Friend Called Suicide Hotline on Me Twice in One Day

[moonsafari]

I know exactly which one of my close friends called a suicide hotline on me yesterday after I unintentionally leaked out some things I didn't mean to say. I didn't hate her for that but she kept pestering me with questions like, "Are you sure you're okay? This is serious." She did it for the second time last night and some government agency reached out to my parents.

Needless to say, I am horrible at keeping my own secrets and that will improve. I know a lot of friends truly care about me but sometimes I feel suffocated when they're trying to help me. I appreciate it but some people don't understand it would hurt me more than it would help me to refer me to a mental health agency. My friend's mother had attempted suicide, and authorities threatened to jail like suicide was a crime. People have been forced against their will into institutions and come back out not much better.

From my understanding, I don't like the idea of people interfering with my thoughts and plans. The very idea of getting forced into an institution is a nightmare. I don't know how those people think they can manage to change severely depressed peoples' minds by manipulating them or trying to force the truth out of them.

 

[Donk]

jailing people for attempted suicide is absurd. which country is this?

 

[moonsafari]

jailing people for attempted suicide is absurd. which country is this?

I'm in the US, more specifically Virginia. I believe states have their own jurisdictions over suicide.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I'm curious about LE reaching out to your parents instead of you. Are you under 18? Do you share the same residence? Did LE show up in person or call? If they called, why not your phone?

 

[moonsafari]

I'm curious about LE reaching out to your parents instead of you. Are you under 18? Do you share the same residence? Did LE show up in person or call? If they called, why not your phone?

No, I turned 18 in March so I'm legally an adult now. I was a senior before our governor closed all schools due to COVID so we weren't given a chance to properly graduate and now I'm stuck at home w/ parents. I suppose they reached out to my parents first since I'm living under their roof and it hasn't been long since my birthday.

 

[felix]

My "friend" called the cops on me he just took the noose and left but wanted to take me away

 

[HelensNepenthe]

I'm in the US, more specifically Virginia. I believe states have their own jurisdictions over suicide.

It's possible you're referring to common laws. Some states recognize English common law too but it's extremely limiting.

 

[moonsafari]

My "friend" called the cops on me he just took the noose and left but wanted to take me away

I'm confused, your friend called the cops on you, then the cops came took your noose?

 

[felix]

I'm confused, your friend called the cops on you, then the cops came took your noose?

Yes

 

[Nem]

A friend (or so called friend) called the cops on me after I left them a message saying I was struggling like hell. This was right after my dr nearly killed me and I was really fucked up. Most cops are probably assholes and the ones that showed up were no exception
Peace/hugs

 

[Poptart]

My ex called the cops on me. I was driving to a park to shoot myself in the head. They pinged my phone off a cell tower when I turned it on. They found me and handcuffed me and sent me away to psyche.

My sister called the cops on me when I OD'd on the phone to my nanny. The cops came knocking on my door and had paramedics carry me out to an ambulance. I was too fucked up to care honestly.

 

[Donk]

man that why this site is so awesome. no one will snitch on you..well they cant anyways...but my point is we wouldnt be able to express how shitty we really feel without repercussions if this site didnt exist. nobody will judge you for being suicidal.

 

[moonsafari]

My ex called the cops on me. I was driving to a park to shoot myself in the head. They pinged my phone off a cell tower when I turned it on. They found me and handcuffed me and sent me away to psyche.

My sister called the cops on me when I OD'd on the phone to my nanny. The cops came knocking on my door and had paramedics carry me out to an ambulance. I was too fucked up to care honestly.

How did your ex know you were driving to the park to kill your self?

 

[Poptart]

How did your ex know you were driving to the park to kill your self?

he didnt know specifically. He had just cheated on me. I found out while he was at work. I called and we got in a fight over it and I ended the call by saying I was going to end it all. I was so very hyper emotional and devastated.

Ive tried to CTB before so he took me seriously and sent the cops looking for me.

 

[faust]

After I told my friend I am going to CTB, he did not call anywhere, but I perfectly understand there are people who may contact certain institutions
So he was the one person irl I told about my intentions, but eventually had to say that these were only my thoughts.
He has been suicidal since 2017 and was often telling me that he wants to die. I thought if he is suicidal, it is safe to tell him about my intentions. But he was merely "prolifing" me and talking about brain, like it is my fault I know nothing how brain works.
There were some more people I told I want to die, but I did not mention about my intentions. Nobody called anybody. So guess I am lucky in this case.
When I had akathisia and dystonia and reached for help (emergency department), I was telling I am suicidal, but nobody paid attention.

 

[WhyamIstillhere]

Not proud of it, but I've called authorities to check on a friend before.

 

[moonsafari]

There were some more people I told I want to die, but I did not mention about my intentions. Nobody called anybody. So guess I am lucky in this case.
When I had akathisia and dystonia and reached for help (emergency department), I was telling I am suicidal, but nobody paid attention.

I'm surprised they didn't do anything to help you, that's pretty ignorant anyways.

Not proud of it, but I've called authorities to check on a friend before.

You know, I think even as a suicidal person myself I would still be extremely worried, especially about a friend who calls to tell me that they're gonna CTB. I get worried naturally.

 

[faust]

I'm surprised they didn't do anything to help you, that's pretty ignorant anyways.

You know, I think even as a suicidal person myself I would still be extremely worried, especially about a friend who calls to tell me that they're gonna CTB. I get worried naturally.

Probably they thought my state made me feel suicidal.

