Have you told anyone in the real world?

[mayflower]

It's great to be able to talk here but I'd love to be able to tell my bf my plans. Has anyone confided in someone?

 

[elizabeth.luck]

Yeah, I did. Not sure if it was a good idea or not.

 

[goldenrods]

i have & they contacted my parents, called the police, tried to get me sent to a mental hospital etc... i know they did it out of love but it just made things worse. :(

 

[Verklempt]

no. i have gave hints about it before but i stopped because they didn't seem to care. so there's no point in trying to bother anyone with my problems

 

[OneBigBlur]

My old therapist, I told her that I'd end my life after my pet died but that was a bit of a lie. It was the only way to talk about the subject without being sent to the psych ward. It wasn't helpful since I couldn't be honest.

 

[mayflower]

I really do want to talk about it. Have told my bf about the suicide ideation but i dont think she understood. Thought about the GP but cant get an appointment

 

[enjoy]

yes. one of my friends has ceased contact with me, while the others are worried (but also think i'm not being 100% serious, oddly enough). my ex-girlfriend doesn't give a shit. she told a mutual friend she no longer hates me, for she's forgotten about me completely. i'm sure my death will change nothing, even though i'm mostly going to ctb because i miss her so much...

 

[imagineit]

i have & they contacted my parents, called the police, tried to get me sent to a mental hospital etc... i know they did it out of love but it just made things worse. :(

I am sorry to hear you went through this, and this is why I haven't told anyone. I have a hard time trusting people with even basic personal information, though, to be honest.

 

[Jean4]

My partner told his friend of 40 years. I did not go well. I told someone I work with a few days ago. It did not go well... and now many who I work with know, and I have to do damage control.

 

[Jengator]

I told other sick people and they get it. I'm very physically sick.
But the few normal people freak out on me.

 

[HereToday]

My ex and some cousins. No one gave a single fuck. Made me feel even worse
Although it could have been worse, they could have sectioned me

 

[mayflower]

Ive got bpd so a very tricky relationship with my best friend anyway. Get accused of manipulation if i mention this stuff but have no-one else i talk to. She is the only one who knows i have bpd.
Id just like to finish things properly
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My ex and some cousins. No one gave a single fuck. Made me feel even worse
Although it could have been worse, they could have sectioned me

I'm sorry to hear that. I dont think people believe we are seriously hurting

 

[Rena rossy]

Yes, some hints. One of them told me to stop being dramatic. The other (just told to two of them) it seems talk to other friends, not sure exactly what she told them but They tried to talk me into going to see a psychologist (it took them at least 4h for them to convince me) , I went once but I just really don't have any strength left. The psychologist gave me the typical "you will hurt the people around you". I didn't go again.

 

[mayflower]

My partner told his friend of 40 years. I did not go well. I told someone I work with a few days ago. It did not go well... and now many who I work with know, and I have to do damage control.

Seems like no-one had had a good experience with telling anyone. Such a terrible shame for all of us
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Yes, some hints. One of them told me to stop being dramatic. The other (just told to two of them) it seems talk to other friends, not sure exactly what she told them but They tried to talk me into going to see a psychologist (it took them at least 4h for them to convince me) , I went once but I just really don't have any strength left. The psychologist gave me the typical "you will hurt the people around you". I didn't go again.
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It does sound like your friends care though. I can see it's difficult. I dont know what I'd do or say if the boot was on the other foot

 

[Jean4]

Yes, some hints. One of them told me to stop being dramatic. The other (just told to two of them) it seems talk to other friends, not sure exactly what she told them but They tried to talk me into going to see a psychologist (it took them at least 4h for them to convince me) , I went once but I just really don't have any strength left. The psychologist gave me the typical "you will hurt the people around you". I didn't go again.

I'm not telling you to go to another therapist. I have never heard of any reputable person in the field to tell a suicidal patient that they would help others. I was a LCSW-R in my previous life. Saying that is unethical. I would actually report them.

 

[Taki]

Told my doctor an extremely vague version of it. Back in the summer I mentioned something equally vague to a friend who's a psychologist. This ended up clearly being awkward and I later apologized to him for saying it. He said thanks and we haven't been friends since.

I'm seeing my doctor next week and he may ask. But really what's the point of being honest?

 

[HereToday]

I'm sorry to hear that. I dont think people believe we are seriously hurting

Well my (abusive) ex visited me in the hospital when I attempted 2 months ago and I told him I was going to do it again. He stopped talking to me because he said I was 'draining him' with the suicide talk, and he can't save me (not that he even tried lol) so he prefers to not know about it. Nice. Wonder if he'd have the same reaction if I was terminally ill with cancer..
My cousins know I attempted and I'm still depressed. Still don't give a fuck. I've never been close to them or any of my family, but I couldn't ignore someone in pain.

