Going to a hotel to commit suicide

[Jessica5]

Is this a good idea?

I get you'd probably be less likely to be discovered if you try hanging.

However, I wonder if it's a good idea if you're doing suicide by gun. There would be a lot of people within a few hundred feet of you who would hear the gunshot. To make it all the worse, nobody's going to think it was fireworks or a power line explosion like your neighbors might if they hear the gunshot from your house.

 

[chlorine]

If I won't cbt until then, I'll wait until 18 and plan a trip somewhere alone so my family and friends can't find me and hang myself in a hotel. Or try bleeding to death again, maybe cutting my throat this time. I know it's a stupid method but I've already tried and went pretty deep and I could still bear the pain, so idk, hanging still remains on top of the list. But besides that, I think killing yourself in a hotel would be a good idea, if you have no desire to do it in a familiar place. Also woods are good for hanging. No one around usually, and you can die in relative peace.

 

[ImsooDone1N]

I think hotels are best for methods other than gunshot. Methods where you need privacy & an interval of time to not be discovered. So if one was using N, SN, Fentanyl, etc than hotel could be more ideal if you don't live alone & therefore have more control on your surroundings. But if one was using a gun, it's pretty instant, so no need for all the privacy. But it's different for everyone. Even if you live alone, some might still prefer a hotel, for many possible reasons.

 

[Its time its time]

People say that jumping in front of a truck is not ethical because it will truamatize the driver.

Then what about the cleaning lady (who usually is an elderly lady) finds your body hanging from somewhere, brains splashed out, body drowned in the tub or lifeless body foaming from the mouth on the bed..
To me that's not ethical at all too. Sometimes we are really narrow minded.

 

[thrwaway99]

However, I wonder if it's a good idea if you're doing suicide by gun. There would be a lot of people within a few hundred feet of you who would hear the gunshot. To make it all the worse, nobody's going to think it was fireworks or a power line explosion like your neighbors might if they hear the gunshot from your house.

Think normally the bigger problem is how to obtain a gun.

Once you've pulled the trigger it's too late to worry about neighbors.

 

[LonelyLight]

I don't think it's a good idea for that method personally

 

[About_to_Go]

People say that jumping in front of a truck is not ethical because it will truamatize the driver.

Then what about the cleaning lady (who usually is an elderly lady) finds your body hanging from somewhere, brains splashed out, body drowned in the tub or lifeless body foaming from the mouth on the bed..
To me that's not ethical at all too. Sometimes we are really narrow minded.

I've thought about this too. The reality is that someone will have to find you unless you go missing. The thing with going missing though is that it won't give closure to loved ones. Obviously, discovering a loved one's body would also be traumatizing.

When I tried to ctb I booked a hotel room, wrote a note to call the police and taped it on the bathroom door, and went inside the bathroom to die. This was the best thing I could think of, at least police officers would know that seeing dead bodies could be part of their job.

 

[chlorine]

People say that jumping in front of a truck is not ethical because it will truamatize the driver.

Then what about the cleaning lady (who usually is an elderly lady) finds your body hanging from somewhere, brains splashed out, body drowned in the tub or lifeless body foaming from the mouth on the bed..
To me that's not ethical at all too. Sometimes we are really narrow minded.

Any method requires someone finding your corpse, and if you manage to destroy it or hide it you will make everyone worried anyways, so yeah, if you wanna see it that way then killing yourself is not ethical, and i disagree on that. Many things can shock people, but that doesn't mean you can't make your choice, i know it would be hard for the people who will find you, but that's just how it is. Can't do nothing about it, suicide is not cute. But good job @About_to_Go on the police thing. It's all about minimizing the damage, not deleting it.

 

[Roger]

I imagine that placing a cloth bag - something like a pillow case - over the head might prevent the worst visual effects being seen by a person finding the body in many methods. Not all of course.

 

[Vidar33]

When using a hotelroom, I would leave two envelopes with some cash on a table in the room. One for the person that finds you and one for the hotel to cover expenses. To be honest: this is not an original idea of mine. I know this happened at a hotel in Germany. But I like the idea.

 

[Jessica5]

Think normally the bigger problem is how to obtain a gun.

Once you've pulled the trigger it's too late to worry about neighbors.

If your neighbors hear the blast, and call the police, and you aren't dead by the time the police arrive, you might survive looking like this.