 

[MisanthropyInsanity]

I have been reported in the past. Back when I was in high school, I told a friend I wanted to kill myself, and that bitch told the resource officer, who then called my mom. It caused a bunch of trouble. I never trusted that bitch again.

 

[Walilamdzi]

My Dad has been threatening to phone the police.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

Dodged it.

Suffice to say, my views about this friend have radically changed.

 

[134340]

It can be helpful to try and see these situations from their point of view – they aren't inside your head or living your life, so they don't know the magnitude of pain you're in. All they see is someone they care about potentially dying, and when you think about it that way, I think it changes things a bit. I understand how annoying and frustrating it is to have the authorities called on you (been there more than a few times), but you've gotta think, when you tell a non-suicidal person that you want to die, they're going to worry and possibly panic. Because they care about you and they feel helpless and that's all they can do in the moment. They don't know that it's potentially crueller to keep you alive than to let you die, they're only viewing it as losing someone they love. I think it's potentially a bit unfair to fault people for caring and worrying because they're viewing this on the base level: someone I love is about to die, what can I do to prevent it.

Please know that this post is in no way trying to spread guilt/shame or saying that the way youre feeling is wrong, I'm just putting it out there because I've thought about why people do this and tried to understand the other side of this a lot. I'm glad you dodged being institutionalized and I hope you find a solution that offers you peace soon.

 

[Erase.myself]

I've gotten the cops called on me by my friend when I was attempting suicide. This was one week after my twin sister died (May 27th, 2019) and I just wanted to go be with her. I took 25 Klonopin and drank a lot of vodka and apparently had called my friend in this state and told her goodbye and what a great person she was (BIG DRUNK MISTAKE) . Memory fades in and out but I do recall cops coming to my place and grabbing me by the arms forcing me into an ambulance. I was trying to get away from them but they were very persistent. Ended up in Intensive Care for a while then transfered to psych.

 

[moonsafari]

It can be helpful to try and see these situations from their point of view – they aren't inside your head or living your life, so they don't know the magnitude of pain you're in. All they see is someone they care about potentially dying, and when you think about it that way, I think it changes things a bit. I understand how annoying and frustrating it is to have the authorities called on you (been there more than a few times), but you've gotta think, when you tell a non-suicidal person that you want to die, they're going to worry and possibly panic. Because they care about you and they feel helpless and that's all they can do in the moment. They don't know that it's potentially crueller to keep you alive than to let you die, they're only viewing it as losing someone they love. I think it's potentially a bit unfair to fault people for caring and worrying because they're viewing this on the base level: someone I love is about to die, what can I do to prevent it.

Please know that this post is in no way trying to spread guilt/shame or saying that the way youre feeling is wrong, I'm just putting it out there because I've thought about why people do this and tried to understand the other side of this a lot. I'm glad you dodged being institutionalized and I hope you find a solution that offers you peace soon.

Thank you, your words mean a lot! I see what you mean.

 

[Partial-Elf]

I have friends I've spoken openly with, but I always make it seem like I would never act on my ideation. They've been suicidal or near-suicidal at some point, so they get it. I'm working on keeping my cards closer to my chest though... drinking less helps.

On the other end of the spectrum, I'm in a job where I'm required to report any signs of suicidality to the higher ups or risk losing my career. My first year, I was very risk averse and paranoid and reported a few times. They were minor issues, so as far as I'm aware there wasn't any real blowback for them–but I still feel bad.

This year there are some who I know are likely suicidal, but they know what not to say. This is probably ideal because we're able to work together pretty openly without getting into mandated reporter zone.

This career was the worst fucking choice and is a big reason for my desire to ctb. I hope I get struck by lightning soon.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

No, I turned 18 in March so I'm legally an adult now. I was a senior before our governor closed all schools due to COVID so we weren't given a chance to properly graduate and now I'm stuck at home w/ parents. I suppose they reached out to my parents first since I'm living under their roof and it hasn't been long since my birthday.

Smack in the middle of June Gemini... though I really, really despise my impulsive and sometimes overly-excited traits. I wish I were a Capricorn, or a Scorpio. Maybe life would have been easier if I had a calm temperament.

 

[TAW122]

I'm sorry to hear that about your friend reporting your suicidal thoughts and ideation as well as trying to interfere with your choices (it's your body and your own life, plus you are an legal adult so you should be able to have a choice in whether to live or CTB). My suggestion now would be to evaluate your current situation (only you know your situation best) and try to reassure everyone that things are fine (even if it is hell for you) so that it will blow over sooner than later. Then after they get off your case and are less overbearing, then you can decide what you wish to do next.

My ex called the cops on me. I was driving to a park to shoot myself in the head. They pinged my phone off a cell tower when I turned it on. They found me and handcuffed me and sent me away to psyche.

Oh my god, that is unsettling. I may even consider just ditching my phone due to the risk of being tracked down by cellphone towers. Might consider investing in an GPS that is separate from my phone and leaving no red flags (no mentioning of CTB or anything).

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I'm sorry to hear that about your friend reporting your suicidal thoughts and ideation as well as trying to interfere with your choices (it's your body and your own life, plus you are an legal adult so you should be able to have a choice in whether to live or CTB).

S/he does not seem to be a legal adult. See my post above yours where I quoted that she claims she turned 18 in March but in another post claimed she's a Gemini with a June birthday.

She also posted another thread today, now locked, that her membership here was discovered. Things don't add up between that thread and this one.