Have you ever dropped out?

[spectraltease]

Hi, I hope you doing well.

Have you ever dropped out of school?
I'm in a stupid situation right now, actually all the time I have been there, school destroys me mentally and I hate the humans there.
Everything about it bothers me and I think I'm able to graduate but in a different mental state.
In addition, I went to school there because of my ex-girlfriend and we broke up for good but I can not heal there. I'm thinking a lot about dropping out of school, if I'm lucky, I can do a social activity, and still get money, but it's much easier.

I also want to start therapy again.

I thought alot of killing myself, in the past months and today, but I decided that I don't want to die.
I was very depressed multiple times and planned my ctb 2-3 years ago but I didn't go trough with it and I am "happy" that I am not dead yet somehow.
I never felt loved or liked, not even from her. It's good that we broke up and it was my idea to do so but everything haunts me and makes me so depressed. I need a break.

Maybe I start school again after the year off, something like a late night school, its easier in another city.
I feel like I changed much for good in the last weeks and I don't want it to get destroyed or me being destroyed.

If you dropped out, I would like to hear you story, if you want.

Thank you, best wishes

 

[DivineSpark]

I was in business school for two years, I told my mother I would drop out, I had no motivation or interest in that because I was forced to study something. Of course, my mother started crying over it.

 

[spectraltease]

I was in business school for two years, I told my mother I would drop out, I had no motivation or interest in that because I was forced to study something. Of course, my mother started crying over it.

Before my current school, I was also in a kind of business school. I left the school after 3 weeks because I thought it was so stupid. Did you drop out?

 

[DivineSpark]

Before my current school, I was also in a kind of business school. I left the school after 3 weeks because I thought it was so stupid. Did you drop out?

Yeah ,after two years I dropped out.

 

[spectraltease]

Yeah ,after two years I dropped out.

Can I ask if you are happy with this decision you have made

 

[Rose Mine]

I tried to drop out and get a GED or go to an alternative school but my school wouldn't allow it because they thought I was a really good student because when I did work it was good. So they ended up putting me on online school and I only had to make up half a semester.

I'm glad I got the degree though. I think a GED wouldn't have been so bad either

 

[DivineSpark]

Can I ask if you are happy with this decision you have made

Indeed, it wasnt for me. No regrets.

 

[spectraltease]

I tried to drop out and get a GED or go to an alternative school but my school wouldn't allow it because they thought I was a really good student because when I did work it was good. So they ended up putting me on online school and I only had to make up half a semester.

I'm glad I got the degree though. I think a GED wouldn't have been so bad either

Not getting let go bacause you are a good student is a flex. I am happy you could do it via online. Did you talk to them about your problems, or why could you do it online? If I can ask

 

[Rose Mine]

Not getting let go bacause you are a good student is a flex. I am happy you could do it via online. Did you talk to them about your problems, or why could you do it online? If I can ask

Lol thank you. And yeah, my mom was the one who would share everything so they had sympathy. I was in the "special ed" classes where there would be two teachers to help in some subjects and I had a class where it was to do homework. I had an IEP which got me more help.

I was able to do the online classes because I forgot what it was called but it is for medical problems and usually it is for people that can't go to school physically but they figured out how to do it with me.

 

[thenamingofcats]

To preface this answer I'm an early middle aged female that didn't choose correctly. I'll tell you what happened and what I wish I had done in this situation. I dropped out of high school and became truant as a teen. Parents punished me by having me transported overnight to an abusive teen facility where I was held for 2 years. I missed a lot of school and was extremely messed up from being there so kept failing out/dropping out of class at the community college where I was trying to get a degree from (started college at 19). What I should have done is get a trade: baking, carpentry, laying tile. Something where I could make a living and use my eye for design. I strongly suggest not forcing yourself through school if you hate it (unless there's a job you want that needs a college degree). There are a lot of trades where you can make a good living and going to school for a trade is nothing like pencil and paper stuff you do in a traditional classroom. It's also better because it leads to a real job instead of job search which for a lot of people goes nowhere. You also get to develop a skill set that a lot of people won't have and that's something to be proud of.

