NSFW Finding someone to take care of me financially?

[trashprincess]

Hi everyone! TrashyP here, and I'm looking for some advice. Short story is I feel incapable of providing for my financial needs, and also feel an obsessive need to be an object, so I thought I'd try putting the two together and see if I can find someone to take care of my financial needs, presumably by sleeping with them, and I'm looking for advice on how I could find an arragement like that.

Long story...

I live in USA, in a queerphobic town (am transgender) where I've been attempted assulted. I don't drive and the only ways out are riding a bike on a street made for cars for way too long, or a bus stop that's a 30min walk away, and oh yeah I also got both SA'd there and followed home.

I live with my mom. She's an emotion vampire. Abandoned me when I was young, and the only thing she's every had to say about it is how she's the real victim when it came to abandoning her children. She uses me as her therapist, discourages any attempt I have at bettering my life. The life she offers is miserable and if I try to say or do anything about it she just cries. And I can't express anything at all, because she'll either get upset or just talk over me, or just tell me how my problems aren't a big deal. Basically I'm supposed to just sit there and stare the wall, while telling her how happy I am, when in actuality, I'm rapidly approaching suicidality.

Oh yeah also I live in the room my brother killed himself in

We poor af over here. I need money and its just too hard to make it here. I don't feel safe working in the town, and its just too hard to commute outside of it. Also I've been trying to work my whole adult life, and I've only ever gotten worse at it. At this point I just can't handle it anymore. Don't really have any skills for internet money, and also I have akimbo tendinitis, and even just typing out this message is hurtin'. Also interfering with work is Crohn's disease, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and I think Autism and ADHD (and probably one other thing). I really tried, and its genuinely not working.

I need to heal if I'm going to ever be able to provide for myself. But I can't do that if I'm burning myself out working, living in the most miserable house, where I'm trapped in because its too hard to leave. I need to be saved. But that doesn't exist so I'm hoping I'm hot enough that someone will let me live with them if I let them do things to my body. I'm seriously desparate here and this is the kind of life that would make sense to me. Being normal adult doesn't :c

So I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on the matter. Specifically I'm looking for any kind of arrangement that results in someone else providing for my finacial needs. I'm assuming it would involve me doing sex things for whoever would take care of me, in addition to whatever other services I can provide, but I'm open to anything right now. Also something I could possibly find in a few months (I'm dying over here :c) From my perspective it feels impossible.. But my older (also trans) sister has managed to be taken care of most of her adult life, and she's the most unpleasant person I know (also why I'm not just asking her).

Specifically, looking to answer the questions: Could I find an arrangement where someone else provides for me, what kind of arrangement might that be, and how could I seek out an arrangement like that.

For context I am a 31 year old Transwoman who apparently looks much younger (estrogen + physically fit). Despite being pretty early transition, I can actually be pretty heckin' cute methinks, and I'm pretty smol for a transfem (5'9"). I have good domestic skills (cook + clean), and live to please others. I live in a smaller, bigoted town, but its in a pretty large metro area.

Kinda wanna post a photo with my face obscured to help provide context, but not sure on the safety of it?

Please ask any questions you have if you think you might have any advice.

Is this a coherant post?

 

[druggedonsurvival]

I don't know you personally, but I imagine the scenario you are describing would probably make you more miserable. Living with someone who only allows you to do so to have sex with you is going to be horrible for your self-esteem, if you have any to begin with, and it doesn't sound like a sustainable situation anyhow. I can appreciate you trying to find an escape in some way, but I have a feeling this is not something you really want. Just my two cents, though. Like I said, I don't know you personally and it's up to you at the end of the day. I would also advise against posting any pictures of yourself here if you value your privacy at all.

All that said, I hope your situation improves. It sounds pretty shitty.

 

[just dave]

If you're willing to travel to larger cities your outlook in general may improve. You have to find yourself first I think. You've been trapped in an unfriendly place for too long.

Be well.

 

[sserafim]

I'm wondering this as well. If anyone does, feel free to DM me :)

 

[Aesthetic guy]

i understand you my friend, been there somehow.
but asking such a thing in a community that the majority of its members want to kill themselves probably is not a good idea.
try reddit or dating apps.

 

[noname223]

I'm wondering this as well. If anyone does, feel free to DM me :)

I can only agree with the mods. Your behavior on this issue attracts bad apples with evil intentions. Be really careful with it...

However, if I was a woman I would also try to go this way. I know at least one woman who successfully went down this road in real life. But SaSu is not the right place to follow this strategy.