This isn't even the worst picture I saw of a shotgun survivor, but I suspect some of the worst looking photos (documentingreality cough cough) are photoshopped.

 

[3dworldsucks]

If your neighbors hear the blast, and call the police, and you aren't dead by the time the police arrive, you might survive looking like this.

This isn't even the worst picture I saw of a shotgun survivor, but I suspect some of the worst looking photos (documentingreality cough cough) are photoshopped.

I wish suffering upon those that attempt to revive a person that attempted sucide, they should just let them go to rest.

Also, do you think adding a silencer to a handgun and just pulling the trigger next your head is a good way to die since noyone will hear the gunshot etc?

 

[Jessica5]

I wish suffering upon those that attempt to revive a person that attempted sucide, they should just let them go to rest.

Also, do you think adding a silencer to a handgun and just pulling the trigger next your head is a good way to die since noyone will hear the gunshot etc?

It's hard to really fault your neighbors for calling the police. They might have thought you fired a gun because of a burglar or something. Or even that a burglar was the one who fired the gun at you. Or alternately a burglar might have fired a gun at a window in order to get inside the house.

As for the EMTs? Yeah, I wish the worst kind of suffering on them.

Anyway, good luck getting a silencer. Under US law, you have to go through a 6 month training program-and even then they can refuse you. The burden of proof is on you to prove you're using the gun for hunting.

 

[Partial-Elf]

People say that jumping in front of a truck is not ethical because it will truamatize the driver.

Then what about the cleaning lady (who usually is an elderly lady) finds your body hanging from somewhere, brains splashed out, body drowned in the tub or lifeless body foaming from the mouth on the bed..
To me that's not ethical at all too. Sometimes we are really narrow minded.

This is tough... but someone's going to have to find you afterwards. All we can do is try to make sure it's not someone that knows and cares about us as it'd presumably be more traumatic for them.

If this was a big concern, you could also set something up like an envelope on the outside of the hotel door, or immediately inside the door while you're hanging in the bathroom with the door locked. Then it'd be first responders finding you, which is probably better since it's in their job description but it takes a toll on them as well.

 

[Egddios]

People say that jumping in front of a truck is not ethical because it will truamatize the driver.

Then what about the cleaning lady (who usually is an elderly lady) finds your body hanging from somewhere, brains splashed out, body drowned in the tub or lifeless body foaming from the mouth on the bed..
To me that's not ethical at all too. Sometimes we are really narrow minded.

There was a story in the NY Post regarding two friends who ended their lives together at the Yotel (a hotel in midtown). They planned it pretty well, from what I gathered from the reporting. They hung a sheet to prevent anyone who entered the room from immediately seeing their bodies. They left a detailed note of instruction for the cleaning service to call 911 and not enter the room further as they plainly indicated they were dead.

They also left a stack of money for the cleaning person, which, no - money doesn't exactly "heal" the trauma of entering a hotel room to find two deceased individuals, but I found the gesture to be kind and compassionate, all things considered.

Edited to add: I would advise against using a firearm to end your life in a hotel/motel. If one was planning to end their life in a forest or even their own home, then by all means, use a gun if you've got one. But bringing a gun into a hotel I can't recommend.

 

[Severen]

Is this a good idea?

I get you'd probably be less likely to be discovered if you try hanging.

However, I wonder if it's a good idea if you're doing suicide by gun. There would be a lot of people within a few hundred feet of you who would hear the gunshot. To make it all the worse, nobody's going to think it was fireworks or a power line explosion like your neighbors might if they hear the gunshot from your house.

You'd have to avoid using an armor piercing round otherwise, there is a risk you will kill an innocent person. Because hotel room walls don't have thick armor plating... They are usually thin and built the cheapest way possible.

 

[nw7]

There was a story in the NY Post regarding two friends who ended their lives together at the Yotel (a hotel in midtown). They planned it pretty well, from what I gathered from the reporting. They hung a sheet to prevent anyone who entered the room from immediately seeing their bodies. They left a detailed note of instruction for the cleaning service to call 911 and not enter the room further as they plainly indicated they were dead.

They also left a stack of money for the cleaning person, which, no - money doesn't exactly "heal" the trauma of entering a hotel room to find two deceased individuals, but I found the gesture to be kind and compassionate, all things considered.