 

[Yume Nikki]

I've had endless groups of people pressuring me to back to school over and over again after dropping out but I'm really just not interested at all. I feel like it's only important if you are a STEM major for sure, but I don't know about anyone else. My mom struggled for two whole years trying to pay off my loans because I couldn't find a job anywhere else as an Eng major and she ended up in debt from how draining it all was.

One person who I knew that studied English has over 100k in debt even after landing 2-3 jobs and still has to pay off her loans monthly. She has a PhD but is still not earning as much as a private tutor in her field. I think the system is kind of predatory in a way that coerces confused young adults into this urgent mentality that they have to do something asap without thinking or considering what their goals are and force them into school that doesn't guarantee shit after you graduate.

 

[56842]

I'm 27, no bachelor's degree, in a family (literally) full of medical doctors. I went to a competitive high school school where 6 people in my graduating class went to Harvard and most to tier 1 and 2 schools. I ended up in a decent college, par for the course, and then imploded in the first semester. That was the first time I dropped out of college. Two years later I started taking classes towards my Associates at the local community college, and finished that smoothly with a 3.9 GPA. Went on to business school at the state college to get my bachelors, and a year in (with a 4.0 GPA, internships, and a TA position), I imploded again. That was three years ago, and that was second time I dropped out of school. I haven't been able to go back since, and now I don't even remember any of the material so I don't even know how I would go back without retaking all those classes. For now I'm looking to get work where I can with my credentials, and when I feel up for it, I want to get a medical technician license, but who knows when that may be. I'm accepting that no one's path looks the same, and no one's education/job defines their worth or intelligence. What matters is how you can make do with the hand that you're dealt. I used to wallow at the thoughts of my "lost" future, but realistically my future is still there if I want it. It may not look as shiny as I thought it would when I was younger, but it I can still do all the things I want, even as hobbies or volunteering or in an auxiliary role. If I can muster up the energy that is lol. I find everyone here who works to complete schooling and work and balance family and friends extremely intimidating, but I just need to do what I can. Also same on the ew people, I avoid them at all costs and now I'm turning into a bumbling social ignoramus but what can you do.

 

[moonflow3r]

I'm 27, no bachelor's degree, in a family (literally) full of medical doctors. I went to a competitive high school school where 6 people in my graduating class went to Harvard and most to tier 1 and 2 schools. I ended up in a decent college, par for the course, and then imploded in the first semester. That was the first time I dropped out of college. Two years later I started taking classes towards my Associates at the local community college, and finished that smoothly with a 3.9 GPA. Went on to business school at the state college to get my bachelors, and a year in (with a 4.0 GPA, internships, and a TA position), I imploded again. That was three years ago, and that was second time I dropped out of school. I haven't been able to go back since, and now I don't even remember any of the material so I don't even know how I would go back without retaking all those classes. For now I'm looking to get work where I can with my credentials, and when I feel up for it, I want to get a medical technician license, but who knows when that may be. I'm accepting that no one's path looks the same, and no one's education/job defines their worth or intelligence. What matters is how you can make do with the hand that you're dealt. I used to wallow at the thoughts of my "lost" future, but realistically my future is still there if I want it. It may not look as shiny as I thought it would when I was younger, but it I can still do all the things I want, even as hobbies or volunteering or in an auxiliary role. If I can muster up the energy that is lol. I find everyone here who works to complete schooling and work and balance family and friends extremely intimidating, but I just need to do what I can. Also same on the ew people, I avoid them at all costs and now I'm turning into a bumbling social ignoramus but what can you do.

hey im in a weird similar situation can i pm you

 

[Namelesa]

I have dropped out of college. I only did college as in my country education is mandatory until the age of 18 but school ends at age 16. I did the first year of college and it was okay but pointless to me as I was already highly skilled in the subject we were doing. During that year I went into my first relationship and it ended 2 and half months later which broke me as she was also my first real friend so having a close connection to someone else was a totally new thing to me so losing it was extra painful. That made my mental health deteriorate and caused me to be able to handle college anymore so I dropped out the second year. I don't want to go back into education again as it's useless to me and won't provide me with anything. My dad was disappointed that I didn't want to do education at all but fluff him.