 

[Unicr0n]

. Specifically I'm looking for any kind of arrangement that results in someone else providing for my finacial needs. I'm assuming it would involve me doing sex things for whoever would take care of me, in addition to whatever other services I can provide

This is called being a stay-at-home wife. There are plenty of men looking for something like that; not all of them are very wealthy. Most of them make the average wage in America, which you will have to be OK with. You won't be able to spend big—you must be conservative with spending. You will have to find something to occupy yourself, perhaps a part time job.

Many men would be OK with you being in the house so long as you're making babies. I talked to a dude through comments on my art for two years. We met up just on a friendly basis. He said he would've totally liked me to have his kids [when the topic came up] and would've let me stay there and be his wife [and I didn't have to get a job, though I was making money on my art]. I would've done it too if his sex drive wasn't astronomically high.

But them accepting you with the offer of sex only [you not wanting to get pregnant]? You're just a tool to them at that point and they will throw you out once they get sick of you. You'd have to be hot and they'd have to be desperate [no one has slept with them in >3 years] and likely a loser to the general world for you to be a keeper to them otherwise.

note: Just realised you are trans. Don't hide that or you really risk getting killed. Be 100%%% upfront so that the man knows what he's getting into.

You could also just be a prostitute.

 

[sserafim]

This is called being a stay-at-home wife. There are plenty of men looking for something like that; not all of them are very wealthy. Most of them make the average wage in America, which you will have to be OK with. You won't be able to spend big—you must be conservative with spending. You will have to find something to occupy yourself, perhaps a part time job.

Many men would be OK with you being in the house so long as you're making babies. I talked to a dude through comments on my art for two years. We met up just on a friendly basis. He said he would've totally liked me to have his kids [when the topic came up] and would've let me stay there and be his wife [and I didn't have to get a job, though I was making money on my art]. I would've done it too if his sex drive wasn't astronomically high.

But them accepting you with the offer of sex only [you not wanting to get pregnant]? You're just a tool to them at that point and they will throw you out once they get sick of you. You'd have to be hot and they'd have to be desperate [no one has slept with them in >3 years] and likely a loser to the general world for you to be a keeper to them otherwise.

Why do you have to make babies? Ugh. The thought of pregnancy and childbirth disgust me

 

[Unicr0n]

Why do you have to make babies? Ugh. The thought of pregnancy and childbirth disgusts me

Average man wants to start a family. Elsewise you're just a living fleshlight to him that drains his money [if you don't have a job]. I don't want a child nor to be pregnant. I'd do it for him because he's an amazing person. However, I can't handle that he has a high sex drive. If it were very low, I could lie back and think of robots or something.

 

[sserafim]

Average man wants to start a family. Elsewise you're just a living fleshlight to him that drains his money [if you don't have a job]. I don't want a child nor to be pregnant. I'd do it for him because he's an amazing person. But I can't handle that he has a high sex drive. If it were very low, I could lie back and think of robots or something.

Would they be open to a surrogate baby? The thought of being pregnant and giving birth grosses me out. I would hate to do that

 

[Unicr0n]

Would they be open to a surrogate baby? The thought of being pregnant and giving birth grosses me out

Maybe but that costs a buttload of money. $125,000-$250,000 on average. No man wants to spend that when he could just put a baby in you for free. The average man cannot afford that on the average salary.

 

[Mirrory Me]

It may seem like an attractive proposition, but in the long run it might not be a very satisfactory option just because of housing and pocket money. As someone mentioned there, you could perhaps prostitute yourself to random gigs by spreading and selling your service in the dark somewhere - you just don't have an apartment where you could meet strangers. Or you could make porn...

Well, I myself have managed well in a rented apartment with the help of a sick pension, although I have thought about growing drugs as an additional income (I would have space for a small "greenhouse" at the back of the apartment, and I was thinking of ordering seeds online, but then there was a general inspection in all residential units.

 

[sserafim]

It may seem like an attractive proposition, but in the long run it might not be a very satisfactory option just because of housing and pocket money. As someone mentioned there, you could perhaps prostitute yourself to random gigs by spreading and selling your service in the dark somewhere - you just don't have an apartment where you could meet strangers. Or you could make porn...

Well, I myself have managed well in a rented apartment with the help of a sick pension, although I have thought about growing drugs as an additional income (I would have space for a small "greenhouse" at the back of the apartment, and I was thinking of ordering seeds online, but then there was a general inspection in all residential units.

Like make amateur porn or be a pornstar?

 

[Mirrory Me]

Like make amateur porn or be a pornstar?

