Discussion how did you react to failed tests?

[overmorrow]

in school, uni, whatever, everytime you had a test, or exam, and you failed it, what was your reaction?

did you get upset over it? not care? be mad?

me, personally, I'd feel even more suicidal for the rest of the day, i used to use that as an excuse to fuel my self harming, i was mad at myself for being so ignorant and airhead, so i just punished myself, if it makes sense

 

[Forever Sleep]

It really upsets me. Criticism too. I try not to take it personally. I try to be constructive about it and what I can learn from it but, it still hurts.

That's partly why I prefer to work alone. I hate making mistakes in front of other people. I just want the earth to swallow me up when it happens. I'll tend to fixate on it so much too that I'll then go on to make more mistakes.

 

[overmorrow]

It really upsets me. Criticism too. I try not to take it personally. I try to be constructive about it and what I can learn from it but, it still hurts.

That's partly why I prefer to work alone. I hate making mistakes in front of other people. I just want the earth to swallow me up when it happens. I'll tend to fixate on it so much too that I'll then go on to make more mistakes.

heavy on the criticism part, sometimes i get my heart broken, i swear I'm not soft but somehow it always gets me, xd

 

[Forever Sleep]

heavy on the criticism part, sometimes i get my heart broken, i swear I'm not soft but somehow it always gets me, xd

I remember watching an interview with a (brilliant) actor who said she tried to avoid reviews. That she felt like she had one layer less of skin than anyone else to be able to cope with criticism. That really resonated. I try to be brave and just take it but the truth is- it gets to me.

That's got to be an awkward combination for some. To do a job that is very on show- like acting. But, also be vulnerable to criticism.

The even more tricky one is personality types that overcompensate. There was someone in one of my classes that was often bigging themselves up. That tended to paint a target on themselves for others- including teachers- to take them down a peg or two. I think to an extent, it was mainly bravado though so- that criticism must have really cut.

 

[soulchaser_]

honestly I never really minded criticism, it just depends on how the other person words it to me, I guess.

when I used to go to high school, I used to have tests everyday (well that's because the school system in my country is very tragic). my whole class used to cheat. and the history teacher used to only frame me for cheating, somehow, like actually. She sometimes used to stand over me during the test, all while everyone else was cheating off their phones
she used to make fun of me in front of the entire class once she'd catch me, 'friends' used to look at me and giggle because supposedly my situation is only worth laughing at.

let's be real, the teacher just should've failed my test each time and maybe made sure to speak to me after class, but that's it. unfortunately she wasn't like that and I used to be a very fragile person.
one day after she was exceptionally rude while failing me, I went home in less than 10 minutes, all stressed, and instantly overdosed. it obviously didn't kill me though, just almost fainted,,

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

Analysis why did I fail, change my way to prepare or quit with the complete subject and than try again or something completly new.

 

[Irisse]

Badly. I was pressured a lot by my parents to be successful academically and got beaten and yelled at for bad grades. Later on they became more lax with it but I was always worrying for my future and remained focused on grades. I was a straight A student for the most part in primary and high school, now at Uni I don't care, I just want to pass. I would straight up throw tantrums in high school over it, it was so embarrassing. If I could turn back time I wouldn't worry so much.