Having 0 messages in my phone sickens me

[BabyYoda]

No, not on this site. On my personal accounts yes.

Especially during this social isolation.

 

[Sensei]

I'm sad to hear that. Have you tried contacting someone yourself? Sometimes everyone thinks the same thing: "Nah, I don't want to contact them. They'll contact me."

 

[BabyYoda]

I'm sad to hear that. Have you tried contacting someone yourself? Sometimes everyone thinks the same thing: "Nah, I don't want to contact them. They'll contact me."

I did. In fact 95% of the time I am the first to contact them. After that they stop.

 

[Sensei]

I did. In fact 95% of the time I am the first to contact them. After that they stop.

That's tough. What do you usually write when you contact someone?

 

[DyslexicForeigner]

For years and years, I've gotten used to seeing null notification on my social media apps, except this site (if it counts as social media lol!)

 

[Deleted member 1465]

No, not on this site. On my personal accounts yes.

Especially during this social isolation.

I'm the same. Even my sister is mostly incommunicado. It's sad. I've nearly always been the one to reach out to people and keep communication open, but now I've stopped making the effort, I get little to nothing back. At least people on here respond. SS people get it and make the effort for others. I love that.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

I think everyone right now, are so far up their own arses trying to protect themselves, that personal contact with the outside world is slowing down
I never really get messages any more, unless it's someone wanting something.
Conversation is bullshit tbh!

I'm the same. Even my sister is mostly incommunicado. It's sad. I've nearly always been the one to reach out to people and keep communication open, but now I've stopped making the effort, I get little to nothing back. At least people on here respond. SS people get it and make the effort for others. I love that.

Ive recently started chatting more on PM here, as people here are nice, and don't judge, and you can chat random shit and rather then ignore, they just chat random shit back!

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I think everyone right now, are so far up their own arses trying to protect themselves, that personal contact with the outside world is slowing down

Kind of agree. It brings out people's true nature. Either they are selfish fucks who hunker down to survive and expect everyone to fit in around them, or it brings out their better nature and they make even more of an effort to overcome things. And degrees of both, in-between.

 

[BabyYoda]

That's tough. What do you usually write when you contact someone?

I try to talk to them everyday since we don't see each other in real life cause of the virus

For years and years, I've gotten used to seeing null notification on my social media apps, except this site (if it counts as social media lol!)

Unrelated but, I also happen to be an active watcher of Darkmatter2525!

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I used to get a barrage of notifications to the point of driving me utterly mad. Mostly pointless jibba jabba that didn't warrant a response.

Now I can hear the crickets again and it's actually lessened my daily stress tremendously. It's not all it's cracked up to be believe me.

If it's what you want though you just really have to put yourself out there. There's an old saying "if you throw enough shit, some of it is bound to stick."

 

[pole]

why is it always us going out of our way and checking up on people, and yet, not a single person returns the favor and checks up on us :/.

one-sided relationships suck.

 

[theguineapigking]

I'm so sorry. I used to have that happen too with any old friends. But now I don't really have to worry about that because I barely have any now.


Most people in this world seem to be selfish and ignorant. I think many people just don't give a shit. Especially when you know that these people go on social media 24/7(exaggerated haha..then again maybe not lol), yet they don't have the time to respond to texts from a friend in real life. This is all too common nowadays.




Just know it's not only you.We're here for you.

 

[Darkhaven]

Well let's see, apart from the phone and internet providers, the telepizza, some shop where i bought clothes and is having discounts, some other shop i gave my phone number to and the ocasional "Mom's" message asking me what i want for dinner or if i need her to buy me something when she goes groccery shopping i never get messages from no one for years and years on.
Got so used to it it never really bothered me.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

why is it always us going out of our way and checking up on people, and yet, not a single person returns the favor and checks up on us :/.

one-sided relationships suck.

Poss because their lifes are (until now!) perfect, and they don't wish to hear of our woes, yet wish to fill us with their happy stories, but rather then telling us and risk hearing negativity they wish to avoid, they just avoid us full stop,
Does this even make any sense?

 

[262653]

No, not on this site. On my personal accounts yes.

Especially during this social isolation.

How useful you are percieved by others, what do you think?

Someone writes first then someone wants something. Just as telepizza ans some shops want to make profit of their targets, other people hope for benefits when they write first. Initiators have the incentive. It might alleviate some bad feelings associated with loneliness when you think that other people aren't trying to benefit from you.

I thought being toxic only meant direct physical or emotional attacks towards a person, but it's now defined as not fitting in into someone's convenience

Huh, I didn't think of it this way. That makes sense. Just like mould is toxic to people but not toxic for everything and everyone.

 

[k75]

why is it always us going out of our way and checking up on people, and yet, not a single person returns the favor and checks up on us :/.

one-sided relationships suck.

I feel so bad after reading this. I'm guilty of being on the receiving end. I'm sorry.

