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toxicjester

toxicjester

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Dec 11, 2023
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How do you comfort your trans partner who doesn't pass? It doesn't matter what I personally believe about my partner but what she says is true. Whenever her dysphoria gets bad I can't help her. She's been on HRT for 4+ years and got nothing. What am I supposed to say or do? What would you want from your partner if you were in that position?
 
deathwish

deathwish

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Jun 16, 2018
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I'd check a forum or chat space for trans specific discussion, I'm sure you can get better answers. If you don't know where to start, just try hitting up reddit or discord. It sounds tough, I'm sorry and hope you can find some good advice. There's definitely others who've been there.
 
toxicjester

toxicjester

I’m just a baby seal 💜🦭
Dec 11, 2023
221
I'd check a forum or chat space for trans specific discussion, I'm sure you can get better answers. If you don't know where to start, just try hitting up reddit or discord. It sounds tough, I'm sorry and hope you can find some good advice. There's definitely others who've been there.
I've tried that but most people tend to just say "just be there for her!" And that's what I'm trying to do but it doesn't work. That or people will say "that's something you can't do anything about and that she has to work on" and that answer is so frustrating cause it doesn't do anything for either of us when she's having an especially bad time
 
deathwish

deathwish

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Jun 16, 2018
109
I've tried that but most people tend to just say "just be there for her!" And that's what I'm trying to do but it doesn't work. That or people will say "that's something you can't do anything about and that she has to work on" and that answer is so frustrating cause it doesn't do anything for either of us when she's having an especially bad time
Hii sorry for lateass response, I have email notifs going to wrong email.

Fuck those people. Check the appropriate resources like I said.
 
toxicjester

toxicjester

I’m just a baby seal 💜🦭
Dec 11, 2023
221
Hii sorry for lateass response, I have email notifs going to wrong email.

Fuck those people. Check the appropriate resources like I said.
You're fine

And those answers came from like trans specific reddits and a lot from specifically trans women which makes it all the more :(
 
deathwish

deathwish

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Jun 16, 2018
109
You're fine

And those answers came from like trans specific reddits and a lot from specifically trans women which makes it all the more :(
Damn, I'm sorry. I must have misread; you did specifically say those places were giving you those responses so my bad. I guess then all I can come up with is sometimes things just blow but since she's keeping up with HRT she's still trying and as long as that's true she's on track for improvement/things not blowing. And of course, not passing must be so painful but whatever fools may think, she's still a woman. Maybe you can help by looking for more inclusive circles for you both so she has to deal with less misunderstandings.
 
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