Girl at bakery rejected me

[N7_Alliance_Marine]

Fuck this bullshit. Getting rejected for no exaggeration over 100 times makes me feel like shit. I don't get used to it, in fact it only makes me feel worse and worse the more it happens. My rejection rate with online dating is much higher too with zero success rate too.

If the only thing I want in my wife is a woman and no women like me, I might as well shotgun my fucking head. I already tried it before but failed blowing a chunk off my face, maybe I should try it again.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I'm sorry things have been so hard...could it be a case of jumping straight to asking her out? I'd say I'd reject anyone who barely knew me but asked me out, I think starting out by being friends and getting to know each other makes it easier to ask out a bit later.

I'm just guessing what the problem is so I may be entirely wrong.

 

[N7_Alliance_Marine]

I'm sorry things have been so hard...could it be a case of jumping straight to asking her out?

Thanks for being nice. Possibly. I've known her for over a year now and I thought she liked me since she always tried to make small chit chat and smiled. I know women do that even when they don't like you but for some dumb fucking reason I thought this time was different.

I'd say I'd reject anyone who barely knew me but asked me out

Brutal. At least your honest.

, I think starting out by being friends and getting to know each other makes it easier to ask out a bit later.

I always try to do this but it seems like such a fucking waste of time since I either get blocked, friendzoned, or slowly ghosted.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

Thanks for being nice. Possibly. I've known her for over a year now and I thought she liked me since she always tried to make small chit chat and smiled. I know women do that even when they don't like you but for some dumb fucking reason I thought this time was different.


Brutal. At least your honest.

I always try to do this but it seems like such a fucking waste of time since I either get blocked, friendzoned, or slowly ghosted.

Oh, a year is quite a long time, I wouldn't say that's barely knowing the other person, at all. If someone made an effort to chat with me and smiled, I would assume they like my company. If internally they didn't like me, them they're giving opposite signals. Having said that, she may like you as a person but not interested in a romantic relationship. Which is painful to find out when you're in love with the other person...

When I said I would reject anyone that asked me out that barely knew me, I meant a stranger coming up to me to ask me out. I don't think it's brutal, it's a stranger, I don't know their intentions. When I was younger, boys would dare other boys to ask ugly girls out and if they accepted it, then make fun of them. Later on in life, I had a woman ask me out but she seemed to just want to get me to a secluded place and rob me. I wouldn't accept to go out with anyone I don't know well enough.

The dating world sucks, and just trying to make friends sucks too. Feels like we're all a ton more disconnected and a supposedly better person is always just a swipe away, things feel very transactional. I wish I had more advice to give, I'm battling with relationships myself, just not romantic ones, just trying to make a friend feels impossible.

 

[fleetingnight]

I'm sorry Rejection feels awful, and it honestly feels worse when you're kinda used to it, I think

 

[cotton]

Imo

Looks and money don't create happiness. There's no point thinking you're supposed to be happy if you have money or a specific looking face. They say the best people are kind, look after those they love, and exercise moderation to the world's justices and injustices.

People of all kinds come together, I've seen it.
Tall with short, tan with pale, young with old, people with teeth missing and people with a straight top set, highly educated with highly experienced, big with smol. It's good to get involved in things where there are lots of people to meet and this increases the odds of meeting someone.

I believe you can do it. Maybe the right place will mean you have found a place where she is.

I'll say this from the bottom of my heart, it's hard to find someone you match with, they aren't easy to find mate. It's even rarer they just bump into you.

But if you meet someone, ask if you can both become what your ideal partner and ideal self is like.

Beauty and love and compassion and all that stuff is from within, we create those feelings... I'm sorry this stuff is making your emotions clouded with frustration, I understand.

I just want to say, that it's possible. It's not impossible. Once we lose our expectations we begin to see what togetherness is really like, non-judgemental.