Discussion Has anyone else planned their funeral ?

[Lara Francis]

I have a good plan for my the end and no one can find my dead body...
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I am curious!

 

[Pistolero114]

I visited two funeral directors a few days ago.
As I approached the places,i was excited but this was followed by confusion and a sense of guilt for feeling this way.
I questioned wether it was wrong to plan in such detail.
I went ahead anyway and will clearly set out my wishes down to the fine details of my coffin choice,what i want to be dressed in.the headstone wording and the service.
I saw the chapel of rest and asked if i would be in this room all the time or just for viewings but i would be in the fridge in my coffin until ready to go.
I asked about funeral plans and if they were any circumstances in which they did not pay out such as suicide but no was the answer.
When I burried my husband , making all the decisions alone was so painful and i wanted everything to be perfect and spent most of my time being a physical and emotional mess.I would have been very upset if anything had not gone quite to plan.
I would not want this for my loved ones so feel this preparation is sensible and thoughtful but my friends think otherwise.
I would be interested in peoples thoughts.
It feels so right on one level but wrong on other.
I am confused.
Im sure it will give a peace of mind when my time comes knowing that everything is sorted as time is now on a possible count down.
It had to be the strangest conversation i have ever had in my life!

Strange; but necessary.

 

[LifeIsNotFun]

Nope. My family can deal with that after I'm gone.

 

[Mircea]

Yes: I'm hoping mine will be carried out by kind fishies at the bottom of the sea.

 

[Mart]

I'd rather not have one with a bunch of people pretending they cared about me.

 

[Pistolero114]

I'd rather not have one with a bunch of people pretending they cared about me.
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INDUBITALY!!! Can I get an AMEN??? (Seriously; they couldn't come round in life so f**k off if they think they get to come around so they can feel better about themselves) Sorry. I'm shutting up now.

 

[whoisdead12]

I want to be cremated, don't want a funeral because I don't believe in "god" or any god in the world, I want to be the cheapest one because I know my family doesn't have too much money to spend. Although I would like them to spend the money they have in a psychologist to cope with my death.

 

[Person]

I planned my husbands funeral to a t. Every little detail had to be just so.
I've planned my funeral and left the details in the notes I am leaving for a friend. I haven't paid for it but I have the money put aside for it.
The only reason I haven't formally booked it with the funeral directors, is that they are friends of my husbands family and it might draw suspicion.
I don't care about all the fine details for myself, what I'm wearing ect, I thought that might be a 'nice?' thing for my mum to do. It was very important to me to pick my husbands final outfit and I wouldn't want to take that opportunity away from my parents. But all the basics - cremation, celebrant, colour theme ect are all picked out.
What a sad state of affairs.

 

[Empty Smile]

My funeral plans only have one requirement: if I'm found dead in the woods, leave me there.

 

[Ruffian]

I should put it in writing, but everyone knows to cremate, private ceremony, simple, of immediate family with 2 friends named. Covered by burial insurance.

 

[Sayo]

No.

Reading your post, Lara, it strikes me that it might be considerate to do so? I'm so sorry for all you've been through now and before.

I worry a lot about burdening my loved ones more than necessary with my actions. I can pay for my own funeral if they want one, but it might help to write down my wishes clearly and make sure they're not difficult or hard to mess up.

 

[puppy9]

Just toss me in the trash.

 

[Tequilamockingbird]

I expressed my wishes in a suicide note that I don't want a funeral, just cremate me.

 

[WolfgangA]

This is one complicated topic. I'm not sure but if I were to choose one anyway, I would have a viking funereal with longboat, bow & arrow with fire and all that, ya I know its cliche.

 

[peacefully31425]

If someone wants to have a funeral for me, they can go right ahead but it is of no concern to me.

 

[Avicii]

My problem lies within who the fuk owns my body after death - I know if I go before my mum although daftilly she's not religious ie doesent go to church she's from an old tradition who would want her son to have a funeral... like that shit that catholic's do the night before the funeral they gather round the body like some kind of exorcism where a priest or a layman repeats the Hail Mary about 199 times !!

David Bowie has a Direct Cremation they only cost £1195 compared to funerals which cost circa £4000 ... direct crem is def for non religious like myself no funeral no fuss at a time and location that suits the undertaker your taken to any crem body burnt and either your ashes scattered there or given back to relatives in a cheap plastic box unless the family pay about £100 for a wooden urn

 

[LifeIsNotFun]

To be honest I would love to CTB in a forest, and let nature do the rest. Funeral's are pointless to me.