Probably amateur level. To make decent porn, you need resources, creativity and and all sorts of skills, if you work independently.

 

[sserafim]

I can only agree with the mods. Your behavior on this issue attracts bad apples with evil intentions. Be really careful with it...

However, if I was a woman I would also try to go this way. I know at least one woman who successfully went down this road in real life. But SaSu is not the right place to follow this strategy.

How did she go about it? Where should I go instead?

 

[noname223]

How did she go about it? Where should I go instead?

Sorry I don't know that. But I think they found themselves in real life.

 

[sserafim]

Average man wants to start a family. Elsewise you're just a living fleshlight to him that drains his money [if you don't have a job]. I don't want a child nor to be pregnant. I'd do it for him because he's an amazing person. However, I can't handle that he has a high sex drive. If it were very low, I could lie back and think of robots or something.

@LXXCH

 

[MrOptions]

There is always Only Fans. Bonus is you don't have to fuck anyone. Just show off your money maker on a web cam.

 

[LunarCharm]

I wouldn't ask for this advice on SaSu if i were you, but i guess everyone's got their spaces to ask stuff. Definitely recommend Reddit for answers though, im sure many others have asked the same thing. I've heard of women getting into these kinds of relationships (im pretty sure they're officially called sugared relationships, money for sex/money for a side piece) and most often ive heard they find them on tinder and other dating sites. I've also heard of apps and sites existing solely for the purpose of finding these kinds of relationships so maybe do some digging on that :]

 

[Unicr0n]

There is always Only Fans. Bonus is you don't have to fuck anyone. Just show off your money maker on a web cam.

Only like the top 0.1-1% of people on onlyfans make a living wage. It's not a viable option compared to like, actual prostitution lol. You'd have to be ungodly hot and be able to find other people in the industry to make it on OF.

 

[heavyeyes]

Honestly asking reddit is your best bet. You're probably not gonna find the best advice on this subject here

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I think this is a slippery slope to go into. You'd need to find a man, or woman, that finds you very attractive and is willing to have a financial burden on them in return of sex. Having said that, you will age and become less attractive so what are you going to do then? If your only asset is your looks, you're doomed after a few years.

Also thinking about the practicality of it, if I were a man why would I get you and spending a lot of money on you (food, shelter, etc) when I could pay a prostitute by the hour? Doesn't sound like a good deal for me, especially when I could switch prostitute if I get tired of one. And especially since, with a prostitute, I'd have the house to myself and won't need to worry about your needs which I supposedly don't care about since I only see you as a sex object?

I know it sounds harsh but if you're selling yourself as an object, that's how others will see you and others won't want to put up with your problems if they don't have to. You're actually asking for a parent here, someone that will take care of you unconditionally. People are too cruel for that, they don't care.

I'm sorry that I don't have a great solution. I may not be the best person to give you guidance either as I'm a strong believer of independence, I wouldn't want to be dependent on anyone, I don't trust anyone nor anything. Putting my life and needs on the hands of someone that would only think of me as a sexual object is the definition of hell and is asking for a miserable life, in my opinion.

I think you would be better off as a prostitute, at least you're working and making your own money, not dependent on some random person's "kindness".

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Hi everyone! TrashyP here, and I'm looking for some advice. Short story is I feel incapable of providing for my financial needs, and also feel an obsessive need to be an object, so I thought I'd try putting the two together and see if I can find someone to take care of my financial needs, presumably by sleeping with them, and I'm looking for advice on how I could find an arragement like that.

Long story...

I live in USA, in a queerphobic town (am transgender) where I've been attempted assulted. I don't drive and the only ways out are riding a bike on a street made for cars for way too long, or a bus stop that's a 30min walk away, and oh yeah I also got both SA'd there and followed home.

I live with my mom. She's an emotion vampire. Abandoned me when I was young, and the only thing she's every had to say about it is how she's the real victim when it came to abandoning her children. She uses me as her therapist, discourages any attempt I have at bettering my life. The life she offers is miserable and if I try to say or do anything about it she just cries. And I can't express anything at all, because she'll either get upset or just talk over me, or just tell me how my problems aren't a big deal. Basically I'm supposed to just sit there and stare the wall, while telling her how happy I am, when in actuality, I'm rapidly approaching suicidality.

