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stink144

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I even asked normies if acts like face fucking are common in normal relationships and they answered yes
I can't take it I can't stand being a woman it's so humiliating.
 
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.koocain

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so true i find it so weird how degrading it is lol
 
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mysticatedwine

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your best bet is probably to find groups of people whose brain haven't been melted by pornography or female sexualization. they're scarce and rare, especially if you live in isolated places with a conservative family, but it's not hopeless. these people exist, i promise
 
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WhatCouldHaveBeen32

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You don't need to have sex lol. I also don't like it , maybe you are ace. I always thought the value of it is weird and that people go above and beyond for it. It's weird to me too.

Edit: Unfortunately in society, people hate others who differ from them, so it's obvious people would say it's a normal thing because they don't want others living their lives or deviating from the norm, about that I can't say much but to slowly depart from relationships that have these kinds of people which sucks because that's like 95% of the population.
 
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PI3.14

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If a partner pushes you towards acts in sex that you don't like, then he is abusive.

A relationship should be built on mutual understanding. If the guy has some sexual fantasies that you don't like, then he can go look for another person to fullfil them or drop them all together.

You don't have to accept a treatment you don't like, that's a recipe for disaster.
 
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dumbnhappy

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May 22, 2024
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It's extremely degrading and fucking disgusting. Why is it that men want to humiliate their partners? I don't get it. I broke up with my first ever boyfriend because I had sent one of those yes king reels and I said nothing is that serious and he said "you'll see" like the disgusting freak he is knowing that I'm uncomfortable. Maybe we just value respect more than anything. I won't ever be a man's sex doll
 
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I even asked normies if acts like face fucking are common in normal relationships and they answered yes
I can't take it I can't stand being a woman it's so humiliating.
I don't think it's that common,
we live in a porn poisoned society, sex is what you want it to be and what you are comfortable with.
 
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EvisceratedJester

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You do realize that you could just not partake in face fucking, right? A lot of women who choose to do it do it because they enjoy it. They either don't find it degrading or they might enjoy the feeling of being degraded in the context of sex. I don't get what's the big deal here.
 
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lifeisbutadream

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Oct 4, 2018
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I even asked normies if acts like face fucking are common in normal relationships and they answered yes
I can't take it I can't stand being a woman it's so humiliating.
You only do what you are comfortable doing. If your lover cares for you he will not want you to do anything that you are not comfortable with. You shouldn't even need to verbalize it - just a subtle gentle pushing away should be more than enough, permanently. Sex should be a fantastic and enjoyable experience for both male and female, an expression of love. Sex is the way life perpetuates itself on planet earth.
 
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Hvergelmir

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May 5, 2024
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I even asked normies if acts like face fucking are common in normal relationships and they answered yes
Normies are not a homogenous group. A more nuanced answer would be; that it has become somewhat normalized.

Being on the other end, as a straight man, I've found it very awkward when partners behave like porn actors. I don't know whether they've truly adopted that ideal, or just want to please me, but it feels awkward and a bit surreal. It makes me echo others concerns about pornography, even though I'm not the least ideologically invested.

Just stick to your own ideals. People are up to all kinds of things both in sex, and elsewhere. We don't all have to share ideals.
I can't take it I can't stand being a woman it's so humiliating.
Just like normies, women isn't a homogenous group. I don't think it's healthy to identify too intensely with any group. Create your own identity.
 
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CatLvr

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I've never "committed" an act I wasn't comfortable trying. 🤷🏻 And I'm a woman, btw. Have I had guys (and gals) ask for things I'm not comfortable doing? Sure. Have those same people tried to pressure me into it? Sure. That didn't go well for them. I will be as respectful as you are. You wanna wallow like a pig in the mud, and think you are gonna coerce ... Or worse, FORCE me to do the same?? Yeah, that's NOT gonna turn out like you think it's gonna.

But did any of this make me feel less than?? Or disgusted with myself?? Nope. Different folks, different strokes. Just another day in paradise, IMHO. 🤷🏻

Don't let people get you down. And don't do things you don't want to. 🤷🏻🤷🏻
 
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divinemistress36

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You only do what you are comfortable doing. If your lover cares for you he will not want you to do anything that you are not comfortable with. You shouldn't even need to verbalize it - just a subtle gentle pushing away should be more than enough, permanently. Sex should be a fantastic and enjoyable experience for both male and female, an expression of love. Sex is the way life perpetuates itself on planet earth.
I've always wondered what sex as a expression of love would be like?
 
