's the most probable case. And how could you tell that straight to your mother's face? Nah, it's too harsh.

 

[aGoodDayToDie]

That might be hard, cause then her loved ones will try to stop her. Or at least, that's the most probable case. And how could you tell that straight to your mother's face? Nah, it's too harsh.

I did it. It helped massively. Eventually after a number of discussions I didn't feel bad about leaving my parents behind. They tried to help, it didn't help, but at least I gave them a chance. This sort of thing shouldn't be rushed. Why rush something so important? Be rational about suicide, don't let what people say about it implying bad mental health and lack of rational thinking be true

 

[normalgirl]

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I did it. It helped massively. Eventually after a number of discussions I didn't feel bad about leaving my parents behind. They tried to help, it didn't help, but at least I gave them a chance. This sort of thing shouldn't be rushed. Why rush something so important? Be rational about suicide, don't let what people say about it implying bad mental health and lack of rational thinking be true

cant lol. my mom knows ab my suicidal past she would just send me to a mental hospital again

 

[aGoodDayToDie]

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cant lol. my mom knows ab my suicidal past she would just send me to a mental hospital again

Don't tell her you're actively suicidal, just tell her that you hope to do it in the future. They won't section you unless you are clearly currently a risk to yourself. Talk to her about it in more hypothetical terms. If anyone asks you if you have immediate plans to kill yourself the answer is very simple. Say no. Its all they need to know to not section you.

 

[dory]

maybe write a letter telling her not to be sad and it isn't her fault but other than that there's nothing you can do, death is sad, and you can't always change the outcome