Edited to add: I would advise against using a firearm to end your life in a hotel/motel. If one was planning to end their life in a forest or even their own home, then by all means, use a gun if you've got one. But bringing a gun into a hotel I can't recommend.

I guess you meant this story:

Pair leaves housekeeper tip before suicides in Manhattan hotel

A pair staying at a Hell’s Kitchen hotel left their housekeeper an ominous note and a cash tip — before they killed themselves inside their room, police sources told The Post on Friday. “Don’t look…

nypost.com

I'm planning to do something similar. Hang myself inside the washroom with the door open. But, cover the door frame with a bed sheet, and tape a warning note on the sheet.

 

[H2H2]

If its possible, trying to save enough money to book a room on a high end hotel would be even more considerate. High end hotels usually call some external service to clean the room after a suicide. Its their job and they are used to it as much as one can be. You spare the cleaning ladies of low end hotels the unpleasentsess of having to clean a bedroom/bathroom after a suicide. It doesnt matter how non messy the suicide has been, cleaning the room is still an unsettling thing to do.

 

[TowerUpright]

I've read that hotel suicides are more frequent then most people think. That site even offered suggestions on how to determine if the hotel room you were in had an act of violence in it.

I'd bet that hotel staff (at least at corporate hotels) have some sort of training / procedures to handle suicides / deaths / etc. Not that this diminishes the impact on them, of course. I like the idea of putting up a sheet / curtain with instructions on calling 911. That gives the lay staff an out. Also, leaving money probably wouldn't help - In the US, a place where a suicide occurred is considered a crime scene as I recall. That money wouldn't likely go the workers in the end, anyway. My bet is the hotel would keep it for clean-up costs.

 

[inconsequential]

Gonna be one very traumatized cleaning lady. I never advise this, really. They're strangers, they don't know you— you'd think it'd affect them less, but honestly, it may affect them more. Especially if it's a gunshot. Humans just aren't meant to see that much blood.

 

[TowerUpright]

Yeah - I saw that much blood at 15 years old, as an Ambulance Attendant. Along with doing CPR (unsuccessfully) on a heart attack victim. It messes you up. Probably why you have to be older now.

 

[Ampsvx123]

I cannot imagine leaving this world in a crowed area such as an hotel, I wouldn't take the risk unless as a last resort.

I live by the country side, it is totally dark by the new moon as there is little to no light pollution, surrounded by forest and silence I can camp anywhere, that is if you do not fear wild animals. I wouldn't want my last thoughts to have any anxiety such as "I hope the hotel staffs do not find me in time". Death ought to be nothing but serenity.

 

[Jean Améry]

People say that jumping in front of a truck is not ethical because it will truamatize the driver.

Then what about the cleaning lady (who usually is an elderly lady) finds your body hanging from somewhere, brains splashed out, body drowned in the tub or lifeless body foaming from the mouth on the bed..
To me that's not ethical at all too. Sometimes we are really narrow minded.

The difference here is rather glaring: in the case of jumping in front of a truck you're making the driver an accomplice so to speak since you use him as the instrument of your death. In the second case you're merely exposing your corpse to someone.

There's no way a cleaning lady will think it's somehow her fault while with drivers of trucks, trains etcetera who could not prevent the death of someone jumping in front of their vehicle tend to be wrecked with guilt and PTSD.

Granted it's not pleasant to have to be the one who discovered the body in case of suicide but given the lack of a good alternative (even when one goes into the woods it's likely the body will be discovered sooner or later) and provided the body isn't decomposing I don't see what's unethical about it. As opposed to the clearly unethical act of making someone feel directly, causally responsible for your death as in the case of the truckdriver.

What is highly unethical is that this society forces people who want to end their lives to behave like criminals and do the deed in secret, trying to avoid being found prematurely at all costs.

It would be entirely possible to make suicide legal and organize it in such a way no-one who didn't volunteer for it would have to see the body or have anything to do with the process at all. Of course this barbaric society denies us that possibility and lays all the blame on us.

In the case of gunshot one doesn't need time for the method to work so I don't see why anyone would choose a hotelroom as the location. Plus blowing one's brains out is very gruesome so it's probably best to do it in the countryside somewhere secluded. Given that someone is going to have to clean the room killing oneself this way in that location is very inconsiderate imo.

I do not get why one would rush into a hotelroom after hearing a gunshot: in that case you know it's either a crime in process or a suicide. The prudent thing to do in that case is to call the police and report what you heard.