 

[iamanavalanche]

i dropped out of college for a year because my social anxiety and depression was crippling. i went to college the next year and i still struggled for another 2 years of that with 40% attendance however passing. now i am in uni and even though i still struggle a lot, i can't do anything but try my best to keep this going for me or i will ctb

 

[spectraltease]

To preface this answer I'm an early middle aged female that didn't choose correctly. I'll tell you what happened and what I wish I had done in this situation. I dropped out of high school and became truant as a teen. Parents punished me by having me transported overnight to an abusive teen facility where I was held for 2 years. I missed a lot of school and was extremely messed up from being there so kept failing out/dropping out of class at the community college where I was trying to get a degree from (started college at 19). What I should have done is get a trade: baking, carpentry, laying tile. Something where I could make a living and use my eye for design. I strongly suggest not forcing yourself through school if you hate it (unless there's a job you want that needs a college degree). There are a lot of trades where you can make a good living and going to school for a trade is nothing like pencil and paper stuff you do in a traditional classroom. It's also better because it leads to a real job instead of job search which for a lot of people goes nowhere. You also get to develop a skill set that a lot of people won't have and that's something to be proud of.

Oh, sorry to hear that. Thank you for your story. I want to continue the school, I think I can make it but not on this school with this Environment. I try to lay low for 1-1,5 years, get help and try my best to get myself happy. Thank u

I've had endless groups of people pressuring me to back to school over and over again after dropping out but I'm really just not interested at all. I feel like it's only important if you are a STEM major for sure, but I don't know about anyone else. My mom struggled for two whole years trying to pay off my loans because I couldn't find a job anywhere else as an Eng major and she ended up in debt from how draining it all was.

One person who I knew that studied English has over 100k in debt even after landing 2-3 jobs and still has to pay off her loans monthly. She has a PhD but is still not earning as much as a private tutor in her field. I think the system is kind of predatory in a way that coerces confused young adults into this urgent mentality that they have to do something asap without thinking or considering what their goals are and force them into school that doesn't guarantee shit after you graduate.

Really sorry for you. I feel the same way. Being pressured into being there. But real, they don't guarantee anything.

I'm 27, no bachelor's degree, in a family (literally) full of medical doctors. I went to a competitive high school school where 6 people in my graduating class went to Harvard and most to tier 1 and 2 schools. I ended up in a decent college, par for the course, and then imploded in the first semester. That was the first time I dropped out of college. Two years later I started taking classes towards my Associates at the local community college, and finished that smoothly with a 3.9 GPA. Went on to business school at the state college to get my bachelors, and a year in (with a 4.0 GPA, internships, and a TA position), I imploded again. That was three years ago, and that was second time I dropped out of school. I haven't been able to go back since, and now I don't even remember any of the material so I don't even know how I would go back without retaking all those classes. For now I'm looking to get work where I can with my credentials, and when I feel up for it, I want to get a medical technician license, but who knows when that may be. I'm accepting that no one's path looks the same, and no one's education/job defines their worth or intelligence. What matters is how you can make do with the hand that you're dealt. I used to wallow at the thoughts of my "lost" future, but realistically my future is still there if I want it. It may not look as shiny as I thought it would when I was younger, but it I can still do all the things I want, even as hobbies or volunteering or in an auxiliary role. If I can muster up the energy that is lol. I find everyone here who works to complete schooling and work and balance family and friends extremely intimidating, but I just need to do what I can. Also same on the ew people, I avoid them at all costs and now I'm turning into a bumbling social ignoramus but what can you do.

Felt really good to read that. You are totally correct, your future is still there. I hope everything turns out to be ok, good luckkkk

I have dropped out of college. I only did college as in my country education is mandatory until the age of 18 but school ends at age 16. I did the first year of college and it was okay but pointless to me as I was already highly skilled in the subject we were doing. During that year I went into my first relationship and it ended 2 and half months later which broke me as she was also my first real friend so having a close connection to someone else was a totally new thing to me so losing it was extra painful. That made my mental health deteriorate and caused me to be able to handle college anymore so I dropped out the second year. I don't want to go back into education again as it's useless to me and won't provide me with anything. My dad was disappointed that I didn't want to do education at all but fluff him.

