Has anyone just left?

[usernamesarehard]

Has anyone just... left? Like you hated the place you were staying and just packed a bag and left? I hate the city I'm living in. Part of it is the city itself sucks, but part of it is I just don't like living in the city. I don't want to live in ANY city, no matter how nice it is. I really want to just pack a bag and leave and find a job wherever I end up going. But I know with the job market the way it is now, that's not a good idea. But, I'm also not sure if I'm just doing what I normally do and am telling myself that something that would be good for me isn't possible.

Has anyone been able to just leave? How did it work out? How long ago was this? What are your thoughts about doing this in 2025?

 

[lost_one]

No, I wish I had the courage. I am supposed to graduate in a few months (although, I might fail considering I haven't worked on my paper at all... it's too overwhelming), I suppose I could try and just dissapear after I finish colege. Idk if there would be a point to it though. I can't really run from myself.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

Tried it 3 times and each one failed miserably. The circumstances of which are little in-depth, but tl;dr I kept being fucked over by outside factors I had no control over. I can elaborate if anybody wishes.

 

[Redacted24]

I did exactly that in the mid 1980s (yeah I'm old)
Dead end job. No future. Trying to recover from suicidality but still wanted things to be over.

I downsized all I needed to a backpack and left to another country to live. Hiked around and rough camped until I found a place I could stay and work. Was there for about a year until Immigration officials picked me up.

It was difficult. I was cold and wet until I got work. Few hot "meals" but then with work I had a dry place to sleep and enough to buy a car.

The time away, living that hard life, is still one of the best things I ever did. I'm actually trying to do the same thing now - downsizing a lifetime of junk to be able to just walk away.

I think it's very possible in this time too.
Good travels!

 

[Dot]

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[ceilng_tile]

Has anyone just... left? Like you hated the place you were staying and just packed a bag and left? I hate the city I'm living in. Part of it is the city itself sucks, but part of it is I just don't like living in the city. I don't want to live in ANY city, no matter how nice it is. I really want to just pack a bag and leave and find a job wherever I end up going. But I know with the job market the way it is now, that's not a good idea. But, I'm also not sure if I'm just doing what I normally do and am telling myself that something that would be good for me isn't possible.

Has anyone been able to just leave? How did it work out? How long ago was this? What are your thoughts about doing this in 2025?

About 15 years ago I met a woman who would go to a different country every few months or so and just find a job when she got there. These were countries with very low cost of living, so it was feasible for her. I definitely wouldn't sign a long-term lease anywhere unless you had a job lined up, though.

 

[fallendevil]

In this economy honestly don't, you won't be any happier because for the first few years you'll be struggling to make ends meet by yourself. Family can be a bitch (trust me I hate my hometown too) but being homeless is even worse. My parents both did that in the 90s and although they struggled it was easier back then to make money and they got themselves out, you can't do that now. They told me that they feel pity for people of this generation because it's impossible to make it out without any support.

Maybe find a job that's close to your current city to get a temporary escape or just hangout over there and make friends there as if you're a new person.

 

[usernamesarehard]

No, I wish I had the courage. I am supposed to graduate in a few months (although, I might fail considering I haven't worked on my paper at all... it's too overwhelming), I suppose I could try and just dissapear after I finish colege. Idk if there would be a point to it though. I can't really run from myself.

Yeah, not having the courage is a big reason I haven't done this yet.

Tried it 3 times and each one failed miserably. The circumstances of which are little in-depth, but tl;dr I kept being fucked over by outside factors I had no control over. I can elaborate if anybody wishes.

I'd be interested in reading if you want to share. This is another big reason I haven't tried yet. Sometimes things happen that's out of your control. Having family as a safety net if things get really bad is an amazing luxury.

Cld alwys lk onlne fr jb vacncis in areas tht u r interstd in & apply b4 movng

Also plces lke fast-fd restrnts hve lrge trn-ovrs of ppl s/ mght hve vacncies

Thre r also plces whch wll gve u eatng & plce t/ slp if u d/ physcl wrk fr thm

I have been looking around and applying to jobs. My main plan was to get a new job and then move. I have some money saved up that I could stay in a hotel for a while until I can find a long term rental.

