coma-baby

coma-baby

Misanthropic Drunken Loner
Aug 21, 2019
88
Hell yes. Two of my ex boyfriends are ugly from my today's perspective. And the saddest part that with ALL partners I couldn't reach the one year of relationship.
I'm a really low libido person. Perhaps the future estrogen helps me with that.
I'm not certain if estrogen lowers the libido itself, but I know that it tends to make it difficult for people to get erect and for people to ejaculate. If those are a big part of how you personally receive pleasure during sex, it might lessen your drive.
Only time will tell though.
 
Robbyna

Robbyna

Student
Mar 6, 2019
182
The two guys that I dated were not necessarily ugly on the outside, but the way they treated me was so horrible that in the end they both looked like monsters to me and by the end of the relationships the thought of them touching me was nauseating. Originally I found them both attractive in unique ways, but they were not traditionally handsome. One of them was much older than me and going bald and had a body shaped like a Mr. Potato head toy. The other one had a facial defect after a bad accident. They were both right at my height or a little shorter and I'm only 5'7. I noticed those things but I'm not a superficial person and i knew they didn't need to be male models to be capable of being kind and loving which was what I was looking for. Unfortunately those two munchkins turned out to be evil trolls who treated me like shit and left me with many emotional scars.
 
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Higgy123

Higgy123

Pessimistic
Mar 21, 2019
30
No but I got kissed by someone who was drunk and found me ugly.
 
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SelfHatingAspie

SelfHatingAspie

Ambitious but rubbish
Jul 2, 2019
198
TBH, I didn't find my second girlfriend all that attractive. But ... I was 17 and had very low self-esteem, and she had a rampant libido and an ample bosom. 'Twas the most tumultuous 6 weeks of my life, but I emerged from the other side as a man.
 
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azucaramargo

azucaramargo

Enlightened
Sep 16, 2018
1,010
Yes, sadly. I'm married to her. For just shy of 15 years.. I won't go into details publicly, but let us just say as her libido dramatically increases as she gets older, my desire to CTB rises even more.

What I wouldn't give to just fall asleep next to a woman (no sex) that I found sexually attractive. Even for an evening.
Your wife reminds me of me: my libido increasing as my SMV plummets.
No but I got kissed by someone who was drunk and found me ugly.
NEVER!!!!
 
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Kikoo Loool

Kikoo Loool

Enlightened
Feb 25, 2019
1,128
Yes, sadly. I'm married to her. For just shy of 15 years.. I won't go into details publicly, but let us just say as her libido dramatically increases as she gets older, my desire to CTB rises even more.

What I wouldn't give to just fall asleep next to a woman (no sex) that I found sexually attractive. Even for an evening.

I relate to that. My wife used to be unattractive but was a very hot chick. We met online for a one night-stand. We fell in love, what I cannot explain. A few years later she lost weight and became really attractive. We have stopped sex four and a half years ago though, and have other heavy issues which contribute to my depressive state.
 
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Alchemist

Alchemist

Warlock
Apr 3, 2019
709
Your wife reminds me of me: my libido increasing as my SMV plummets.

NEVER!!!!
True. The more depressed I get, the more my libido goes up and so does my sexual frustration. I wish I had the kind of depression that kills your libido, but I'm trapped in a vicious cycle.
 
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HGL91

HGL91

Warlock
Jul 2, 2019
720
Once. When I first moved to where I am now back in the early 2000s I got my first Internet. Back then, as many of you will remember, chat rooms were a big thing. Guys were like, "A/S/L??" That's age, sex, and location, for you younger kids, lol. I met a woman who lived about an hour away. She was much older than me. We both were honest about who we were. But she was dishonest about one thing. Socially I've always been very unskilled, and don't really like being around people. I was very upfront about this with her. I made sure, over and over, she understood that, although I like me some sexy time like everyone else, I was unable to function in a normal relationship. So we got together and started "doing it." As soon as that happened she started trying to groom a relationship where I was going to fulfill the role of life partner for her. She would get after me about it, then back off when I reminded her we had an understanding. She wasn't attractive to me, but she was very kinky, and into it. I got to do things with her I never had before, and she was up for it. I would have never done those things with someone under false pretenses. She even offered to pay all the bills if I would move in together. Eventually, she accused me of using her. I got really angry, and told her I had always been very honest, and even turned down letting her support me. I never took anything from her. It's the last person I had sex with. I'm done with people.

Sounds like an emotionally painful experience. I can admit I've been that chick who says "Oh yeah, I can respect your boundaries." And then, as time goes by and I get emotionally attached, I don't. And then cry "you lead me on."

Women and men are just hardwired differently, unfortunately. Sometimes I wish I could be attracted to women. I think it would make life so much easier.
 
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Alchemist

Alchemist

Warlock
Apr 3, 2019
709
Sounds like an emotionally painful experience. I can admit I've been that chick who says "Oh yeah, I can respect your boundaries." And then, as time goes by and I get emotionally attached, I don't. And then cry "you lead me on."