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CatLvr

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I've always wondered what sex as a expression of love would be like?
I promise you whatever pleasure you might feel is not worth the pain that is inevitable -- when you learn that you were the only one in that relationship that was being open and honest. Sigh. I can look back at the 3 relationships I have had in my life where I thought we had something special and can say these things about all 3 of those periods of time in my life:

1. I was a fool all three times.
2. People will say (and do) ANYTHING to get what they want from you.
3. And, lastly, it's not worth it. There is no amount of "love" in the world worth the loss of self -respect, -esteem, or loss of dignity you experience when they are "done" with you. And the longer they "play the game" the worse the pain is when they finally show their true selves -- or maybe I should say when you finally realize that all the apologies and I'll do betters and hugs and flowers and whatever else they do was just a means to an end for them -- to keep you giving them sex, or letting them spend money on themselves but never on you, or keeping the house clean, whatever it is THEY need, but never what you need.

Just not worth it. You are not missing a damned thing.
 
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I promise you whatever pleasure you might feel is not worth the pain that is inevitable -- when you learn that you were the only one in that relationship that was being open and honest. Sigh. I can look back at the 3 relationships I have had in my life where I thought we had something special and can say these things about all 3 of those periods of time in my life:

1. I was a fool all three times.
2. People will say (and do) ANYTHING to get what they want from you.
3. And, lastly, it's not worth it. There is no amount of "love" in the world worth the loss of self -respect, -esteem, or loss of dignity you experience when they are "done" with you. And the longer they "play the game" the worse the pain is when they finally show their true selves -- or maybe I should say when you finally realize that all the apologies and I'll do betters and hugs and flowers and whatever else they do was just a means to an end for them -- to keep you giving them sex, or letting them spend money on themselves but never on you, or keeping the house clean, whatever it is THEY need, but never what you need.

Just not worth it. You are not missing a damned thing.
Well said . I think most love is conditional and temporary anyways. Sex benefits men more than women anyways
 
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Forever Sleep

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May 4, 2022
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I've always been such a prude and I'm not attractive enough to get many offers either but, it's made me curious myself. Do women really do these things because they want to or, because they want to please their partners? I guess it varies person to person.

My (female) friend once came in to work with penis shaped candies she'd got in a UK shop called Ann Summers. They sell erotic underwear etc. She offered me one and I was like- 'I'm not putting that in my mouth!'

Can't say I really see the appeal either. Beyond some fantasy level. To actually be with someone who wanted that, I don't know. I suppose that's the great divide for me. Fantasy is one thing. It's probably the result of all the violence/ degredation against women we see. But to have someone who wanted it in reality, I'm just not sure what it means.

Maybe it means no more than our fantasies but, I can't always get beyond the idea of humiliation either. Yellow rain is another one- urinating on your partner or, being f*cked in the arse. Can't say I really understand it but then, for both sexes, it can be a turn on I guess.

Sexuality is very nuanced though. I think even the kinkiest practices probably can be respectful with the right partner. On the other hand though, they can absolutely be a way a partner abuses another. I agree with so many members here- don't feel pressured to do something you don't want to do. If a partner cares about you, they ought to understand.
 
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Abyss Dweller

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your best bet is probably to find groups of people whose brain haven't been melted by pornography or female sexualization. they're scarce and rare, especially if you live in isolated places with a conservative family, but it's not hopeless. these people exist, i promise
I just fucking hate porn. It can mess your brain up big time and yet it is so easily accessible.
 
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_Gollum_

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Porn is the scourge of the world and the worst sociological crisis we are experiencing. Your best bet is finding the needle in the haystack who doesn't or has stopped watching it :\
 
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Abyss Dweller

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Porn is the scourge of the world and the worst sociological crisis we are experiencing. Your best bet is finding the needle in the haystack who doesn't or has stopped watching it :\
I'm somewhat glad that on this forum that has nothing to do with porn still a lot of people share this opinion. I never did drugs so I don't really know but I still really strongly feel it is probably one of the worst.
If I did one good thing I told my nephew to be very aware of it that it can be super dangerous. He is in his early 20s not too late..
 
