Venting Finding a partner to ctb feels hopeless

[Faulisdead]

i mean, I know I've only been a member for a couple of days, but I was so hoping to find somebody local to cbt with quickly. I mean for Christ's sake, I live in goddamn Seattle, a city that's supposedly notorious for depression and suicides. I keep going in and out of different moods, a tiny bit calm, and then hit extremely hard with suicidal thoughts that make me want to burst into tears no matter where I am. This instability is just so fucked.

 

[stellabelle]

Be patient. Someone might come up. Also take some time while you're waiting to establish yourself here. Takes a lot of trust to have a partner. Even then, it's gone horribly wrong for users in the past.

I'm sorry you're going through all of this and feel defeated.

 

[Faulisdead]

Be patient. Someone might come up. Also take some time while you're waiting to establish yourself here. Takes a lot of trust to have a partner. Even then, it's gone horribly wrong for users in the past.

I'm sorry you're going through all of this and feel defeated.

Thank you for the kind words.
Whats gone wrong for other users in the past?

 

[TheRiverStyz]

Yeah, so I've learned that finding a partner isn't easy. If you're a new member, you have to post a certain amount before you can send or receive messages from non-mods. As I found out recently as well some people post on the partner thread but for some reason cannot be contacted (no option to pm/write on their profile) so that's kind of annoying.

But yes, take your time, post around a bit. I've actually received some messages out of the blue by people looking for partners just for mentioning where I live in unrelated threads. Best of luck hey.

 

[ithappens]

I didn't even realize you had to post a certain amount before you could send/receive PMs from mods. So much for the shy lurkers.

 

[Smilla]

I didn't even realize you had to post a certain amount before you could send/receive PMs from mods. So much for the shy lurkers.

Post in the game threads to get your message numbers up if you are too shy right now to post in the main forum.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Well we only have 4800 members worldwide and only a relatively small percentage are active. The site is still pretty new/small. For now you may have to give it some time or be prepared to travel.

 

[21Neberg]

Check the lenghty partners megathread. You might find someone in your area.

 

[ithappens]

Post in the game threads to get your message numbers up if you are too shy right now to post in the main forum.

Oh, thank you. Good idea.

 

[stellabelle]

Thank you for the kind words.
Whats gone wrong for other users in the past?

People turning them into police, for one

 

[Faulisdead]

People turning them into police, for one

Fuckkkkkk that. That's soooo messed up.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

I gave up. During my years-long search internationally, I got a lot of rejection (not the "right" type of end-of-it-all partner) and exploitation only. Not worth the effort (for me).

 

[Bittersweet]

I still have hope for the partners megathrread!

 

[Addy92]

Be patient. Someone might come up. Also take some time while you're waiting to establish yourself here. Takes a lot of trust to have a partner. Even then, it's gone horribly wrong for users in the past.

I'm sorry you're going through all of this and feel defeated.

I'd be interested to read stories where it's gone wrong. Care to share some links?

 

[Marawa]

People turning them into police, for one

Really? This makes me feel hopeless. I believe I have a partner but the hardest part for me is once you get to know them, you don't want them to ctb. Now add there are SERIOUSLY PEOPLE WHO HAVE TIME TO STALK US JUST TO TURN US IN!
I already fear I've fallen for an identity scam, no money but my identity. I've met wonderful supportive ppl here too I know for a fact.
is the thread of that scam or any other scam still available (besides Vaughn, 311 guy I did see thru that)

 

[Addy92]

 

[marcusuk63]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ursula_and_Sabina_Eriksson

 

[ReadyToFly]

That is scary that people can lurk.. or a psycho looking for prey

 

[GinaIsReady]

That is scary that people can lurk.. or a psycho looking for prey

Sociopaths as well. They are here and they are good at getting close to people. I've been a victim to various types of predators on this site twice now.

 

[ReadyToFly]

Sociopaths as well. They are here and they are good at getting close to people. I've been a victim to various types of predators on this site twice now.

wow are serious?? I'm so sorry to hear you had to experience that? What happened if you don't mind me asking? You can give the cliff notes version if you'd like.. I just look at it as it would be helpful for others so we don't make the same mistake because I can already see how something like this could go wrong but at this point in my life I am hopeless and desperate... I've reached my wits end

 

[GinaIsReady]

wow are serious?? I'm so sorry to hear you had to experience that? What happened if you don't mind me asking?

He was partnering with two of us at the same time. The other woman posted their plan (along with his username) on the Partners Thread, I saw it and considered myself both enlightened and saved, though it was quite a shock. He had plans with myself and another member at the same time.