Oh yeah also I live in the room my brother killed himself in

We poor af over here. I need money and its just too hard to make it here. I don't feel safe working in the town, and its just too hard to commute outside of it. Also I've been trying to work my whole adult life, and I've only ever gotten worse at it. At this point I just can't handle it anymore. Don't really have any skills for internet money, and also I have akimbo tendinitis, and even just typing out this message is hurtin'. Also interfering with work is Crohn's disease, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and I think Autism and ADHD (and probably one other thing). I really tried, and its genuinely not working.

I need to heal if I'm going to ever be able to provide for myself. But I can't do that if I'm burning myself out working, living in the most miserable house, where I'm trapped in because its too hard to leave. I need to be saved. But that doesn't exist so I'm hoping I'm hot enough that someone will let me live with them if I let them do things to my body. I'm seriously desparate here and this is the kind of life that would make sense to me. Being normal adult doesn't :c

So I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on the matter. Specifically I'm looking for any kind of arrangement that results in someone else providing for my finacial needs. I'm assuming it would involve me doing sex things for whoever would take care of me, in addition to whatever other services I can provide, but I'm open to anything right now. Also something I could possibly find in a few months (I'm dying over here :c) From my perspective it feels impossible.. But my older (also trans) sister has managed to be taken care of most of her adult life, and she's the most unpleasant person I know (also why I'm not just asking her).

Specifically, looking to answer the questions: Could I find an arrangement where someone else provides for me, what kind of arrangement might that be, and how could I seek out an arrangement like that.

For context I am a 31 year old Transwoman who apparently looks much younger (estrogen + physically fit). Despite being pretty early transition, I can actually be pretty heckin' cute methinks, and I'm pretty smol for a transfem (5'9"). I have good domestic skills (cook + clean), and live to please others. I live in a smaller, bigoted town, but its in a pretty large metro area.

Kinda wanna post a photo with my face obscured to help provide context, but not sure on the safety of it?

Please ask any questions you have if you think you might have any advice.

B

Can you live with your sister and do all household things etc? Can try to apply for disability or ssi

Is this a coherant post?

 

[ham and potatoes]

and see if I can find someone to take care of my financial needs, presumably by sleeping with them, and I'm looking for advice on how I could find an arragement like that.

Im sure there are sugar baby sites out there, or fetish sites that have sugar baby sections in em. But like the others said, sounds pretty sketchy

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Hi everyone! TrashyP here, and I'm looking for some advice. Short story is I feel incapable of providing for my financial needs, and also feel an obsessive need to be an object, so I thought I'd try putting the two together and see if I can find someone to take care of my financial needs, presumably by sleeping with them, and I'm looking for advice on how I could find an arragement like that.

Long story...

I live in USA, in a queerphobic town (am transgender) where I've been attempted assulted. I don't drive and the only ways out are riding a bike on a street made for cars for way too long, or a bus stop that's a 30min walk away, and oh yeah I also got both SA'd there and followed home.

I live with my mom. She's an emotion vampire. Abandoned me when I was young, and the only thing she's every had to say about it is how she's the real victim when it came to abandoning her children. She uses me as her therapist, discourages any attempt I have at bettering my life. The life she offers is miserable and if I try to say or do anything about it she just cries. And I can't express anything at all, because she'll either get upset or just talk over me, or just tell me how my problems aren't a big deal. Basically I'm supposed to just sit there and stare the wall, while telling her how happy I am, when in actuality, I'm rapidly approaching suicidality.

Oh yeah also I live in the room my brother killed himself in

We poor af over here. I need money and its just too hard to make it here. I don't feel safe working in the town, and its just too hard to commute outside of it. Also I've been trying to work my whole adult life, and I've only ever gotten worse at it. At this point I just can't handle it anymore. Don't really have any skills for internet money, and also I have akimbo tendinitis, and even just typing out this message is hurtin'. Also interfering with work is Crohn's disease, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and I think Autism and ADHD (and probably one other thing). I really tried, and its genuinely not working.

I need to heal if I'm going to ever be able to provide for myself. But I can't do that if I'm burning myself out working, living in the most miserable house, where I'm trapped in because its too hard to leave. I need to be saved. But that doesn't exist so I'm hoping I'm hot enough that someone will let me live with them if I let them do things to my body. I'm seriously desparate here and this is the kind of life that would make sense to me. Being normal adult doesn't :c

So I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on the matter. Specifically I'm looking for any kind of arrangement that results in someone else providing for my finacial needs. I'm assuming it would involve me doing sex things for whoever would take care of me, in addition to whatever other services I can provide, but I'm open to anything right now. Also something I could possibly find in a few months (I'm dying over here :c) From my perspective it feels impossible.. But my older (also trans) sister has managed to be taken care of most of her adult life, and she's the most unpleasant person I know (also why I'm not just asking her).

