Forming relationships never could do it, how are others able to do it? Yet others struggle

[Journeytoletgo]

What is the relationship hack/code?

 

[unlucky melancholia]

Same... I want to know... several people just tried to manipulate me into sex but they didn't want a relationship with me. My ex told me they almost never liked me romantically because I'm very unattractive and I have unappealing aspects... I'm pretty sure no one would ever like me because of how bad I am... I'm an annoying piece of shit that causes other people troubles because of all the traumas that distorted my personality and my freaking autism

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Same... I want to know... several people just tried to manipulate me into sex but they didn't want a relationship with me. My ex told me they almost never liked me romantically because I'm very unattractive and I have unappealing aspects... I'm pretty sure no one would ever liked me because of how bad I am... I'm an annoying piece of shit that causes other people troubles because of all the traumas that distorted my personalities and my freaking autism

I am SO proud of you for not giving in. However dont be so hard on yourself, I'm sure you're not as bad as you presume you are

 

[unlucky melancholia]

Actually I gave in multiple times to multiple guys. Last year I was sexually assaulted by a guy and I still have PTSD symptoms from it...

I am SO proud of you for not giving in. However dont be so hard on yourself, I'm sure you're not as bad as you presume you are

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Finding kindred spirits and connecting.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Actually I gave in multiple times to multiple guys. Last year I was sexually assaulted by a guy and I still have PTSD symptoms from it...

I am so sorry for that. I hope you recover and find peace

 

[callme]

Finding kindred spirits and connecting.

Only if I knew what that means. It's beyond me. People of anime avatars may know though. Apparently you too, but will you say?

 

[unlucky melancholia]

Only if I knew what that means. It's beyond me. People of anime avatars may know though. Apparently you too, but will you say?

Anime is not real life though... in real life it's almost impossible

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Only if I knew what that means. It's beyond me. People of anime avatars may know though. Apparently you too, but will you say?

When you're feeling bad and feeling bad about yourself, it's not easy. Other human beings only seem to mirror our worst fears. But there's kindred spirits who are similarly down. There's some here on SS. Reach out. Connect.

 

[Marktheghost]

Don't be friendly to people. That's the message I'm getting from my experiences of trying to make friends. I invited someone out somewhere because I had nobody else to go with for example, and even that seems to have been deemed inappropriate/harassing/over-friendly!

I wish I knew how to form relationships!!

 

[ornitier199]

Being too nice gets me walked over by everyone, especially in relationships. This may have bene the result of PS since, you know... money; but no, it's with everyone.
But not being doesn't sit well with me, never has, even if I tried to have a "hard-edge" (cloud reference) I'd end up apologizing right after. To kind = bad?

 

[Pain In The Ass]

I suspect that humans are tribal, and early friendships made when young, at school, are the equivalent of bonding with your tribe, who you'll generally be with for life, and if these early friendships are lost, or were never made in the first place, some people suffer quite badly in adulthood, and struggle to form the same kind of bonds as adults

 

[TheWood]

The keywords for having stable and non-toxic relationships are balance, trust, freedom and mutual respect. Each accepts the other as they are without wanting to change them and above all wanting to overwhelm them (with insults, humiliations, mistreatments etc.). The only problem is finding such situations is not that easy, so sometimes it's much better not to mess up your life and think for yourself

 

[TakeMeBack07]

similar perspectives and reciprocity.
trust builds on reciprocity

 

[Marktheghost]

Being too nice gets me walked over by everyone, especially in relationships. This may have bene the result of PS since, you know... money; but no, it's with everyone.
But not being doesn't sit well with me, never has, even if I tried to have a "hard-edge" (cloud reference) I'd end up apologizing right after. To kind = bad?

Yeah, same here. Being unfriendly is against my nature, and I'd probably just apologize straight afterwards. I wouldn't have thought there was such thing as over-friendly! Surely the more friendly you are to people, the better?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

For starters, don't pick up some hobby or interest to obsess over that will repel people from ever finding you relationship material. Works really well for me. Either that or the act of simply being me is enough to guarantee zero relationship potential so just don't be me.