I didn't really think about fast food places. I've been applying to jobs in my field. I don't really want to have a fast food job, but I acknowledge that I either need to choose to have a crappy job, but live in a place I actually like; or stay at my good job here, but have a crappy living situation. I don't think I can have both, at least not right now with my current skill set.

I should look into that. My uncle did mention that he has a friend who has employees who are looking to move, so he needs a new manager. That job comes with free housing. The employees haven't left yet, so there's no job posting. I'm hoping if I can't get a job on my own I can work there. I'll definitely be putting in an application as soon as I can.

About 15 years ago I met a woman who would go to a different country every few months or so and just find a job when she got there. These were countries with very low cost of living, so it was feasible for her. I definitely wouldn't sign a long-term lease anywhere unless you had a job lined up, though.

Yeah, being homeless with no savings is worse than being homeless with some savings. At least if things don't work out you can go back home.

In this economy honestly don't, you won't be any happier because for the first few years you'll be struggling to make ends meet by yourself. Family can be a bitch (trust me I hate my hometown too) but being homeless is even worse. My parents both did that in the 90s and although they struggled it was easier back then to make money and they got themselves out, you can't do that now. They told me that they feel pity for people of this generation because it's impossible to make it out without any support.

Maybe find a job that's close to your current city to get a temporary escape or just hangout over there and make friends there as if you're a new person.

Yeah, this is my thought too. I've seen stories of people who just left and became a ranch hand and things just worked out for them. One guy on YouTube I watch lived in a crappy basement apartment and fixed laptops and phones in a park for money until he was able to turn his situation around. But all these stories happend before 2010. Things weren't nearly as bad 30 or 40 years ago as they are now.

I mostly posted this to see if I'm just being defeatist and am choosing to be miserable by not doing anything to change my situation or if things are just too fucked for me to really be able to fix things.

 

[katara]

I wish I could, I feel so trapped here it's terrible. So many bugs, it never snows and I hate the weather. It's all old unfriendly people here. Living here has greatly affected my mental health. Obviously it's not my only problem but it's a big one

 

[non_sense]

Has anyone just... left? Like you hated the place you were staying and just packed a bag and left? I hate the city I'm living in. Part of it is the city itself sucks, but part of it is I just don't like living in the city. I don't want to live in ANY city, no matter how nice it is. I really want to just pack a bag and leave and find a job wherever I end up going. But I know with the job market the way it is now, that's not a good idea. But, I'm also not sure if I'm just doing what I normally do and am telling myself that something that would be good for me isn't possible.

Has anyone been able to just leave? How did it work out? How long ago was this? What are your thoughts about doing this in 2025?

I moved out of my city for college a month ago and although it's not exactly what you're talking about my life has improved significantly. like a month ago i was dead set on ctb and now i feel good about life most days. I'm somewhere where i can truly be myself and it's so freeing. i also like being alone and i'm still friends with all of my friends from home so i'm really not lonely at all. i strongly recommend moving if you can

 

[_Gollum_]

Yeah, this is my thought too. I've seen stories of people who just left and became a ranch hand and things just worked out for them. One guy on YouTube I watch lived in a crappy basement apartment and fixed laptops and phones in a park for money until he was able to turn his situation around.

Louis Rossmann?

But all these stories happend before 2010. Things weren't nearly as bad 30 or 40 years ago as they are now.

To be fair before 2010 there was the 2008 recession.....

I've thought of up and leaving as well, but I think in reality all my problems would come with me, and I'd end up roughly just as unhappy. I'd spend all that money to move, go through all that effort to find a job, and then just end up CTBing but in a different place...

 

[Dot]

I didn't really think about fast food places. I've been applying to jobs in my field. I don't really want to have a fast food job, but I acknowledge that I either need to choose to have a crappy job, but live in a place I actually like; or stay at my good job here, but have a crappy living situation. I don't think I can have both, at least not right now with my current skill set.

