"Get a hobby"

[kopebaldy]

Sir, I have 2 hobbies to serve as brief distractions before going back to depressed as fuck.

I truly despise talking to the normals.

 

[The_Sadness_of_Life]

Sir, I have 2 hobbies to serve as brief distractions before going back to depressed as fuck.

I truly despise talking to the normals.

Hobby? Like a Woman you having sex with?

 

[batmanreal]

exactly. not to mention, it's literally common knowledge that depression makes an individual less interested in things they previously enjoyed. it's literally among the first couple of questions that you get asked during a depression screening; so saying "get a hobby" is genuinely just fucking stupid.
for most suicidal/depressed people, myself included, nothing is enjoyable. i had plenty of hobbies, but i've stopped caring about all of them because that's what depression does to a person.
i'm sorry you're having a hard time. it's unfortunate that we have to deal with this half-assed, nonsensical "advice", but i hope you have/are able to find people to talk to who can provide meaningful feedback.

 

[leviant123]

brief distractions before going back to depressed as fuck.

All hobbies do is give you that brief distraction, which is what it's meant to do, it doesn't actually solve anything, which doesn't actually help when you think about it. Hobbies never worked for me either lol. It

so saying "get a hobby" is genuinely just fucking stupid.

 

[TAW122]

Yeah, it's one of those banal platitudes that normies say a lot of the time... and oftenly, they do so in a derisive and smug manner.

 

[overmorrow]

i truly wish there was something fun to do nowadays

 

[Dejected 55]

And what if you get the "wrong" hobby? Maybe your hobby isn't "cool" or popular... then they criticize your choice of hobby as wasteful. OR what if you actually do get a hobby that you like and focus most of your time in it. Then you will be criticized for spending too much time on your hobby and not being more social. It really doesn't matter. Whatever you do is going to be wrong unless you do exactly what everyone else thinks you should do... and even then, something else will be wrong with you for them to pick at.

I went through this a time or two with people... where I tried, I did the things they suggested to do... then they would suggest adding something else... and on and on... and every time, there was always something else to criticize. It was tiresome... and a waste of time for me.

Be yourself... except not like that! Don't be yourself if it isn't what everyone else thinks you're supposed to do. But don't follow... be a leader, except you better lead the where they already want to go... and not for nothing... a leader has ZERO value without followers. Everyone can't be a leader. Most people, by necessity, are followers. We don't need MORE leaders... we just need better ones. Then everyone else can follow and the process works. Everyone trying to lead and most leading incorrectly is how we get into the mess we are always in as a society.

 

[Andarna]

But have you tried going to the gym? :P

When I finally found a hobby that was acceptable to others, they started pressuring me to turn it into a business. xD Now I look at my crafts as a waste of time and potential, and I'm even more depressed xD
It's never enough. It's never enough.

 

[kopebaldy]

they started pressuring me to turn it into a business

Ah the classic.

Yes, I would totally want to make the only spark of light left in this world into soulless money making scheme please.

 

[Sadbanana]

Every time I tell my dad, that I have nothing to do, becuase nothing gives me joy anymore. He starts to list all the chores around the house. I would probably prefer if he just told me to "get a hobby".

 

[ringo99]

That's a new one. I rate a few steps step above "Just don't feel depressed then"

 

[Andarna]

Yes, I would totally want to make the only spark of light left in this world into soulless money making scheme please.

Exactly. It's good to hear that I'm not the only one who thinks this way. :) Hugs

 

[Dejected 55]

People who tell you that you are "talented" and should "sell that" or "go into business" never have any interest in patronizing your business when you do it. I've seen it many times over.

 

[Leve]

Ah the classic.

Yes, I would totally want to make the only spark of light left in this world into soulless money making scheme please.

O! Capitalism! How it tears apart any semblance of dignity we have left into shreds. The spectacle is brutal, and I relate to this too much. Everything is monetized, and if you find any escape in a hobby, you're told to make it into a job! It just kills my passion for things and makes any hobby I have less enjoyable. :/

 

[Forveleth]

I have a few hobbies and actually enjoy them. Yes the distractions may be brief but they also bring me the only positivity I have in my life right now.

 

[Quietist]

There are hobbies I'd love to take up if I had the financial resources and the skill.

I want to do leathercrafting, but I suck ass at cutting in a straight line and fucking up a piece of Italian leather is expensive.

I'd love to get into hacking/programming/electronics to build gadgets but I don't have the mental capacity to learn the technicalities.

I really want to be an electronic musician and play synths and record albums, but alas, I don't have thousands of dollars at my disposal and buying even one synth is like the price of a whole laptop.

 

[Kitsuné_]

"K I will try to find a hobby"

...Knots

 

[Forever Sleep]

It is weird. It's like saying- be interested in this. Enjoy this flavour or, this piece of music. We have preferences. Sadly, sometimes we can't find anything we like enough to invest our time, money, or attention in.

The worst for me though was wanting to have a creative career and hearing- Even if you don't succeed, you could always do it as a hobby. So- it can work in the opposite direction too. Something you want so badly in your life and you're told you should be satisfied with scraps. Imagine telling wanna be parents- nevermind that you can't have children- there's always babysitting.

It's so weird when any of us tell one another what should make us happy or, what we should be satisfied with.