Sounds very painful, I hope you doing okay. I feel that relationship part hard, same here. I think you made the right decision. It feels like, school doesn't give me anything I like to have. I just feel like trooping out.

i dropped out of college for a year because my social anxiety and depression was crippling. i went to college the next year and i still struggled for another 2 years of that with 40% attendance however passing. now i am in uni and even though i still struggle a lot, i can't do anything but try my best to keep this going for me or i will ctb

Same. I feel like I will kill myself, rather than feeling like this any longer. I want to live, but if I cant drop out, its over. Hope you doing okay right now.

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

Dropping out of school was one of the worst decisions I've made in life.

I'd been suicidal for most of my life but at 15/16 I went over the edge. Failed attempt. Hospitalized. We can skip the details.

Before the attempt, I couldn't care about school because I didn't think I'd be alive.
After the attempt, I was really only here in body. Something happened to me that I can't explain. I really wasn't here. It's like I disassociated so intensely that I was functionally a different person (I don't have DID).

My lack of accreditation was a wall for the following decade. Now I'm in my late 20's, "behind" in life because I never thought I'd make it this far and I still don't have reliable means to go.

It's really only this year that I've started getting my life back together. It would have been a lot easier had I just stayed in school.

That said, I can't regret failing to do something I was never capable of doing. I couldn't finish school because I was well beyond my breaking point. And I couldn't go back to school because even when I was mentally prepared to, my father sabotaged all my attempts. I really couldn't have played the cards I was dealt any differently. But the best decision I could have made was still the one of the worst decisions I've ever made.

Life would have been easier if I had finished school.

Your case is different. You're at a different stage in life than I was, and it doesn't seem like you're dropping out as much as you are taking a break. And to that, I would suggest that you take a break. So that you don't break. Better to sacrifice a year getting your head in a better place, than sacrificing the rest of your life.

 

[spectraltease]

Dropping out of school was one of the worst decisions I've made in life.

I'd been suicidal for most of my life but at 15/16 I went over the edge. Failed attempt. Hospitalized. We can skip the details.

Before the attempt, I couldn't care about school because I didn't think I'd be alive.
After the attempt, I was really only here in body. Something happened to me that I can't explain. I really wasn't here. It's like I disassociated so intensely that I was functionally a different person (I don't have DID).

My lack of accreditation was a wall for the following decade. Now I'm in my late 20's, "behind" in life because I never thought I'd make it this far and I still don't have reliable means to go.

It's really only this year that I've started getting my life back together. It would have been a lot easier had I just stayed in school.

That said, I can't regret failing to do something I was never capable of doing. I couldn't finish school because I was well beyond my breaking point. And I couldn't go back to school because even when I was mentally prepared to, my father sabotaged all my attempts. I really couldn't have played the cards I was dealt any differently. But the best decision I could have made was still the one of the worst decisions I've ever made.

Life would have been easier if I had finished school.

Your case is different. You're at a different stage in life than I was, and it doesn't seem like you're dropping out as much as you are taking a break. And to that, I would suggest that you take a break. So that you don't break. Better to sacrifice a year getting your head in a better place, than sacrificing the rest of your life.

Thank you for your comment. I think you are still a very great person who sounds very nice. I can understand if you see it that way (or I try), nevertheless it gives me a different perspective that I appreciate.
I already have a good degree, with which I can earn good money if I make an effort (but harder). Fortunately, you can really do a lot and catch up here. I am currently doing a degree that qualifies me to be able to go to a university and it would be my wish. As you have already said, I want to see this more as a break but I am still very afraid of the future, because even if I have a good degree, nothing is certain and its not my dream.

 

[56842]

hey im in a weird similar situation can i pm you

yeah, feel free!