People go out of their way to check on me, and I really don't want to ever respond. I eventually do, because I realize they are making a special effort to care, but all I really want is to be left alone. Sometimes I just reply so they don't try harder and show up at my door or something. Interacting with people I actually know takes so much energy I don't have. I put it off if I can. I'm not the first to reach out anymore, and if they didn't, maybe I'd never talk again.

It's usually harder to respond, the more I care about the person. I don't know why. I do know I don't deserve to be cared for like they do. I think this makes me an awful person.

But also, it gives me terrible anxiety. I hear a text come in, I can't look. The phone rings... panic attack. My neighbor knocks on my door to make sure I'm ok because I'm not answering texts and they haven't seen me leave my apartment in a week, I just want to hold my breath and hide forever and hope they give up.

 

[Apathy79]

It's funny I was just browsing Facebook Messenger trying to think of people who might like to hear from me atm, and I come here and see this!

I thought of a few people but couldn't think of what to say. Do you just say "Hey how are you doing?" and leave it open like that? I've never really done that before with anyone - whenever I contact people it's usually about something, same with when people contact me.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

The phone rings... panic attack.

Oh dear, me too. It's never good news. Always someone wanting something. Panic!

 

[BabyYoda]

How useful you are percieved by others, what do you think?

Someone writes first then someone wants something. Just as telepizza ans some shops want to make profit of their targets, other people hope for benefits when they write first. Initiators have the incentive. It might alleviate some bad feelings associated with loneliness when you think that other people aren't trying to benefit from you.

Uh...it depends on the person. I'm not classmates with most of the friends that I have now from school. I can't really think right now of a good answer to this but maybe I'm perceived as "fun"?

Huh, I didn't think of it this way. That makes sense. Just like mould is toxic to people but not toxic for everything and everyone.

It's actually how I perceive society's definition of "toxic" and how they people just throw it around like nothing. Personally it wouldn't mean someone venting to me all day about their problems, but it would be like direct physical/emotional attacks for the sole purpose of letting me down. If I just cut off people for no good reason it would be difficult for me considering the fact that I have very few close friends.

It's funny I was just browsing Facebook Messenger trying to think of people who might like to hear from me atm, and I come here and see this!

I thought of a few people but couldn't think of what to say. Do you just say "Hey how are you doing?" and leave it open like that? I've never really done that before with anyone - whenever I contact people it's usually about something, same with when people contact me.

Yea I do.

 

[BridgeJumper]

It doesnt bother me. I have two close friends and talking with them is enough to ignore my empty message box.
I dont like people

 

[262653]

Uh...it depends on the person. I'm not classmates with most of the friends that I have now from school. I can't really think right now of a good answer to this but maybe I'm perceived as "fun"?

I put this question because I think that the (percieved by others) usefulness is a big factor for writing messages, provided there are reliable means of communications in the first place. It can allow us to think what can we bring to the table, which can be practically anything, not necessarily what we consider to be a good thing to bring. Surely some things are in more demand than others, like looks and money. I'd wager there are people who don't know you but are already prepared to like you, the opposite is true as well.

The people I like and have talked a lot with (which are not that many) were either unpopular, shunned or hated in their social environment. All of them were met on suicide-related forums and topics.

Of course it would be better not to feel bad about social isolation, and feel content being with oneself. I have no definite solutions to this problem though. I play games, think and write about stuff, and express some of this stuff here and on other places for online discussion. I feel like communicating occasionally, so I put myself out by talking about topics I'm interested in.

 

[s1mplem3]

Basically if I have any message it's only on SS. I live alone, nobody calls me nor texts. Have no idea why do I even need this phone.

 

[Disintegration]

Please don't base your self worth on whether or not another person contacts you. This world is fucked up and most people are a mess... just because you're not getting attention from sick people doesn't mean you're not an awesome person.

 

[s1mplem3]

Please don't base your self worth on whether or not another person contacts you. This world is fucked up and most people are a mess... just because you're not getting attention from sick people doesn't mean you're not an awesome person.

You're right probably, but I'm not awesome person, I'm lonely person.

 

[Mr2005]

Our lives are so empty that we crave dopamine hits to hold back the tears. Hopeless addicts

 

[mediocre]

The only person that ever contacts me is my mum out of fear that I've hanged myself.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

I'm sad to hear that. Have you tried contacting someone yourself? Sometimes everyone thinks the same thing: "Nah, I don't want to contact them. They'll contact me."

True. I always thought that. Or, there will be time enough later. But before you know it, later is to late. Contact people who you want to contact...please..

 

[Disintegration]

You're right probably, but I'm not awesome person, I'm lonely person.

We're here for you

 

[thepolarbear]

why is it always us going out of our way and checking up on people, and yet, not a single person returns the favor and checks up on us :/.

one-sided relationships suck.

They dont view us as friends but acquaintances.

 

[moonsafari]

I did. In fact 95% of the time I am the first to contact them. After that they stop.

Ah, I've been there before. I feel like people like me who are always the first to initiate conversation must think there's something wrong with us. I might be uninteresting to people, perhaps.