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openBottomJeans

won’t see what might’ve been…
Jul 4, 2025
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Personally, I've told my best friend that when I die… do NOT grieve me. Celebrate me. Celebrate me getting out of this hell hole. Celebrate who I was, and who I get to be. I want dancing and drinking. Funny memories of me shared.

I don't want a pity party. Just have fun…
 
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F@#$

Freedom seeker
Nov 8, 2023
997
Neither, my death will hopefully be mostly unnoticed. Nobody to mourn or celebrate when there's nobody.
 
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knickknack81

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Apr 28, 2025
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I would say celebration of life but if one is to CTB, I doubt many people will be in a very celebratory mood. I'm sure a lot of people would be to sad and devastated to think about anything then how sad it is what they "could have done".
 
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openBottomJeans

won’t see what might’ve been…
Jul 4, 2025
103
I would say celebration of life but if one is to CTB, I doubt many people will be in a very celebratory mood. I'm sure a lot of people would be to sad and devastated to think about anything then how sad it is what they "could have done".
Very true… although those feelings will fade. I don't think a celebration directly after the incident would be appropriate for most family members, but eventually , sure
 
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Pale_Rider

Pale_Rider

Elementalist
Apr 21, 2025
854
No service. Treat me like you treated me in life. Drop me in a hole in the ground, and call it a day.
 
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openBottomJeans

won’t see what might’ve been…
Jul 4, 2025
103
No service. Treat me like you treated me in life. Drop me in a hole in the ground, and call it a day.
No box? I hope they cremate me at least. Toss me back in the water 😆
 
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calebzz1

calebzz1

What is it like to see single and clearly?
Jan 6, 2024
92
I honestly never liked funerals because of the finality which is why I have never been to one personally even for family.

I think the experience is just too much to deal with emotionally.

I remember one of my choir teachers back in high school stating that there were "celebrations of life" like you described and it greatly piqued my interest.
 
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openBottomJeans

won’t see what might’ve been…
Jul 4, 2025
103
I honestly never liked funerals because of the finality which is why I have never been to one personally even for family.

I think the experience is just too much to deal with emotionally.

I remember one of my choir teachers back in high school stating that there were "celebrations of life" like you described and it greatly piqued my interest.
Exactly .. "because of the finality" .. that's why we never had a funeral for my mother. Maybe her mother did out in CT, but back home we just cremated her and that was that. To me, she's still alive.. somewhere..
 
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Cauliflour

Cauliflour

The masochist who doodles.
Mar 24, 2025
350
Funeral Suppose it depends on what you did in your life and how you died if it's a funeral or a celebration. Personally I would want it to be like a rave in that funeral hall so all the guests have at least 1 positive memory about me. I'll also have some crude cakes made in my design with some dark humour shit and make the party more elaborate than my dream for a wedding. I guess my suicide note will double as a party plan...
 
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CatLvr

Enlightened
Aug 1, 2024
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Neither. I do not want the only 2 people who love me to waste a single solitary dime having a "celebration of life" for a bunch of people to show up at and act like they are "devastated" I'm gone when they've only ever seen or spoken to me a half dozen times in the last 30-40 years.

I want them to take the money and property I leave them and go do something FUN. Something they've always wanted to do but maybe thought they couldn't afford. Remember the good times; make more good memories for yourselves and let the rest of the world forget me. They never really cared for me anyway. These 2 though, they would move heaven and earth for me. And that knowledge alone is enough for me.
 
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Ligottian

Enlightened
Dec 19, 2021
1,054
I've given these instructions to my sister if she outlives me.

Cremation
Cremains paced in the cheapest container
Burial in a plot my parents bought decades ago
No service, preacher, relatives, etc.

Since she will inherit everything I have, I hope she honors my wish.
 
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kopebaldy

Student
Jul 5, 2025
147
Cheapest cremation possible -> nearest trash can or unmarked grave.

But knowing family, they gonna make a whole wasteful ceremonial bullshit on it.
 
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cemeteryismyhome

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Mar 15, 2025
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Personally I prefer the word "funeral". To me, "celebration of life" seems like trying to water it down and put a smiley face sticker on death. I could see having a "celebration of life" for a pregnancy or birth. Just my probably unpopular opinion.
 
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Redacted24

Might be Richard Cory... or not
Nov 20, 2023
494
Maybe a one year "destination ash deposit" commemoration, like in the Serengeti or a Dave and Busters washroom bin?

Drinks, games and finally got those darn ashes out of the way?
 
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DeadSouls

DeadSouls

Member
Jun 23, 2025
87
Nothing. Just want it over, like I'd never existed.
 
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PI3.14

PI3.14

what is chaos to the fly is normal to the spider
Oct 4, 2024
193
I don't think my family will be in the mood to celebrate my life. Plus, I've achieved nothing and so there is nothing to celebrate.
 
openBottomJeans

openBottomJeans

won’t see what might’ve been…
Jul 4, 2025
103
Neither. I do not want the only 2 people who love me to waste a single solitary dime having a "celebration of life" for a bunch of people to show up at and act like they are "devastated" I'm gone when they've only ever seen or spoken to me a half dozen times in the last 30-40 years.

I want them to take the money and property I leave them and go do something FUN. Something they've always wanted to do but maybe thought they couldn't afford. Remember the good times; make more good memories for yourselves and let the rest of the world forget me. They never really cared for me anyway. These 2 though, they would move heaven and earth for me. And that knowledge alone is enough for me.
I like the way you think :)
Cheapest cremation possible -> nearest trash can or unmarked grave.

But knowing family, they gonna make a whole wasteful ceremonial bullshit on it.
To me, yeah, don't waste unnecessary money on me. I'm already gone. Like CatLvr said earlier , go take that money and go do somthing FUN
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Personally I prefer the word "funeral". To me, "celebration of life" seems like trying to water it down and put a smiley face sticker on death. I could see having a "celebration of life" for a pregnancy or birth. Just my probably unpopular opinion.
Ive heard that before. I agree, celebration of life would be more appropriate for a child birth.. like .. "welcome to living! Let's celebrate!" But dang, who would want to celebrate this?? The elite??
Maybe a one year "destination ash deposit" commemoration, like in the Serengeti or a Dave and Busters washroom bin?

Drinks, games and finally got those darn ashes out of the way?
I like that. Bring my ashes to a McDonald's and feed me a nugget lol
Well maybe a pine box if they insist.
Put some saw dust in there too lol
 
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