Oh well, at least me ctb won't hurt anyone. Makes it easier to do, but harder emotionally because I spent my whole life trying to be a good person and this world just chew me up and spit me out

 

[mayflower]

Well my (abusive) ex visited me in the hospital when I attempted 2 months ago and I told him I was going to do it again. He stopped talking to me because he said I was 'draining him' with the suicide talk, and he can't save me (not that he even tried lol) so he prefers to not know about it. Nice. Wonder if he'd have the same reaction if I was terminally ill with cancer..
My cousins know I attempted and I'm still depressed. Still don't give a fuck. I've never been close to them or any of my family, but I couldn't ignore someone in pain.

Oh well, at least me ctb won't hurt anyone. Makes it easier to do, but harder emotionally because I spent my whole life trying to be a good person and this world just chew me up and spit me out

You're so right. All our friends and so-called family would be all love and care if we had cancer or another physical illness. They seem to think this is a choice.
I want to be able to explain and for someone to understand but maybe asking too much

 

[imagineit]

Told my doctor an extremely vague version of it. Back in the summer I mentioned something equally vague to a friend who's a psychologist. This ended up clearly being awkward and I later apologized to him for saying it. He said thanks and we haven't been friends since.

I'm seeing my doctor next week and he may ask. But really what's the point of being honest?

My read is that there are only a few responses one can reasonably expect from anyone when such topics come up. If you aren't prepared for the consequences, or you are looking for a particular response, one must be quite sure when proceeding. I don't go to a doctor, but I thought he would be obligated to intervene, is that not true? Unless you mean honesty in general.

 

[TheEndof]

I've told my partner. I don't think he believes I'm being genuine or at the very least thinks I'll change my mind. So, his reactions are simply that I shouldn't do it. I think he gets the feeling on some level, but can't imagine going through with it and so, can't imagine I would.

 

[Holacanthus]

I've talked about it at length with my doctors, but now that I'm serious about it, that may have to stop. Because they always want to know if you have a plan -- and soon, I will. That wasn't true before. I hate like hell to lie to my doctors because they're good people, but I intend to do what I intend to do.

 

[Taki]

My read is that there are only a few responses one can reasonably expect from anyone when such topics come up. If you aren't prepared for the consequences, or you are looking for a particular response, one must be quite sure when proceeding. I don't go to a doctor, but I thought he would be obligated to intervene, is that not true? Unless you mean honesty in general.

That's absolutely correct, and you're right that there's a fixed set of responses. The thing I blurted out to my former friend was definitely on impulse and not something I'd normally say. Have kept my trap shut since.

 

[mayflower]

I feel it's the right way for me but i have a son so also feel an obligation not to feek this way. However my experience with the UK health service is that they won't do much anyway.
Id like to talk to my best friend so she would be prepared and also so she had answers for my son and her own kids.

Told my doctor an extremely vague version of it. Back in the summer I mentioned something equally vague to a friend who's a psychologist. This ended up clearly being awkward and I later apologized to him for saying it. He said thanks and we haven't been friends since.

I'm seeing my doctor next week and he may ask. But really what's the point of being honest?

To know that you did your best to find an alternative?

 

[WaitingAround2Die]

My partner knows I think about it but doesn't know about SS.

I'm typing this and she's fixing us some food. Pretty weird. She's great but everything else is so screwed up I still think about CTB every day.

 

[Skyview]

My partner told his friend of 40 years. I did not go well. I told someone I work with a few days ago. It did not go well... and now many who I work with know, and I have to do damage control.

 

[LMLN]

No. They would put me in the hospital. This is the only place I can talk about it.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

Dropping hints semi consciously and then guilt tripping myself because they will remember all of these instances later. Thought about purposefully deceiving them beforehand into thinking I'm doing really good lately to make it easier for them.

I don't talk about it because it just puts them into a dilemma.

 

[Holacanthus]

No. They would put me in the hospital. This is the only place I can talk about it.

And that's why this place is special. Because not talking about it is such a heavy weight, as I said in my intro post.

 

[Morphinekiss]

My parents know, but they're pretty confident in knowing I don't have a plan, because right now I don't.
I tried telling my best friend and she shut me out of her life immediately because I was "toxic". Some friend.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

My parents know, but they're pretty confident in knowing I don't have a plan, because right now I don't.
I tried telling my best friend and she shut me out of her life immediately because I was "toxic". Some friend.

It's the zeitgeist. Don't ever let yourself be 'bogged down' by people, cut negative people out of your life immediately. I guess this works until one day you need help yourself.