girls my age…

[LittleMagician]

All these young women my age getting pregnant and I'm here scrolling through SaSu and playing grow a garden on Roblox </3

 

[cme-dme]

Idk man that sounds like the life to me <3

 

[DivineSpark]

I am not a woman, but I am child free male. Maybe it is good, I am just too fucked up to have any children, but most of my friends has successful careers, children, wives and such.

 

[razor543]

grow a garden is so good thou so i don't blame you

 

[Spicy Tteokbokki]

My stepsister got preggo not long ago, feel you.
At the same time me and many others just won't be having kids because the world is in ruins, yet at the same time I still really want a kid.
It's a weird place to be in.

 

[DivineSpark]

My stepsister got preggo not long ago, feel you.
At the same time me and many others just won't be having kids because the world is in ruins, yet at the same time I still really want a kid.
It's a weird place to be in.

It would be ideal for child to have both parents.

 

[22yearsbroken]

Always live your life your way... your life your choices... and that sounds like quiet a nice day, just chilling and talking..

 

[SecretDissociation]

Sounds like great time. I really should play Roblox again.

I find pregnancy such a weird thing it's actually biggest fear to be honest. Baby fever is a very foreign concept to me. I'd rather be forced to play Roblox than have a child.

Enjoy your game

 

[Dejected 55]

I don't think I ever spent much time thinking about helping to make kids of my own. I helped take care of a younger sister and also with her kids for a while too. I've learned through that, that I think I could have been a good father. But I never was in a situation to create kids so it is a moot point. I'm past that point now. I had a slight chance last year meeting a 40 year old woman that I really liked (still like, I can't help it) but as usual that was a non-starter... and while I try not to judge others, I don't want to be a 60 year old man chasing 30 year old women, which is pretty much what I'd have to do if I wanted children at my age now.

I'm not really jealous of what others have... I'm more jealous that I have never had anything in my life of meaning.

 

[Worndown]

Your happiness or worth are not judged by having children.
They are the greatest responsibility you can take on. Do it when you can succeed.
It sounds like you are not ready.
Play a few more levels of your game for now. Work on YOU before bringing a child into the world.

 

[Archness]

Don't worry too much about it.
It's not ALWAYS the best, and most meaningful thing to do.

 

[Lefty]

I'm male, but I'd rather not have children. I'm child-free, its probably best that way.

 

[astonishedturnip]

At 30, girls my age have established lives in different states with their long-term partner or husband, had a few kids, successful careers and big friend circles.

Meanwhile I'm a depressed virgin who just wants to get her copy of Oblivion Remastered to stop crashing.

It was Mother's Day today in the USA and it just twisted the knife. I wanted nothing more in life than to be a good wife and mother. Tick tock. So painful.

 

[Dejected 55]

At 30, girls my age have established lives in different states with their long-term partner or husband, had a few kids, successful careers and big friend circles.

Meanwhile I'm a depressed virgin who just wants to get her copy of Oblivion Remastered to stop crashing.

It was Mother's Day today in the USA and it just twisted the knife. I wanted nothing more in life than to be a good wife and mother. Tick tock. So painful.

My own mother passed away about 16 or 17 years ago. I've never had a wife or girlfriend, but today I found myself thinking about the woman I met a couple of years ago who I expressed interest in last year and ultimately broke my spirit and destroyed my sham of a life... and I thought about her probably spending today with her mother. I also do not know but sometimes wonder if she might have a child of her own from a previous relationship. Some things about her were a mystery to me, some questions unanswered... but today I had a couple of reasons to think and wonder about her.

I understand your feelings a bit from the other side of the coin. All I ever wanted was someone to share and grow and experience with and to build a home and a family with... and I never got that chance. I never will have that... and I want to be gone.

 

[RoseGirl]

> playing grow a garden on Roblox </3
BASED AF. I wish I was able to play roblox but the only thing I'm able to do is be a dumb whore :c
Tbh i know a lot of girls like that x3 my uhm best friend sits around all day playing idol games lol.

 

[partnerinpeace]

Would you like someone to play roblox with?

 

[TheBroken]

Having children in a trash-filled, contaminated world where 1 in 5 desperate humans live on less than $1 US a day - huge companies own everything - quality healthcare dwindles - and the possibility of making enough money to ever pay off debt and retire is nearly impossible - what could go wrong. Oh well, someone has to push out the next generation of servants and worker drones who's primary purpose is to be consumers and pay taxes.

 

[whywere]

I am of the age of either being a grandpa or great grandpa and never had any kids.

Back in the 1970's, I was considered a nerd because I was not having sex with any and every gal that came along unlike many other guys in my age group. Of course, I would also hear them grouching about having to pay child support and would never ever marry the gal that they had a kid with.

I started out at 18 homeless and hungry and I had so many other irons in the fire besides thinking of sex on a daily basis.

Fast forward to now, I am 69, and do I miss no having kid(s)? Yes, but overall no. There are enough humans on this planet now and I never could understand the aspect of caring on the "family name" since my "parents" kicked me out the day after I turned 18 and I never heard from them again ever, 100% their choice.

I travel for work a lot and when I am in an airport waiting for my flight, I see families having a great time together AND I also see a parent screaming at a child and it seems as if they are going to pull the kids arm out of their body, so?

It is a horse a piece I guess BUT just because someone else is doing whatever does NOT mean that anyone has to "keep up" with that individual and/or "fit" into any type of mold ever.

