He broke up with me

[cactusflower]

Why do I even care? It was a short time but the sting of rejection after having been vulnerable (revealing suicidality, clinginess, neediness, etc) hurts so bad.

 

[Griever]

 

[StupidCat]

You shouldn't hook up with anyone when you are feeling all of that

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Some people are just not ready for us. We have to stay truthful to those we love. Maybe your old partner also did the same. What if he stood with you, saying everything was fine when it wasn't?

i'm not saying you're the guilty one. In fact I think that would be the best outcome. I had someone lie to me everything was alright, and I was delighted, but after a week they revealed everything was a farce. I went to the psych ward after some weeks.

It's okay to not be compatible with other people. Keep looking, and always look after yourself first.

 

[cactusflower]

You shouldn't hook up with anyone when you are feeling all of that

You're right. I wish I couldn't feel at all. What a load of shit. This world is not meant to exist in while feeling the way I do

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

You're right. I wish I couldn't feel at all. What a load of shit. This world is not meant to exist in while feeling the way I do

It's alright, we don't choose what we feel. Don't think it as a mistake.

 

[bankai]

No one in real life can understand those feelings. Except very, very few.Even this site doesn't have a large amount of people. I keep seeing the same people posting over and over again mostly, so you have to realize that Maybe one in 30,50people or something like that can really relate to you in real life.

Most people will just think that you're crazy and not want to deal with you. Also, it seems like it was a short relationship. Next time, please spend a longer time and see if they're deserving of your trust. It shouldn't be given lightly.

 

[cactusflower]

Some people are just not ready for us. We have to stay truthful to those we love. Maybe your old partner also did the same. What if he stood with you, saying everything was fine when it wasn't?

i'm not saying you're the guilty one. In fact I think that would be the best outcome. I had someone lie to me everything was alright, and I was delighted, but after a week they revealed everything was a farce. I went to the psych ward after some weeks.

It's okay to not be compatible with other people. Keep looking, and always look after yourself first.

I feel like I'm chasing a kind of love that will never come to fruition because both of my parents are now gone and what more am I to do. Why did they leave me here just to suffer through all these people who will never amount to the love I had? And am I selfish and wrong for thinking this way, is this even a valid reason to ctb... So weird

No one in real life can understand those feelings. Except very, very few.Even this site doesn't have a large amount of people. I keep seeing the same people posting over and over again mostly, so you have to realize that Maybe one in 30 people or something like that can really relate to you in real life.

Most people will just think that you're crazy and not want to deal with you. Also, it seems like it was a short relationship. Next time, please spend a longer time and see if they're deserving of your trust. It shouldn't be given lightly.

I guess but they were okay with it and supportive at first and then suddenly, like a switch, it was just over and couldn't handle much more. I feel I'm better off guarding myself for the rest of my life (which I'm now hoping will be incredibly short lived)

No one in real life can understand those feelings. Except very, very few.Even this site doesn't have a large amount of people. I keep seeing the same people posting over and over again mostly, so you have to realize that Maybe one in 30 people or something like that can really relate to you in real life.

Most people will just think that you're crazy and not want to deal with you. Also, it seems like it was a short relationship. Next time, please spend a longer time and see if they're deserving of your trust. It shouldn't be given lightly.

I guess but they were okay with it and supportive at first and then suddenly, like a switch, it was just over and couldn't handle much more. I feel I'm better off guarding myself for the rest of my life (which I'm now hoping will be incredibly short lived)

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

I feel like I'm chasing a kind of love that will never come to fruition because both of my parents are now gone and what more am I to do. Why did they leave me here just to suffer through all these people who will never amount to the love I had? And am I selfish and wrong for thinking this way, is this even a valid reason to ctb... So weird

I guess but they were okay with it and supportive at first and then suddenly, like a switch, it was just over and couldn't handle much more. I feel I'm better off guarding myself for the rest of my life (which I'm now hoping will be incredibly short lived)

I guess but they were okay with it and supportive at first and then suddenly, like a switch, it was just over and couldn't handle much more. I feel I'm better off guarding myself for the rest of my life (which I'm now hoping will be incredibly short lived)

Oh I so much relate. That idealization that you so much desperately need but isn't really going to happen. I do feel sad for that, but I've learned to separate my real word from my fantasy world, and when I feel alone, there is always those who love me inside my world.

In the end, the real world just isn't conducive to fantasies, and projecting them into reality is bound to disappoint. I wanted to be able to help you more cause I really relate to the feeling of impossible amount of love and attention wanted. I hope you get better ok? *Bear hugs*

 

[bankai]

I guess but they were okay with it and supportive at first and then suddenly, like a switch, it was just over and couldn't handle much more. I feel I'm better off guarding myself for the rest of my life (which I'm now hoping will

There's nothing in the real world that we can control. Nothing. Other people will do what they feel they need to. If you invest too much of your hopes, aspirations, emotions into another person. Well, next week they're just going to tell you they found someone else and move on.I know that's not what you want to hear, but that's the truth. The best you can do is try to keep finding someone better. But that's going to be really, really hard since 90% of the people will be like this or even worse. But eventually you will find someone if you're willing to endure all of that.It's mostly a numbers game.

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

There's nothing in the real world that we can control. Nothing. Other people will do what they feel they need to. If you invest too much of your hopes, aspirations, emotions into another person. Well, next week they're just going to tell you they found someone else and move on.I know that's not what you want to hear, but that's the truth. The best you can do is try to keep finding someone better. But that's going to be really, really hard since 90% of the people will be like this or even worse. But eventually you will find someone if you're willing to endure all of that.It's mostly a numbers game.

My guess is that the partner genuinely wanted to be supportive but they couldn't handle it, not that they found somebody else, but it is a theory

 

[cactusflower]

Horrible

 

[Dejected 55]

Not everyone is going to be able to understand or even handle when you are completely vulnerable and especially when you share deep personal pain. I think that is okay. We are human, we are frail and flawed.

But I don't think I'm being too harsh when I say that someone who breaks up with you immediately after that, or even reasonably soon after that, is someone you are better off without. I'm not even saying they are evil or bad... just that if they can't handle it and at least try to be there for whatever support you need, then they aren't who you need in your life.

Maybe a relationship where you are always depressed and it is a constant struggle eventually becomes too difficult for them to handle at all, and I get that. There could come a point where they have to pull away because they know they can't give you what you need and your struggles are weighing on them. I think that is understandable at some point too. I don't know what the ticking clock says that timeframe should be, though. It varies with your struggle and their limited capability to handle things.

I have to speak largely hypothetical, since I've never been in a relationship to have it come up for someone to break up with me. That's its own set of sadness knowing I can't even be vulnerable to someone and even have them run away because they aren't there in the first place.

Anyway, I imagine it feels horrible to be abandoned or rejected when you are already in pain for something else.