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emptymind94
Member
- Feb 22, 2020
- 14
First off, I have read that many people here are estranged from their family and friends or have a bad relationship with them. I am sorry it is this way for so many of you.
This question is mainly meant for anyone who does have people in their life who they are close to and who they know would be affected by a suicide.
The main reason I have not taken the SN which is safely stored in my closet yet, is that I know it would deeply devastate my mother. She is the only close family I have (there is more family but I am not close to them), I do have a few friends but none who I think it would affect heavily (i.e. beyond initial shock and grief).
Without going into the reasons I want to ctb or the complicated relationship my mother and I have:
How are you dealing with the thoughts about the people you will leave behind?
I have experienced severe grief myself and feel like I don't have the right to do that to anyone else. Even though my mother's abusive behaviour when I was a child is probably a big part of why I am feeling the way I am; she is a good woman at heart, has grown a lot in the past years and we are relatively close. I am at a loss to be honest - I can't imagine to keep living for another 20-40 years but I also don't want to think about what getting a phone call that her daughter was found dead would do to my mother.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think suicide is selfish, I would just like to know other peoples thoughts on this.
This question is mainly meant for anyone who does have people in their life who they are close to and who they know would be affected by a suicide.
The main reason I have not taken the SN which is safely stored in my closet yet, is that I know it would deeply devastate my mother. She is the only close family I have (there is more family but I am not close to them), I do have a few friends but none who I think it would affect heavily (i.e. beyond initial shock and grief).
Without going into the reasons I want to ctb or the complicated relationship my mother and I have:
How are you dealing with the thoughts about the people you will leave behind?
I have experienced severe grief myself and feel like I don't have the right to do that to anyone else. Even though my mother's abusive behaviour when I was a child is probably a big part of why I am feeling the way I am; she is a good woman at heart, has grown a lot in the past years and we are relatively close. I am at a loss to be honest - I can't imagine to keep living for another 20-40 years but I also don't want to think about what getting a phone call that her daughter was found dead would do to my mother.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think suicide is selfish, I would just like to know other peoples thoughts on this.