If I did it all over again, I still would not have any kids, as my life has turned out pretty much as I liked and also with HUGE mental illness issues running in my DNA, why would I want to pass it along and torment another poor soul?

Be you and NEVER EVER try to keep up, or fit in if it is not you, remember that "keeping up" is NOT going to make you happy in the short or long run. Being you minus peer pressure and the like is what happiness is.

Walter

 

[LittleMagician]

> playing grow a garden on Roblox </3
BASED AF. I wish I was able to play roblox but the only thing I'm able to do is be a dumb whore :c
Tbh i know a lot of girls like that x3 my uhm best friend sits around all day playing idol games lol.

Why can't you play Roblox?

 

[RoseGirl]

Why can't you play Roblox?

It takes too much energy :c
+ i get distracted while playing and go do something else

 

[Dejected 55]

Trying hard to go back to the original thought and not diverge onto my own nonsense.

Women have it worse than men when it comes to that "ticking clock" and children. I know it isn't uncommon for women in their early 40s to have children, but it isn't the norm and has some health drawbacks that aren't true usually for younger women.

If you don't want to have children, that is fine. Never let people pressure you. Tangent about my mother, not me, but my mother was 21 when she had me and she let all kinds of people talk her out of things. It wasn't en vogue in the 1970s to breastfeed so my mother let herself be talked out of it and she always regretted it. She had my sister when she was almost 40 and was looking forward to breastfeeding her but my mother had health problems and due to medications she needed to start back taking after pregnancy hiatus, she was unable to breastfeed. So she always felt bad about that and how she'd let others pressure her out of something she wanted.

Anyway, not wanting children or wanting them on your timetable is fine... but if you do want them, there is that realistic timetable that you probably can't be 50 and have them. It sort of forces you to shift that to when you are younger, when you might be better able to do other things you can't do later... and forces you to choose in a way a man doesn't.

A good man should support you all the way through pregnancy and raising the kids... but the man doesn't have to go through all the gestation and birth process and consequences of that strain on the body. And a man can impregnate women pretty much his entire life. You're hearing all the time about some 80 year old dude getting a 30 year old pregnant.

Now, for me a second... I want kids, but I never want to be that 70+ year old dude who has to be with a 30 year old to have kids. I'm not judging anyone, but I don't want to be that guy. I'm at the edge here at 55, and the woman I was trying to have a relationship was 40 and that's a significant age difference and out of my normal comfort zone but she is well mature at that age and if kids were still possible that's a plus and the age difference isn't offensive to me. But I digress on a thing that isn't happening.

Long story short. Don't judge your position in life based on other peers. Judge it based on where you want to be at this point in your life. If that disappoints you, then at least that is honest and not based on pressure outside of you.

 

[whywere]

Trying hard to go back to the original thought and not diverge onto my own nonsense.

Women have it worse than men when it comes to that "ticking clock" and children. I know it isn't uncommon for women in their early 40s to have children, but it isn't the norm and has some health drawbacks that aren't true usually for younger women.

If you don't want to have children, that is fine. Never let people pressure you. Tangent about my mother, not me, but my mother was 21 when she had me and she let all kinds of people talk her out of things. It wasn't en vogue in the 1970s to breastfeed so my mother let herself be talked out of it and she always regretted it. She had my sister when she was almost 40 and was looking forward to breastfeeding her but my mother had health problems and due to medications she needed to start back taking after pregnancy hiatus, she was unable to breastfeed. So she always felt bad about that and how she'd let others pressure her out of something she wanted.

Anyway, not wanting children or wanting them on your timetable is fine... but if you do want them, there is that realistic timetable that you probably can't be 50 and have them. It sort of forces you to shift that to when you are younger, when you might be better able to do other things you can't do later... and forces you to choose in a way a man doesn't.

A good man should support you all the way through pregnancy and raising the kids... but the man doesn't have to go through all the gestation and birth process and consequences of that strain on the body. And a man can impregnate women pretty much his entire life. You're hearing all the time about some 80 year old dude getting a 30 year old pregnant.

Now, for me a second... I want kids, but I never want to be that 70+ year old dude who has to be with a 30 year old to have kids. I'm not judging anyone, but I don't want to be that guy. I'm at the edge here at 55, and the woman I was trying to have a relationship was 40 and that's a significant age difference and out of my normal comfort zone but she is well mature at that age and if kids were still possible that's a plus and the age difference isn't offensive to me. But I digress on a thing that isn't happening.

Long story short. Don't judge your position in life based on other peers. Judge it based on where you want to be at this point in your life. If that disappoints you, then at least that is honest and not based on pressure outside of you.

ONE TRILLION PERCENT AGREE WITH YOU!!

Be you always, NOT someone else or their vision of you.

Walter

 

[milkteacrown]

I am the same as you. I personally feel as though I'm about 5-7 years developmentally stunted, though I'd consider myself an intelligent person. I don't have any need to start a family or be productive.

 

[Apathy79]

Do you want kids though?

I broke off my only long term relationship due to not wanting kids and her wanting them, even though I loved her. It's such a huge commitment and lifestyle change. Who knows how life would have gone had I stayed and had a family with her. It would fit the normal mould. But I seriously doubt I would have preferred it to what happened.

I think life feels rushed when you're young. Like you have to make all these life altering decisions quickly. When in reality you don't. But it is true if you wait a very long time, some of the options will disappear.