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divinemistress36

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Porn is the scourge of the world and the worst sociological crisis we are experiencing. Your best bet is finding the needle in the haystack who doesn't or has stopped watching it :\
I agree, men online talk to me in a more degrading way now days then they ever did ( I'm 37, so not like I'm at my peak sexual attractiveness anymore) then when I was in my 20s. My friend said it's cause milf/cougar porn is a big thing right now. It's desensitizing people to real intimacy
 
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Abyss Dweller

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I agree, men online talk to me in a more degrading way now days then they ever did ( I'm 37, so not like I'm at my peak sexual attractiveness anymore) then when I was in my 20s. My friend said it's cause milf/cougar porn is a big thing right now. It's desensitizing people to real intimacy
And just to highlight the dangers: both what you mentioned and face fucking are actually very-very light when compared to how deep the porn rabbit hole can go. I'm stopping now but man I really-really fucking hate it.
 
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Dejected 55

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I don't see the point in blaming porn. People want to blame someone or some entity for nearly everything they don't like... and often the blame is misplaced.

As someone said early up in this thread, if your partner tries to force or coerce you to do a thing that you do not want to do... and especially if they actually successfully force themself on you... that partner is a horrible person and you hopefully are able to get away from that partner. No one should force anyone to do anything.

I think it is always fair to ask. Sometimes people are afraid to ask because they don't want to be judged and they hold back desires and urges and that can be a problem in a partnership too... You need to be able to express what you want and what you don't want, and if your partner can't handle that... you probably need a better partner. Partners also need to make each other comfortable with being open about these things. Ask, get a yes and try it. Don't like it? Don't have to ever do it again. Ask, get a no? Don't try it, shouldn't be a problem, do something else that you both want to do.

But it isn't porn's fault.

If Bob watches porn and thinks he wants to try something with Sally, it should be 100% ok to ask Sally in a non-threatening environment if she would like to try that. Sally should be free to say no. If Bob and Sally find they are different enough in their needs and wants, it is ok to respectfully move away from each other like adults and try to find partners whose needs and interests match their own. It is never ok to pressure or force or try and make someone thing they are bad/wrong for wanting OR not wanting a particular thing.

If Bob can't be respectful, then Bob is a jerk.. The porn didn't make Bob a jerk.

Meanwhile, I've seen and heard about sexual acts that amaze me people want to do them. I don't know how much happens where only one partner wants it while the other feels pressured or forced. I have never kissed anyone that I didn't ask. Sometimes that is frowned upon, the asking. Men are made to feel weak if they don't just "take" what they want, within reason... No one advocates rape or assault... but a lot of people seem to advocate that a man needs to constantly be escalating sexual contact or the woman loses interest.

The face-fucking thing... just on the surface doesn't sound fun to me. I've seen some porn. Guys seem to be forcing and woman sometimes gagging... or the guys are grabbing the woman's head and forcing themselves inside... Maybe some woman like that, I don't know... but even if I was with a woman who 100% said she wanted that... I couldn't oblige. It doesn't look like fun to me.

I think we have a lot of people who aren't good with boundaries, a lot of people who aren't good at maintaining/setting boundaries, and then some outright abusers.

I think in a normal consensual sexual relationship between adults you need to be able to communicate needs and desires, turnons and turnoffs, boundaries and where you're willing to experiment. I also think that if you are a person who has some strict limits on what you are willing to do with a partner, that you are 100% entitled to that. Your partner has to understand, accept, and respect you if they remain your partner.

I don't want to talk in circles... hopefully I covered all the angles I meant to in a respectful manner.
 
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quietwoods

quietwoods

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I agree, men online talk to me in a more degrading way now days then they ever did ( I'm 37, so not like I'm at my peak sexual attractiveness anymore) then when I was in my 20s. My friend said it's cause milf/cougar porn is a big thing right now. It's desensitizing people to real intimacy
Ain't just men. Smut has the same effect on women. My friend's ex-girlfriend who consumed smut like crazy could not stop talking about sex and bondage and dildos. It was uncomfortable.

I don't see the point in blaming porn. People want to blame someone or some entity for nearly everything they don't like... and often the blame is misplaced.
Largely agree, people have been blaming porn and video games and movies and everything for societies ills for decades now. Porn can certainly cause unhealthy behaviors but definitely not the crisis it is made out to be.
 
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Blame pron for desensitizing people to stuff~ Just find someone who cares about you enough to not just do things you don't want them to do to you~
 
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Ain't just men. Smut has the same effect on women. My friend's ex-girlfriend could not stop talking about sex and bondage and dildos. It was uncomfortable.