Specifically, looking to answer the questions: Could I find an arrangement where someone else provides for me, what kind of arrangement might that be, and how could I seek out an arrangement like that.

For context I am a 31 year old Transwoman who apparently looks much younger (estrogen + physically fit). Despite being pretty early transition, I can actually be pretty heckin' cute methinks, and I'm pretty smol for a transfem (5'9"). I have good domestic skills (cook + clean), and live to please others. I live in a smaller, bigoted town, but its in a pretty large metro area.

Kinda wanna post a photo with my face obscured to help provide context, but not sure on the safety of it?

Please ask any questions you have if you think you might have any advice.

Is this a coherant post?

I'm wondering this as well. If anyone does, feel free to DM me :)

This is just a runaround way of asking to get your MRS degree

 

[sserafim]

This is just a runaround way of asking to get your MRS degree

Wdym? Like be a wife? Lol

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Wdym? Like be a wife? Lol

Yeah, that's what you just described

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Hi everyone! TrashyP here, and I'm looking for some advice. Short story is I feel incapable of providing for my financial needs, and also feel an obsessive need to be an object, so I thought I'd try putting the two together and see if I can find someone to take care of my financial needs, presumably by sleeping with them, and I'm looking for advice on how I could find an arragement like that.

Long story...

I live in USA, in a queerphobic town (am transgender) where I've been attempted assulted. I don't drive and the only ways out are riding a bike on a street made for cars for way too long, or a bus stop that's a 30min walk away, and oh yeah I also got both SA'd there and followed home.

I live with my mom. She's an emotion vampire. Abandoned me when I was young, and the only thing she's every had to say about it is how she's the real victim when it came to abandoning her children. She uses me as her therapist, discourages any attempt I have at bettering my life. The life she offers is miserable and if I try to say or do anything about it she just cries. And I can't express anything at all, because she'll either get upset or just talk over me, or just tell me how my problems aren't a big deal. Basically I'm supposed to just sit there and stare the wall, while telling her how happy I am, when in actuality, I'm rapidly approaching suicidality.

Oh yeah also I live in the room my brother killed himself in

We poor af over here. I need money and its just too hard to make it here. I don't feel safe working in the town, and its just too hard to commute outside of it. Also I've been trying to work my whole adult life, and I've only ever gotten worse at it. At this point I just can't handle it anymore. Don't really have any skills for internet money, and also I have akimbo tendinitis, and even just typing out this message is hurtin'. Also interfering with work is Crohn's disease, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and I think Autism and ADHD (and probably one other thing). I really tried, and its genuinely not working.

I need to heal if I'm going to ever be able to provide for myself. But I can't do that if I'm burning myself out working, living in the most miserable house, where I'm trapped in because its too hard to leave. I need to be saved. But that doesn't exist so I'm hoping I'm hot enough that someone will let me live with them if I let them do things to my body. I'm seriously desparate here and this is the kind of life that would make sense to me. Being normal adult doesn't :c

So I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on the matter. Specifically I'm looking for any kind of arrangement that results in someone else providing for my finacial needs. I'm assuming it would involve me doing sex things for whoever would take care of me, in addition to whatever other services I can provide, but I'm open to anything right now. Also something I could possibly find in a few months (I'm dying over here :c) From my perspective it feels impossible.. But my older (also trans) sister has managed to be taken care of most of her adult life, and she's the most unpleasant person I know (also why I'm not just asking her).

Specifically, looking to answer the questions: Could I find an arrangement where someone else provides for me, what kind of arrangement might that be, and how could I seek out an arrangement like that.

For context I am a 31 year old Transwoman who apparently looks much younger (estrogen + physically fit). Despite being pretty early transition, I can actually be pretty heckin' cute methinks, and I'm pretty smol for a transfem (5'9"). I have good domestic skills (cook + clean), and live to please others. I live in a smaller, bigoted town, but its in a pretty large metro area.

Kinda wanna post a photo with my face obscured to help provide context, but not sure on the safety of it?

Please ask any questions you have if you think you might have any advice.

Is this a coherant post?

Wdym? Like be a wife? Lol

Full seriousness, if you intend to actually go this route (don't know enough about the one who's not sserafim but this route will be difficult for sserafim because of her complete disinterest in human connection), insist on getting married from a purely legal standpoint before the move in. No ceremony, just court documents verifying a legal marriage. Insist on not having a prenup. Then, if things turn sour and the man wants to uproot you, he can't do so without giving you half of everything he owns.