Yh ws thnkng mre as transitnl - nt 2 b workng in 4revr

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

Has anyone just... left? Like you hated the place you were staying and just packed a bag and left? I hate the city I'm living in. Part of it is the city itself sucks, but part of it is I just don't like living in the city. I don't want to live in ANY city, no matter how nice it is. I really want to just pack a bag and leave and find a job wherever I end up going. But I know with the job market the way it is now, that's not a good idea. But, I'm also not sure if I'm just doing what I normally do and am telling myself that something that would be good for me isn't possible.

Has anyone been able to just leave? How did it work out? How long ago was this? What are your thoughts about doing this in 2025?

I think about this all the time. I can't afford where I live, but the other option - with family - isn't really an option.

So I'm giving things away. I am literally looking at every object in my life and putting them out by the bin to get even more minimal. I hope to find someone to befriend in a new country like the UK and then CTB there. I was thinking how much I feel cursed by the medical conditions I have, and can't wait to be free of the pain. I have occasional good days but the bad days are hell - like today.

My brain can't work, and I don't believe I can work. It's time to end it already.

 

[Lions303]

Has anyone just... left? Like you hated the place you were staying and just packed a bag and left? I hate the city I'm living in. Part of it is the city itself sucks, but part of it is I just don't like living in the city. I don't want to live in ANY city, no matter how nice it is. I really want to just pack a bag and leave and find a job wherever I end up going. But I know with the job market the way it is now, that's not a good idea. But, I'm also not sure if I'm just doing what I normally do and am telling myself that something that would be good for me isn't possible.

Has anyone been able to just leave? How did it work out? How long ago was this? What are your thoughts about doing this in 2025?

Commitments make just up and leaving hard, maybe its work, school, family, friends. Is there any repercussions for trying for maybe a year and if not starting again?

 

[usernamesarehard]

Commitments make just up and leaving hard, maybe its work, school, family, friends. Is there any repercussions for trying for maybe a year and if not starting again?

I'd loose my job, unless I could get a doctor's note I think, I'm not sure how that would go and probably loose my savings. My job's really good. I'd keep it until I retire if I didn't hate the city they operate in or if I could actually move to one of the nice areas that surround the city.

So I'm giving things away. I am literally looking at every object in my life and putting them out by the bin to get even more minimal. I hope to find someone to befriend in a new country like the UK and then CTB there. I was thinking how much I feel cursed by the medical conditions I have, and can't wait to be free of the pain. I have occasional good days but the bad days are hell - like today.

I've been thinking of doing this. I know the more dumb shit I collect, the more I have to take with me when I move.

Yh ws thnkng mre as transitnl - nt 2 b workng in 4revr

Ah, that makes sense.

Louis Rossmann?

Yup!

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

I'd be interested in reading if you want to share. This is another big reason I haven't tried yet. Sometimes things happen that's out of your control. Having family as a safety net if things get really bad is an amazing luxury.

The first time I tried, I lived with my brother for a couple months because I got in a fight with my dad over not taking the trash out. My brother and his wife are disgusting hoarders and would nickle and dime me for every little thing. I eventually got tired of them claiming I was running their bills up (I wasn't) and had to move back in after my mother basically told my dad to fuck off.

The second time, I moved in with friends and got a job in a town hours away from here. That was going perfect until one of the roomates stole money from a meth dealer and got the house robbed, forcing me to move back in with my parents in order to protect myself and all my stuff.

The third time, I moved in with a boyfriend at the time (now ex), and that went well until he got into a car accident that required his leave his car at a shop for a bit. That would've been fine except, the car was technically his sister's, and his parents kept fucking nabbing the car despite his sister already having another vehicle. This made transportation basically impossible and my health started declining because the area we lived in was not walkable in the least and I couldn't go out like I like to. Then one day he just hit me with "I don't find you attractive" and tried to gaslight me into staying there, but I pulled the rug out from under him and moved back yet again with my parents.

I now have a new boyfriend, and I worry that the past will repeat itself. 4th time's the charm, maybe.