Help How do I deal with severe emotional disconnect and make some true irl friendships?

[BecomingTired]

Friendships that aren't on the premise of using me in some way.

 

[lemonbunny]

honestly i dont have much advice but every irl friendship i've had has been just that - using me, either as a backup friend or a stepping point to get somewhere better. i think the reality (at least for my age group) is that if you don't bring something to the table its hard to get people interested in forming connections.

 

[ChronicPainExistent]

Some thoughts on finding genuine friendships:

• Think about what you are genuinely passionate about, and go out there and do those things. There's a good chance you'll meet a lot of like-minded people just by doing that, regardless of whatever you're passionate about.
• Try to put yourself out there as much as you can. Make small talk with people wherever you may be, find things that you have in common with them, and perhaps at the right time, throw in a "Hey, I'd love to maybe go on a walk or get coffee with you sometime. What do you think?"