Hiring a death doula to help me VSED

[dust-in-the-wind]

I know a couple of people who died via VSED but you can't do it alone. I have hired a death doula to help me get my affairs in order and she will 'try' to coordinate with hospice to help me have a comfortable death. Fingers crossed. My depression in unbearable.

 

[Firefly.Forest]

@dust-in-the-wind .... The death doula sounds like an excellent option and hopefully hospice will be able to assist.

May you find the peace you seek and a release from your suffering.

 

[Nightfoot]

I've read that you need to have a terminal illness with expected death within six months to qualify for hospice care. Is your depression a qualifying illness? If so, I may check into that myself.

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

I've read that you need to have a terminal illness with expected death within six months to qualify for hospice care. Is your depression a qualifying illness? If so, I may check into that myself.

I'm told if I lose 10% of my body weight in a short period of time and keep refusing to eat and keep losing weight, I would be considered terminal. It still remains to be seen if hospice will take me on. But I have at least have to try. Maybe even set a precedent for other mentally ill.

 

[TBONTB]

I know a couple of people who died via VSED but you can't do it alone. I have hired a death doula to help me get my affairs in order and she will 'try' to coordinate with hospice to help me have a comfortable death. Fingers crossed. My depression in unbearable.

Good luck to you. I've heard you share about your tough situation and feel for you. I hope you find a path forward.

 

[madameviolette]

isn't it super painful ? Would they give you pain meds ?

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

isn't it super painful ? Would they give you pain meds ?

I couldn't find one in my area to help.it can be uncomfortable they say and you need hospice at a certain point.

 

[madameviolette]

I couldn't find one in my area to help.it can be uncomfortable they say and you need hospice at a certain point.

I think you'd die from heart failure

 

[X-sanguinate86]

I hope you can qualify and get a doula.

 

[copioushopelessness]

How do you find a death doula?

 

[Raindancer]

I've considered this option, but got very sick about a month or so ago and did not eat or drink anything, not even water for 3 days and holy cow was it miserable. I've gone maybe 2 days before thinking it wasn't too bad, but this time it was actually painful. I thought if I had committed to my decision I could potentially actually do this one, but now I don't think so, at least not alone. It really surprised me how painful it was.

I am sorry you were not able to find anyone, could you look a little further away, they may be willing to travel. I would think that traveling might be routine as not sure there are a whole lot of death dulas. I wonder if some would choose not to participate in a CTB situation, especially being fearful of being charged.it does sound nice though, having someone there to support you through that.