 

[getoutgirl]

I dropped out after almost two years of sucidal depression, insomnia, anxiety and barely going to campus. Somehow passed most classes which I still find hilarious and kind of supernatural. Like I "remember" exams where I hadn't sleep for days so I just sort of popped in there without recalling how I got there, the white of the paper feeling like a spotlight right in my face, and just making stuff up about stuff. Then back to the dorm to rot. So yeah it wasn't pleasant at all and I can't blame me nor others who go through that cos honestly how can you expect that from someone in those conditions. If you can balance the two, get help and therapy and half wing it while dealing with your shit, cool, you'll be grateful later, if not, don't blame yourself too much, at all really sometimes taking care of oneself implies dipping off shitty institutions and axiety machines.

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

Thank you for your comment. I think you are still a very great person who sounds very nice. I can understand if you see it that way (or I try), nevertheless it gives me a different perspective that I appreciate.
I already have a good degree, with which I can earn good money if I make an effort (but harder). Fortunately, you can really do a lot and catch up here. I am currently doing a degree that qualifies me to be able to go to a university and it would be my wish. As you have already said, I want to see this more as a break but I am still very afraid of the future, because even if I have a good degree, nothing is certain and its not my dream.

You really sound like you're in a much better position that I was in back then, and even now. I trust that you'll make the decision that's best for you in the end.

 

[Rabscuttle]

3 times. Graduated on 4th attempt

 

[HealNForget]

I dropped out 3 times. The last was due to a drug-induced manic episode that left me depressed and unwilling to continue with college.

 

[spectraltease]

You really sound like you're in a much better position that I was in back then, and even now. I trust that you'll make the decision that's best for you in the end.

Thank you very much. I hope doing well rn. If you don't mind me asking, what are you doing rn? And would you like to catch up on your school qualifications someday? (I don't want to pressure u)

3 times. Graduated on 4th attempt

Very proud of you that you did it!

I dropped out 3 times. The last was due to a drug-induced manic episode that left me depressed and unwilling to continue with college.

Uh, I hope you doing well at the moment. Much love

I dropped out after almost two years of sucidal depression, insomnia, anxiety and barely going to campus. Somehow passed most classes which I still find hilarious and kind of supernatural. Like I "remember" exams where I hadn't sleep for days so I just sort of popped in there without recalling how I got there, the white of the paper feeling like a spotlight right in my face, and just making stuff up about stuff. Then back to the dorm to rot. So yeah it wasn't pleasant at all and I can't blame me nor others who go through that cos honestly how can you expect that from someone in those conditions. If you can balance the two, get help and therapy and half wing it while dealing with your shit, cool, you'll be grateful later, if not, don't blame yourself too much, at all really sometimes taking care of oneself implies dipping off shitty institutions and axiety machines.

Enjoyed reading it. Sounds supernatural, I felt like this last year. Now I study and still fuck it up lol. I hope you doing better. Best wishes

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

Thank you very much. I hope doing well rn. If you don't mind me asking, what are you doing rn? And would you like to catch up on your school qualifications someday? (I don't want to pressure u)

Very proud of you that you did it!

Uh, I hope you doing well at the moment. Much love

Enjoyed reading it. Sounds supernatural, I felt like this last year. Now I study and still fuck it up lol. I hope you doing better. Best wishes

I don't mind at all. It's not a touchy subject for me. It's just a reality I've had to come to terms with but I'm not ashamed of it. The faster you can shamelessly accept what and where you are, the more capable you will be to deal with it.

Right now I do odd jobs and freelance work. Fortunately I'm unmarried with no offspring which means I have low responsibilities and significant headroom. I can see myself getting back into academia someday, but if I did it would be a luxury. Something I did for fulfillment, not for a career. To go back to school now when I'm already this far behind would honestly be a waste. My resume wouldn't be able to compete after I graduated anyway.

My best bet to improve the consistency of generating capital is to continue in trade and business and use my fortunate position of low expenses to dump 80-90% of my income into assets. If they don't pan out, my situation stays the same. if they do pan out, my situation improves drastically. I really have nothing to lose anymore.

That's the plan anyway. We'll see if it works or not.

 

[spectraltease]

I don't mind at all. It's not a touchy subject for me. It's just a reality I've had to come to terms with but I'm not ashamed of it. The faster you can shamelessly accept what and where you are, the more capable you will be to deal with it.

