Discussion Goodbye text/letter

[inviável]

I've been thinking about if I should leave a goodbye letter or send some texts, but I just feel it's a little bit too much, idk how people are going to react to it. It feels it would do more harm to them and a goodbye text feels so selfish but at the same time saying nothing could lead to such overthinking or confusion idk what to do

Please tell me ur opinions

 

[_wishforwings]

I know some people do individual letters for each person if they have a lot to say, I think handwritten letters might mean more than a text but it is always your decision

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

If sending texts or emails, make sure they're delayed at least until the following day, unless you want to be interrupted & "saved".

 

[idontknowwhatiam]

I've been thinking about if I should leave a goodbye letter or send some texts, but I just feel it's a little bit too much, idk how people are going to react to it. It feels it would do more harm to them and a goodbye text feels so selfish but at the same time saying nothing could lead to such overthinking or confusion idk what to do

Please tell me ur opinions

I wouldn't text unless you can delay the send. Depending on your method to CTB if you text someone you might be saved

 

[CosmicError]

Nah fuck em let em keep wondering

 

[RiftbornVeil]

If you absolutely wish to share a few parting words, then I advise doing so through email. You could make a new one for this purpose specifically as well. I say this because email is more customizable with delivery options.

That being said, physical letters (mailed) aren't a bad idea, but this is only if you trust the mailing system in your area and of course there will be a delay.

Generally, SMS texts aren't a good idea; they cannot be timed from what I know.

 

[idontknowwhatiam]

If you absolutely wish to share a few parting words, then I advise doing so through email. You could make a new one for this purpose specifically as well. I say this because email is more customizable with delivery options.

That being said, physical letters (mailed) aren't a bad idea, but this is only if you trust the mailing system in your area and of course there will be a delay.

Generally, SMS texts aren't a good idea; they cannot be timed from what I know.

They can be on android Google messages

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

If you absolutely wish to share a few parting words, then I advise doing so through email. You could make a new one for this purpose specifically as well. I say this because email is more customizable with delivery options.

That being said, physical letters (mailed) aren't a bad idea, but this is only if you trust the mailing system in your area and of course there will be a delay.

Generally, SMS texts aren't a good idea; they cannot be timed from what I know.

Sorry but I must chime in as I think sending actual letters in the mail is not a good idea. Once they've sent them out, there is no getting those back, and that could be a problem if they change their minds or need to postpone it for any reason. I'd hate to imagine someone going through with it when they've realized they really aren't ready just because that letter is in the mail & as a result, they feel they can't back out. It could also be problematic or awkward at the least if their method fails & they want to try again without interference.

Side note: I've received texts that had obviously been scheduled to be sent out on certain dates, so I know it can be done, tho I have yet to do it myself.

 

[uselessmanz]

I've been thinking about if I should leave a goodbye letter or send some texts, but I just feel it's a little bit too much, idk how people are going to react to it. It feels it would do more harm to them and a goodbye text feels so selfish but at the same time saying nothing could lead to such overthinking or confusion idk what to do

Please tell me ur opinion

Pointless. Wishing you peace.

 

[poppinpercs34]

I've been thinking about if I should leave a goodbye letter or send some texts, but I just feel it's a little bit too much, idk how people are going to react to it. It feels it would do more harm to them and a goodbye text feels so selfish but at the same time saying nothing could lead to such overthinking or confusion idk what to do

Please tell me ur opinions

if you want people to have closure, write out notes, i would also sign at the end too, but thats just me.

hope you find peace, whether you choose to ctb or not

 

[Rainork]

I've personally written out a few letters to those close to me- each in an envelope with their names on which will be left in my car when I ctb.

 

[kuroshimi]

In letter or text you can explain your intentions so the people will not remain in dark. But at the same time it could be misinterpreted. I still think it's better than leaving nothing.
Of course, there should be an option to delay a message.

Anyway, wishing you peace.

 

[charlavail]

something i've thought of doing as i was writing my letters is putting them in an envelope with the persons name and phone number. so at least theres a way they can get it. it they want to read it, they can open it if not, then they don't have to.

 

[mya_]

If you care about a specific person/people I would advise you to write the letter. Specially if they had nothing to do with it and you don't want them to suffer.