How can I write a suicide note?

[Leopard2023]

I need a template. I'm not sure how to get started.

 

[g0ne1nthew1nd]

Dear X,

Thank you for ___, ___, and ____. I'm sorry for ___. I need to die because ____. I wish whoever finds this and me peace and I am sorry u had to see me in this state. (if u feel that way)

Goodbye/Goodnight/Nya Pokka,

Ur name



obv not like perfect format but how I wrote mine. Add anything extra that you want.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

As someone who has been the recipient of a "bad" suicide note, please just avoid placing blame. Even if there is that one person who has driven you to this, it's an awful burden to be left with. The template above seems good. Talk about the good times with that person, leave them with happy memories, something joyful. It's something worth putting a lot of thought into.

 

[Leopard2023]

As someone who has been the recipient of a "bad" suicide note, please just avoid placing blame. Even if there is that one person who has driven you to this, it's an awful burden to be left with. The template above seems good. Talk about the good times with that person, leave them with happy memories, something joyful. It's something worth putting a lot of thought into.

Is it ok to say the reasons why you wanted to ctb without placing blame?

Dear X,

Thank you for ___, ___, and ____. I'm sorry for ___. I need to die because ____. I wish whoever finds this and me peace and I am sorry u had to see me in this state. (if u feel that way)

Goodbye/Goodnight/Nya Pokka,

Ur name



obv not like perfect format but how I wrote mine. Add anything extra that you want.

Thanks for the format

 

[Peace2peace]

I need a template. I'm not sure how to get started.

Just express your self and the reason for ctb there is no standard format say all what's in your mind cause u may not get the chance again

 

[Sbetto]

My letter consists of 11 pages in A4 format, written on a computer. It is divided into 13 chapters, each dedicated to a particular person or a state of mind I experienced.
After the chapters, I added three sections: the afterword, the epilogue, and a final note, where I express my thoughts on life, death, and how all of this makes me feel.
Finally, I wrote a section dedicated to acknowledgments and a short list of wishes that I would like to be respected as my final will.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

Is it ok to say the reasons why you wanted to ctb without placing blame?

I would think so. I plan on giving reasons in my note, although mine are pretty obvious to those close to me. The biggest question left behind is "why?" It's a cliché, but it's true. Taking steps to answer that in a compassionate way could help those we leave behind. As mentioned, my only experience is getting a note which blames me, so I can't say how much my ideas would really help our loved ones, but anything is better than that.

 

[Peace2peace]

Most people that have lost someone to suicide always wanna know the big question which is why? If u are writing anymore its always important to let them know your reasons so as to avoid guilt or blame shifting although not everyone leaves a suicide note best reason know to them

 

[cme-dme]

I mean...is there really a correct way to write a suicide note? Just write whatever you're feeling or write what you think people would want to know after your death.

 

[Reflection]

As someone who has been the recipient of a "bad" suicide note, please just avoid placing blame. Even if there is that one person who has driven you to this, it's an awful burden to be left with. The template above seems good. Talk about the good times with that person, leave them with happy memories, something joyful. It's something worth putting a lot of thought into.

To be honest I don't know how completely freeing someone from blame could be achieved in some cases without straight up lying. For example I have written a note for my former girlfriend, and while I tried to make it more like a loving farewell than anything else, it's still painfully obvious what the reason is. And she already knows since I have expressed my thoughts to her before she completely cut me off. I don't even know whether she'll care or shrug it off but the best I could do was to explicitly state that no one is to blame in the note I left for my family and friends so that she hopefully doesn't get any heat from it.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

To be honest I don't know how completely freeing someone from blame could be achieved in some cases without straight up lying. For example I have written a note for my former girlfriend, and while I tried to make it more like a loving farewell than anything else, it's still painfully obvious what the reason is. And she already knows since I have expressed my thoughts to her before she completely cut me off. I don't even know whether she'll care or shrug it off but the best I could do was to explicitly state that no one is to blame in the note I left for my family and friends so that she hopefully doesn't get any heat from it.

I agree with you there. I guess in my case it was just that there were barely 2 days between our separation and his death, so the pain goes deep. With that timeline I don't think I'll ever recover, CTB or not. Maybe if it had happened a few months down the line rather than essentially the following day I wouldn't feel quite as guilt-ridden as I do now, but I'd certainly still be lumbered with blame.

It's a tricky one, for sure. Even if we don't 'blame' someone, we can't stop them from making assumptions, deciding for themselves why things happened the way they did.

 

[frommolecules2stars]

My letter consists of 11 pages in A4 format, written on a computer. It is divided into 13 chapters, each dedicated to a particular person or a state of mind I experienced.
After the chapters, I added three sections: the afterword, the epilogue, and a final note, where I express my thoughts on life, death, and how all of this makes me feel.
Finally, I wrote a section dedicated to acknowledgments and a short list of wishes that I would like to be respected as my final will.

This is how I think I will write mine. Problem is I feel like I might get too emotional attempting to write something so long like that. I want to leave my opinions and thoughts behind so the people I leave behind can understand, but I have a feeling even if do write pages upon pages they won't.

 

[MercenariesofMidgar]

I would avoid blaming people if you care about them, and reiterating that it's not their fault, and that they should continue on living and that your sorry that you're going to hurt them in this way

 

[DeathSleep]

I think I'm starting mine with "If you're reading this then...".

In my note I'm not even going to state my reasons. I'm just going to give a short practical note on some final things to do like informing my boss that I won't be coming in anymore so that they can cover my shifts. Also, who I'd like a couple possessions to go to.

Those who actually know me would know my reasons if they think about it. For those who don't know me, they will no doubt think whatever they want anyways no matter what I say.

Best of luck. It's a very personal thing and ultimately only you can decide what should be written and what should be left out.

 

[etchings]

My letter consists of 11 pages in A4 format, written on a computer. It is divided into 13 chapters, each dedicated to a particular person or a state of mind I experienced.
After the chapters, I added three sections: the afterword, the epilogue, and a final note, where I express my thoughts on life, death, and how all of this makes me feel.
Finally, I wrote a section dedicated to acknowledgments and a short list of wishes that I would like to be respected as my final will.

This is beautiful. OP can take a lot away from this.

 

[dontwakemeup]

Maybe an audio or video diary maybe a great option for you. You can record separate videos to each person. I personally wouldn't write a note because I've said everything already. Suicide notes are made for 2 reasons: 1. You're angry and felt unheard and this is your last opportunity to tell everyone that. 2. You want your loved ones to feel comfortable in your death, and you try to give them peace and comfort once you're gone.
So what are you really trying to say? Maybe we can start there.