Right now I do odd jobs and freelance work. Fortunately I'm unmarried with no offspring which means I have low responsibilities and significant headroom. I can see myself getting back into academia someday, but if I did it would be a luxury. Something I did for fulfillment, not for a career. To go back to school now when I'm already this far behind would honestly be a waste. My resume wouldn't be able to compete after I graduated anyway.

My best bet to improve the consistency of generating capital is to continue in trade and business and use my fortunate position of low expenses to dump 80-90% of my income into assets. If they don't pan out, my situation stays the same. if they do pan out, my situation improves drastically. I really have nothing to lose anymore.

That's the plan anyway. We'll see if it works or not.

Sounds like a perspective and you're right, if you accept the situation faster as it is, then you can deal with it faster. I hope everything goes the way you want. If it's a wish of yours, maybe something to catch up, then give it a try. Much luck!!

 

[Mr. Silver]

I'm graduating from college at the end of the year. Computer Science major, (yeah, I've fell for the "just learn to code bro" meme). Programming and computing in general is not something I enjoy that much, but I'm trying to force myself to like since it's my life now. Dropping out was never a option because my helicopter mom (a teacher), she would have become even crazier than she already was. Sometimes I think that Uni, mine at least, is the most useless thing ever; It could be that I'm in a bad institution, probably I'm just a bad student or is just the economy that is fucked up. Anyway, it is what it is.

Oh, and I'm facing some problems that can delay my graduation. If that happens I'm just going to hang myself.

 

[StrugglingSienna]

I graduated an early college high school with a 4.0 and got to get my associate's degree at the same time (also with a 4.0). Felt unstoppable. Covid hit, went into college as Covid hit, online classes did not fucking work with my ADHD, and was also cohabitating with my high school sweetheart who ended up being an abusive alcoholic in an apartment in a shitty area next to school instead of staying in the dorms like I should have been. Started transitioning, partner detransitioned at the same time, told me I made her a laughing stock to her family for wanting to be a girl, didn't seem to understand that she did the same thing to me in reverse. Tried to pretend things were okay and hid shit from my parents for way too long, damaging my GPA beyond repair before finally dropping out.

I eventually ended up in a trade apprenticeship somehow. It's okay. But this is not where I am supposed to be. I want to go back to college so I can be a nurse or a lawyer or fucking something but the journey back would be so arduous that I don't know if I can make it.

 

[SchizoGymnast]

I've dropped out of college, including a prestigious degree program, multiple times. I also came veeeereery close to dropping out of high school. I had a then-undiagnosed brain injury-type condition and hence had no treatment or accommodations. Plus the condition made me a social outcast. To this day, I haven't fully recovered.

 

[TheLastGreySky]

Hi, I hope you doing well.

Have you ever dropped out of school?
I'm in a stupid situation right now, actually all the time I have been there, school destroys me mentally and I hate the humans there.
Everything about it bothers me and I think I'm able to graduate but in a different mental state.
In addition, I went to school there because of my ex-girlfriend and we broke up for good but I can not heal there. I'm thinking a lot about dropping out of school, if I'm lucky, I can do a social activity, and still get money, but it's much easier.

I also want to start therapy again.

I thought alot of killing myself, in the past months and today, but I decided that I don't want to die.
I was very depressed multiple times and planned my ctb 2-3 years ago but I didn't go trough with it and I am "happy" that I am not dead yet somehow.
I never felt loved or liked, not even from her. It's good that we broke up and it was my idea to do so but everything haunts me and makes me so depressed. I need a break.

Maybe I start school again after the year off, something like a late night school, its easier in another city.
I feel like I changed much for good in the last weeks and I don't want it to get destroyed or me being destroyed.

If you dropped out, I would like to hear you story, if you want.

Thank you, best wishes

Sincerely... I did drop out of school and never went back. And I've had to lie for every job I've ever had but I will say at least in my particular situation they've never asked to see a high school diploma that doesn't exist, other than when I got hurt at Walmart and they asked me to bring it and I just never did that