pinkbluebutch
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- Dec 5, 2022
- 46
I recently went to visit home briefly, and I've gained a good deal of weight (which I recognize is not healthy, as I know what my healthy weight is and it's not this) since I last saw them, and during this visit, both of my parents were nonstop criticizing my weight. It came from a place of concern, and I know that they're valid to be concerned (a heart issue associated with weight gain runs in our family) but it just is upsetting to know how different I look and how I'm not taking care of myself the way I should be. I don't want to use the reply of "Well it's hard to take care of my body when all I want to do is destroy it" because that's just manipulative, but I truly don't know what to do. Although they didn't say it, so logically I have no reason to interpret it this way, it feels like a moral judgment; they kept talking about how I need to reduce sugar and wheat etc etc, (my dad is on the Keto diet so carbs are his enemy) and I just feel like I already find it so hard to feed myself and I now feel myself slipping back into unhealthy dietary desires; even though I know anorexia doesn't work and excessively restrictive diets only lead to more weight gain, I feel like nothing I've been doing has been working. I tried intuitive eating but my weight just keeps going up. I don't want to go back to a cycle of starving myself and binging, but I just don't know another solution, and partially I want to punish myself because I don't feel I deserve food (another illogical thought but a hard one to combat). I just feel worthless, and on top of all my other failures (no post-graduation plans, no accomplishments to be proud of, slipping grades, etc) it has just driven me into a hole.
My suicidal ideation has been worse and worse, even though I was on top of it for several months, and I can feel myself slipping from passive suicidality into active suicidality, and I don't like being like that because I become a worse friend, partner, student, child, everything. I can't help but wish I could kill myself and spare everyone around me from worrying and dealing with me, even though it's selfish.
My suicidal ideation has been worse and worse, even though I was on top of it for several months, and I can feel myself slipping from passive suicidality into active suicidality, and I don't like being like that because I become a worse friend, partner, student, child, everything. I can't help but wish I could kill myself and spare everyone around me from worrying and dealing with me, even though it's selfish.