Discussion Has any girl ever liked you?

[Komm_Süsser_Tod]

This is going to be suicide fuel for me but I have to do it, haha. People are always saying that you have to put yourself out there but I feel like you are attractive girls will generally go for you. Obviously if you're hiding or a hermit this won't happen to often but in general it never fails. Has a girl ever liked you?

 

[Istanbulite]

Loads...unfortunately.

they still failed to fill the void in my soul. that's the sad bit, I tried everything. Tried to love, being loved etc...Nothing ever works.

 

[MikeDeross82]

Yeah

 

[Eternal Oblivion]

Just one that was reciprical between us two. For a regular streight men, having a girl that you love and find attractive and have her loving you and finding you attractive is something indiscritible. Hard to top that feeling.

 

[Komm_Süsser_Tod]

Just one that was reciprical between us two. For a regular streight men, having a girl that you love and find attractive and have her loving you and finding you attractive is something indiscritible. Hard to top that feeling.

Someone who gets it.

 

[Manaaja]

No.

Kinda funny. Many years ago I cried to a psychologist that no one (boy or girl or anyone else) has ever liked me, and she said "Every person has people who have a crush on them. Many girls and boys have wanted to date you, you just haven't noticed it." I didn't believe her for a second.

But it's not like I want to date anyone from this world anyway.

 

[HappyForever?]

Probably not. If I had even one chances are I wouldn't be here. My mom said she noticed a few girls liking me in high school but I doubt it.

 

[Mrikaii]

Yeah. In 5th grade.

 

[Sanva]

i'm guessing this question is directed at men but

I feel like you are attractive girls will generally go for you

this isn't strictly true because we still live in a society where men are usually expected to approach women first, assuming you're a guy. not saying that's how it should be but that's how it is. I'm a woman and the only reason I've ever been in relationships is because someone approached me first. You do have to put yourself out there & talk to people & when you get along with someone ask them out, girls aren't going to magically flock to you even if you're the most attractive person on the planet.

 

[Komm_Süsser_Tod]

i'm guessing this question is directed at men but

this isn't strictly true because we still live in a society where men are usually expected to approach women first, assuming you're a guy. not saying that's how it should be but that's how it is. I'm a woman and the only reason I've ever been in relationships is because someone approached me first. You do have to put yourself out there & talk to people & when you get along with someone ask them out, girls aren't going to magically flock to you even if you're the most attractive person on the planet.

This is true, men are expected to approach first.

 

[Maaizr]

girls aren't going to magically flock to you even if you're the most attractive person on the planet.

this definitely happens, come on now

 

[NumbItAll]

This is true, men are expected to approach first.

Tbh I've never had any luck playing "the chase," and the rare successes I've had always involved a girl initiating things first (I still had to be accessible though). It almost feels like nothing I do actually matters. That might say more about me and the type of person I'm able to connect with than anything else though. Anyway, gender roles suck.

 

[SuicideM4n]

Yes, but they lose interest in me after a while, there was a girl who called me beautiful and also said she loved me, but after a while she stopped talking to me because according to her my conversations are not interesting, it turns out that I I don't have the social skills of a normal person, I don't know how to talk to people whether it's a woman or a man

 

[whatevs]

At least three. I'm such a fakecel.

 

[Komm_Süsser_Tod]

Yes, but they lose interest in me after a while, there was a girl who called me beautiful and also said she loved me, but after a while she stopped talking to me because according to her my conversations are not interesting, it turns out that I I don't have the social skills of a normal person, I don't know how to talk to people whether it's a woman or a man

I have a girl who calls me beautiful but she abuses me.

 

[Superdeterminist]

Yes, but only in HS. Nothing ever came of it. I'm glad someone showed interest in me for once in my life. If nobody ever had, I think I would feel even worse about my life.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

"Hugs drive oxycotcin production.
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Love is deeply biological. It pervades every aspect of our lives and has a profound effect on our mental and physical state. Without loving relationships, humans fail to flourish, even if all of their other basic needs are met.

As such, love is clearly not 'just' an emotion; it is a biological process that is both dynamic and bidirectional in several dimensions. Social interactions between individuals, for example, trigger cognitive and physiological processes that influence emotional and mental states(...)" (@neurohacker)

"Love matters, attachment matters, sex matters. It matters on a fundamental, biological, evolutionary perspective." (Helen Fisher, Ph.D.)

now answering your question, yes, but it was long time ago, and I do miss that.

Hard to top that feeling.

yes.

I'm a woman and the only reason I've ever been in relationships is because someone approached me first.

You do have to put yourself out there & talk to people & when you get along with someone ask them out

this is actually good advice.

I'm a man and the only girls I ever dated were girls who approached me too.
I guess approaching someone does help.

Guys with poor social skills, who never talk to anybody, who can't interact etc are going to have lower chances of finding a partner.

it's not that being social fixes everything and instantly makes you rich, beautiful, tall and confident, but it helps.

I have used online tools as a "walking stick" or to compensate for the fact that I don't have the ability to talk to people in real life, I managed to arrange dates in the past and it worked to some point, but this is not ideal. ideally I should just work on myself to learn how to interact with people and groups.

women are people, and if I don't interact to any people in real life, I can't expect to meet a lover.

 

[Ada]

Yeah. They still do, but I only want one.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I have heard of a few girls who liked me on a surface level but I guarantee they would not have liked the real me or there were other reasons I would not have liked them back so I did not pursue. I'll admit that I'm not an incel because of my appearance, but because of my mind's self sabotage. I don't really get any matches on dating apps though so I don't think I'm very attractive at all. Being tall alone isn't enough.

Only two girls I was mutually attracted to have ever shown interest in me. One was swept by another guy and the other (who liked me BECAUSE I was kind of ugly) came to her own decision that she ultimately wasn't right for me (ironic how she felt she wasn't good enough for me when I felt it was the other way around).

 

[fox_wannabe]

I had girl approach me and she was interested but I was planning to suicide next week so It didn't work. Sad times.
I think I am handsome but a bit weird

 

[Sarros]

Yeah, my prostitutes.

Joking aside, my last one told me she really did like spending time with me but I cut it off before I could get any stronger feelings for her.
The first instinct is that she's just saying that for my money but it was still a pretty dick move on my part to suggests that I couldn't tell if she was sincere because there was money involved. After all, she's human too so the chance was always there she was telling the truth.

All the more reason to cut it off though.

 

[Messgram]

Happened twice as a kid, Will never happen again

girls aren't going to magically flock to you even if you're the most attractive person on the planet.

this is a huge lie in every way

 

[OldDrummer]

Married twice, so I guess so. The key is being confident in your own skin.

 

[noname223]

As a teenager I think a girl liked me. I was not interested in her. I talked a lot of bullshit and then she stopped liking. This was kind of cringe but I absolutely don't regret not having agreed to anything. There was another woman I fucked it up or more specifically my mania and kind of my character. But I was manic...
There was a very overweight woman in clinic who had a crush on me. She was 20 years older than me, religious and thought people who commit suicide go to hell. Yeah I don't want to be mean. But I also don't regret that I have never contacted her anymore...

And I can remember one girl. Another girl wanted to make her a match with me. I did not wanted that I questioned her character. Later when I was very vulnerable she wanted to take advantage me (maybe a revenge because I did not not agree to a partnership). This was extremely disgusting. I still had contact to her but damn she had a horrible character...Bruh