Women and men are just hardwired differently, unfortunately. Sometimes I wish I could be attracted to women. I think it would make life so much easier.
Men have that too, I grow attqched to anyone who treats me like a person and I en up messing up everything, and having a human contact withdrawal doesn't help either.
 
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HGL91

HGL91

Warlock
Jul 2, 2019
720
Men have that too, I grow attqched to anyone who treats me like a person and I en up messing up everything, and having a human contact withdrawal doesn't help either.

I end up messing everything up too. And then I'm super embarrassed about my behavior, and think about how much I hate myself.

Yeah, it's hard when you spend a lot of time with people, and then they're suddenly not in your life anymore...
 
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Alchemist

Alchemist

Warlock
Apr 3, 2019
709
I end up messing everything up too. And then I'm super embarrassed about my behavior, and think about how much I hate myself.

Yeah, it's hard when you spend a lot of time with people, and then they're suddenly not in your life anymore...
True, doesn't matter if it's because of you or because of them, it still hurts. Hell, my desperation has reached a point I fear I might do or regret something just because my libido and my crave of human contact/intimacy can get the best of me and make me act stupid. I feel like a junkie who can't afford its fix.
 
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Mort

Mort

No use to know one
Feb 15, 2019
622
Only ever had sex with prostitutes and sum of them you wanted to poke in the dark LOL . Well you know what they say you don't have to look at the mantelpiece as you poke the fire;) LOL :) . Mind you i had sum really good lookers but the sex with them was boring. But sum of the not so good lookers were dam good in bed work that one out LOL :)
 
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ScorpiusDragon

ScorpiusDragon

Mage
Mar 25, 2019
593
Never had sex with someone I found unattractive. But I've made out with a bunch of guys I wasn't attracted to. It was a weird experience. I just remember secretly wanting the kiss to be over and going through my mind to try to find a reason to end the date early.
 
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Bathsheba

Specialist
Aug 31, 2019
318
Yep.. I had a breakdown quite a few years ago and I guess was looking for a distraction/ drama to pull me out of the mental hole. I ended up having an affair with my brother in law, who was not even slightly attractive to me and he was a very unpleasant person. But the buzz was the secrecy and the thrill of a secret affair. I found that because I didn't feel attracted to him it meant I didn't care what he thought and I lost my inhibitions and self consciousness, which meant it was easier to have adventurous/ dirty sex.
Obviously I know all this makes me a shit person...
 
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woxihuanni

woxihuanni

Illuminated
Aug 19, 2019
3,299
Yeah when I was much younger and had idiotic ideas like how only personality matters. In truth, I want someone I find attractive in terms of face/body/brain and 'personality' comes last. Being a 'good person' by itself is no reason to exchange bodily fluids.
 
Futility

Futility

Student
Aug 13, 2019
183
I don't know if this counts, but I think someone might find it interesting.

I knew a 37 year old virgin, MTF.
She has drawn the short straw on looks and found herself incredibly lonely and the only way she could really keep her friends, was by offering outcasts a roof over their heads so they could all be outcasts together.

Well, she really wanted to know what it was like to be with someone that wasn't a toy or herself, and she had been crushing on me so hard ever since we met.
So I allowed it, I never felt anything for her, her personality wasn't that great so I had kept her at the end of a stick for that reason alone, although I was always respectful and friendly.

I felt she deserved to know what it was like to be taken care of by someone with no strings attached, no judgement, and all about the moment.
So, I gave her that experience. It gave her such a confidence boost she started putting herself out there because she didn't feel rejected anymore, in a way it changed the way she viewed herself and I felt a slight change in her personality to the point she started becoming more tolerable while the experience was still fresh in her mind and heart.

As for myself, I got nothing out of it, in the end I felt like I had just done her a favor much similar to fixing dinner.
 
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IsadoraBeauxdraps

IsadoraBeauxdraps

would like to follow that butterfly
Aug 23, 2019
160
No, I just can't.
 
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Final Escape

I’ve been here too long
Jul 8, 2018
4,348
What was your experience like? I used to do this a lot. I had a hard time figuring out if I was sexually attracted to those I "connected" well with. I used to be captivated by the idea of someone being attracted to me and failed to realize if I even liked them in return. I've been thinking a lot about it these days and considering how sick I am.
Yes unfortunately many times :( I would just try to erase it out of my memory afterwards. I wish I had recognized how dangerous it is to mess around with sex when I was young. I ended up pretty damaged from it definitely by my early 20's. I didn't know promiscuity is especially bad for women because it damages our ability to have future relationships. Men are not impacted the same through casual sex. They can have sex with many women before they settle down and there's no real damage emotionally.
 
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Aonewayticketplease

Student
Jun 3, 2019
154
I enjoy the chase more than closing the deal so am only attracted to people I haven't slept with already. This has pretty much screwed me up as the longest relationship I have been able to have was a 6 month stretch, fortunately she had a low sex drive.
 

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