Discussion How did you quit therapy?

[SosoruzeDosukoi]

Tomorrow is my last day of therapy, and I am curious about how others ended it. At the end of my session last week, I told my therapist that I wanted to take an extended break from therapy, and I wanted to talk about it next time. Doing some cursory googling on the topic, people (therapists) who have input on it said it's good to have a last session to discuss plans moving forward without therapy. All of it seemed to be in relation to reaching the objective the patient went to therapy for in the first place, so I don't think it really applies to me.
I don't dislike my therapist - she's very nice and caring, and honestly, I usually feel somewhat nice after our sessions, but I don't see a point in doing it anymore. After 6 years of it, I don't feel like I'm doing any better than when I started. I don't feel like I can talk to her about the reason why I started in the first place, which is my suicidal ideation, due to her increasingly asking me if she needs to make me go to the hospital. I've told her before in my eyes unless I go out of my own volition, the psych ward is not an option, and she knows I really hate the psych ward. She's never had me hospitalized, only encouraged me to make the decision to go in the past. If I can't talk to her about the main reason why I'm seeing her nor do I feel like I am getting better or even want to, I don't see a reason to see her anymore. I don't want to go to our session tomorrow, and kind of want to just tell her I'm stopping altogether over a text, but I feel like going is the proper way to end it.

If any of you went to therapy, how did you end it? If you had a last session, how did it go and what were some things you made sure to talk about?

 

[Symbiote]

Couldn't afford it anymore since a lot of the therapists around here stopped taking insurance.

 

[SosoruzeDosukoi]

Couldn't afford it anymore since a lot of the therapists around here stopped taking insurance.

I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you are able to find one that does and keeps accepting it if you want to keep going

 

[Symbiote]

I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you are able to find one that does and keeps accepting it if you want to keep going

The ones that are accepting insurance are put on a waiting list that's 6 months to a year just to get the first appointment in.

 

[western_heart]

I'm sorry that you can't be open with your therapist. I can't either. It gets harder for me to get any value from therapy, even for issues that don't have much to do with CTB. she mentioned hospitalization a few months ago and now I'm afraid of being open about anything with her.
In your situation, I'm not sure what you should talk about tomorrow.

In the past I've just stopped scheduling appointments without any final session. I will probably do this with my current therapist someday. The one time I had a last session, we talked about the next steps in my life (moving away) and what I should do for further treatment. This is also what my SO has done for her final sessions.

 

[natali4]

My therapist would yawn during sessions, didn't seem interested in asking me questions or responding to anything I told her. So I quit. I have friends who are better listeners than my therapist.

 

[SosoruzeDosukoi]

I'm sorry that you can't be open with your therapist. I can't either. It gets harder for me to get any value from therapy, even for issues that don't have much to do with CTB. she mentioned hospitalization a few months ago and now I'm afraid of being open about anything with her.

It makes it so rough, doesn't it? I stopped being open about things once she mentioned the hospital too lol. I'm pretty sure I just want to die by ctb, and it would be nice to talk to her about it, but I get why they would 'have' to hospitalize people if they're worried, so it's not a bluff I would want to call even if she said she wouldn't call the hospital.

My therapist would yawn during sessions, didn't seem interested in asking me questions or responding to anything I told her. So I quit. I have friends who are better listeners than my therapist.

Good for you for quitting that therapist, they sound so rude!

 

[Ironweed]

Seems to me you're handling this sort of thing about as well as it could be handled. I think attending the final session is a good idea, and I also think keeping quiet about any future plans related to suicide is an even better one. The former because it'll give both sides a sense of closure, the latter because, well, who wants an involuntary 72 hour hold?

I've terminated with two therapists. One, I told him it wasn't working and that I wanted to stop. He agreed with surprising alacrity and that was that. I had shitty insurance and he was having trouble getting reimbursed was one issue, and I'm just not the sort of person anyone wants to be around was very likely the second.
I was also fired as a client by a different one because I was making no progress. Had to admire his honesty.

My sense is that we as patients think we are of far more importance to therapists than we in fact are. Think about it, how many different clients does a therapist see in a week? A month? A year? The fact that your relationship with them is unique does not in any mean the feeling is mutual.

 

[Ch92921]

ehm sorry but it seems Americans dont have universal health care like we have?
Because here in Switzerland, if you go to psychiatrist its totally covered by health insurance.

 

[WaitingForTheBusInTh]

There was no long term therapy where I grew up, they all wanted your problems solved in six sessions. I renewed with one therapist but I had to "choose a new topic of therapy" and it was the same rushed job. Between that and my experience with doctors, I've given up on recovery.

 

[poisonedminds]

I got pissed off at both my psychiatrist and my therapist, so I just left after an appointment and never stepped foot in that hospital ever again. They sent me 1-2 emails and then decided not to bother any further, because I guess, who cares if she dies.

 

[Lmd]

I almost ended up in the psych ward because she messed up in the last session we had so I decided to don't go anymore.

 

[W’ren]

My therapist said a couple of questionable things and it broke my trust. I attempted ctb not long after and ended up in psych ward-
I never went back to her or spoke with her again.
She called once + left a very terse message.
That was it- that was how little she cared.

 

[Seiba]

Never went, but my online friend has had some good experiences so I might try it out later. Most likely will leave the wanting to kill myself part out unless I really want to be self indulgent or feel it's needed for my problems to be understood. In regards to your question a lot of therapist actually get ghosted and even on a forum for therapist some of them basically tell other therapist to get used to it and to close the file after a period of time. I'm not sure ghosting would be the wisest approach if the know of stuff concerning suicide however.

 

[AndromedaZ]

I just never made another appointment after my therapist sent me to the hospital. Didn't miss any appointments, didn't tell her I was done, just never went back

 

[xkonstantinexx]

I went for 2 sessions to 2 different therapists.

The first therapist didn't even bother listening to me, just kept reiterating that it's chemical imbalances and medication will address that.

The second therapist was awesome, he helped me discover and learn a lot of things about this disorder and myself. Unfortunately, insurance doesn't cover this treatment and I can't afford him.

 

[Sinai Silence]

I got kicked out of my local gp which included my therapist. So they stopped seeing me and recommended me someone else. They sucked so haven't seen one since. I registered to my local gp to try give it another shot since I've recently moved, a whole month and still no response.