 

[RM5998]

Well, Hindus in India get cremated, and then everyone who showed up for that bit of theatre has to go to some sort of service. And then after a few days, they come around again to get free food. My parents will have to eat vegetarian food for a while, which would be an inconvenience. Also, the wishes of dead children mean jack shit here. Even though I'm an atheist, India hasn't really moved to the point where people take the term seriously.

 

[dandan]

yup, I have already signed with lawyers that my heritage* be passed to my mother if she's still alive or to my brother
my small banking accounts to my brother
I did that when I was really bad about 8 months ago...

the $2,500usd I need to prepay the funneral and all of that , its a big part of what I have so I told my family I would either leave them the money
or buy it before.... I didnt paid for it, because having much less money would make me feel commited to death...
but the funeral plan was made... not paid...

 

[Numbtopain97]

I leave that to my family.

 

[Grandexit]

I just want the cheapest creamation, least expensive box, and if someone would be so kind, sprinkle me into the ocean. No muss, no fuss, definitely no music play list. Being gone will be it's own reward.

 

[LittleJem]

Yes - straight to ashes. No religious stuff. Ashes to be thrown in river. Writing my wishes into my will. Also none of the members of my family who have abandoned me. Only close family.

 

[mathieu]

I'm not planning to make arrangements or leave instructions. I think it's simpler if my family just do what they want/what they feel is right. It's more for their benefit than mine after all. To give them a sense of closure. I don't think anyone really likes me but my mum at least has the memories of me being her firstborn child. I think they liked me then.

 

[Farmmaa]

My mother had everything panned years in advance. Cremation and service paid for, plot to bury her ashes near my grandparents, instructions on which songs, hymns and passages she wanted read and sung. Every damn detail.
I derailed the plan with a photo slide show with music of my own choosing.

I want none of that crap and my kids have known that forever.
Cheap cardboard box, cremation, and don't you dare keep my ashes on a mantle or bury me in the ground. Plant a tree, use me for fertilizer,,, or throw me in the ocean.
I do not want a funeral but if the family chooses to have a small memorial, so be it.
My dad has pretty much the exact same plan for himself in his will... as did both of his parents.

 

[Sweet emotion]

I'm not having a funeral. Too much money that I don't have and my family doesn't have. I do see a point in funerals really anyway. I wanted to be buried but we don't have enough money for that either so when I'm found I just have to be sent to the oven. It makes me sick to think of my face and body burning away from my bones, desecrating my body down to ashes. But hey when you're poor that's what you have to do.

Planned it all on paper,
Cremation and where to scatfer the asses.
The will everything

Lol....I'm just laughing because you put scatter the asses.

My funeral plans only have one requirement: if I'm found dead in the woods, leave me there.

I don't think they can leave you there. Police just can't leave a rotting body somewhere.

 

[Moonicide]

My final wishes entail no funeral, just cremate me and scatter my ashes near the lake or use my ashes to help nurture a tree and become one with nature.

 

[NeCkDeEp]

I got a list of songs on my phone for people to cry at when I'm gone anyway that's all

 

[Mizzmini45]

I got a list of songs on my phone for people to cry at when I'm gone anyway that's all

some reason this made me laugh

 

[aloneintheworld]

I'm not having a funeral. Too much money that I don't have and my family doesn't have. I do see a point in funerals really anyway. I wanted to be buried but we don't have enough money for that either so when I'm found I just have to be sent to the oven. It makes me sick to think of my face and body burning away from my bones, desecrating my body down to ashes. But hey when you're poor that's what you have to do.

Lol....I'm just laughing because you put scatter the asses.

I don't think they can leave you there. Police just can't leave a rotting body somewhere.

Are you still alive? I've been reading your posts but cannot click on your profile or message you I would love to talk to you.Our suffering is very similar. I have CRPS full body in organs and in my ears too to the point where any noise flares my pain. I also suffer with several other co conditions like EDS, POTS, MCAS, autoimmune dysfunction, fibro, and dysautonoma. I fear for the future and don't have support of my family as they don't believe my illness is real.

 

[charlottewilts]

i just noticed this thread. i actually called the medical university here because they take donations, so that when you die they pay for all expenses of collecting your corpse and cremating you when your cadaver is no longer useful for studying. you can then either choose your ashes to be buried in the university's urn burial vault or your family's. i'll be choosing to be buried in the university's as i don't want my family to have any expenses for my death.

let's hope they'll be willing to take me. the only prerequisites are no infectious diseases (don't have any that i'm aware of) and no mangled corpses (SN will leave my organs intact for dissection). i'll be going for an interview in early January, that's when the lady on the phone told me i should come.