Largely agree, people have been blaming porn and video games and movies and everything for societies ills for decades now. Porn can certainly cause unhealthy behaviors but definitely not the crisis it is made out to be.
Maybe cause Im older now so my hormones have calmed down , I don't understand people's obsession with talking about sex all the time
 
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Abyss Dweller

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I don't see the point in blaming porn. People want to blame someone or some entity for nearly everything they don't like... and often the blame is misplaced.

As someone said early up in this thread, if your partner tries to force or coerce you to do a thing that you do not want to do... and especially if they actually successfully force themself on you... that partner is a horrible person and you hopefully are able to get away from that partner. No one should force anyone to do anything.

I think it is always fair to ask. Sometimes people are afraid to ask because they don't want to be judged and they hold back desires and urges and that can be a problem in a partnership too... You need to be able to express what you want and what you don't want, and if your partner can't handle that... you probably need a better partner. Partners also need to make each other comfortable with being open about these things. Ask, get a yes and try it. Don't like it? Don't have to ever do it again. Ask, get a no? Don't try it, shouldn't be a problem, do something else that you both want to do.

But it isn't porn's fault.

If Bob watches porn and thinks he wants to try something with Sally, it should be 100% ok to ask Sally in a non-threatening environment if she would like to try that. Sally should be free to say no. If Bob and Sally find they are different enough in their needs and wants, it is ok to respectfully move away from each other like adults and try to find partners whose needs and interests match their own. It is never ok to pressure or force or try and make someone thing they are bad/wrong for wanting OR not wanting a particular thing.

If Bob can't be respectful, then Bob is a jerk.. The porn didn't make Bob a jerk.

Meanwhile, I've seen and heard about sexual acts that amaze me people want to do them. I don't know how much happens where only one partner wants it while the other feels pressured or forced. I have never kissed anyone that I didn't ask. Sometimes that is frowned upon, the asking. Men are made to feel weak if they don't just "take" what they want, within reason... No one advocates rape or assault... but a lot of people seem to advocate that a man needs to constantly be escalating sexual contact or the woman loses interest.

The face-fucking thing... just on the surface doesn't sound fun to me. I've seen some porn. Guys seem to be forcing and woman sometimes gagging... or the guys are grabbing the woman's head and forcing themselves inside... Maybe some woman like that, I don't know... but even if I was with a woman who 100% said she wanted that... I couldn't oblige. It doesn't look like fun to me.

I think we have a lot of people who aren't good with boundaries, a lot of people who aren't good at maintaining/setting boundaries, and then some outright abusers.

I think in a normal consensual sexual relationship between adults you need to be able to communicate needs and desires, turnons and turnoffs, boundaries and where you're willing to experiment. I also think that if you are a person who has some strict limits on what you are willing to do with a partner, that you are 100% entitled to that. Your partner has to understand, accept, and respect you if they remain your partner.

I don't want to talk in circles... hopefully I covered all the angles I meant to in a respectful manner.
You are right. But the problem with porn that it makes a lot of people sexual tendencies extreme and they'll turned on by things they would have never touched if it wasn't for porn. They might not even like it but porn starts to condition them to get aroused.

So again you are totally right that people should be able to communicate what they desire and if they don't align then thats it. But you can check pornfree or nofap subreddits to see countless men suffering and trying their best because porn is literally destroying their life.
 
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WhatCouldHaveBeen32

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I agree, men online talk to me in a more degrading way now days then they ever did ( I'm 37, so not like I'm at my peak sexual attractiveness anymore) then when I was in my 20s. My friend said it's cause milf/cougar porn is a big thing right now. It's desensitizing people to real intimacy
Disrespectful brats that have no sense of shame basically, the internet is full of them.
 
quietwoods

quietwoods

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May 21, 2025
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Maybe cause Im older now so my hormones have calmed down , I don't understand people's obsession with talking about sex all the time
If you're interacting with people online, then yeah. A bunch of chronically online people who don't understand boundaries or social norms. All for sex positivity but not really a subject I consider to be normal conversation.

Irl I've rarely experienced people like this aside from the example I just gave.
 
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Disrespectful brats that have no sense of shame basically, the internet is full of them.
Yes, I have fun telling them to learn some damn respect and get on their knees and kiss my ass , kind of therapeutic
 
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