everything is boring

[wildflowers1996]

does anyone else feel this
I can't focus on anything because nothing holds my attention
I don't care about anything - well I do, there's one person I really care about but they have no interest in me any more, and things I would've been passionate about I can't do for various reasons
everything else just seems so pointless or unrewarding

 

[Old Friend]

Yep. I get no pleasure out of anything anymore.

 

[wildflowers1996]

I'm sorry you feel that way too

I just feel everything is very mundane and empty
but I should be grateful for feeling like that. It definitely beats extreme anxiety

 

[sserafim]

I feel this way as well. Life is so boring; there's no point as to why I exist apart from being a slave to the capitalist machine. Any hobbies or other things I do are just distractions from this fundamental fact. I try to escape reality because I hate how it's depressing and meaningless, but these are just coping mechanisms that don't solve the real problem.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

I'm sorry you feel that way too

I just feel everything is very mundane and empty
but I should be grateful for feeling like that. It definitely beats extreme anxiety

My take is a little different. Not necessarily boring because my mind is working overtime 24/7 but copes don't work (coping isn't the same as being bored).

However the biggest thing is having things ripped away: partner, sanctuary, etc. I had some sort of order and system for doing a lot of things but it's been completely nuked. That's worse than boredom. It's torture.

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

does anyone else feel this
I can't focus on anything because nothing holds my attention
I don't care about anything - well I do, there's one person I really care about but they have no interest in me any more, and things I would've been passionate about I can't do for various reasons
everything else just seems so pointless or unrewarding

The man I love fucks me about no end so yes I get that. Feel like a mouse in the jaws of a cat sometimes. Tortured at will.

 

[wildflowers1996]

I feel this way as well. Life is so boring; there's no point as to why I exist apart from being a slave to the capitalist machine. Any hobbies or other things I do are just distractions from this fundamental fact. I try to escape reality because I hate how it's depressing and meaningless, but these are just coping mechanisms that don't solve the real problem.

I'm sorry you feel like this as well. I've felt empty/lonely most of the time for most of my life

I feel I agree to some extent, but not entirely
Although I hate capitalism and I agree a lot of people get stuck working for years in jobs they don't like, there are some people who do have jobs that they love and are passionate about, and that makes life meaningful for them
and there are times when people are not working - holidays, days off - although of course work can take up a HUGE amount of time for people - when they can do other things, I don't think hobbies are just coping mechanisms necessarily, people can be genuinely passionate about them, some people do have the capacity to feel a lot of joy
and I think there are some things that can be exciting, at least for some people - being in love, travel, various sensations/experiences... for some people having a family, having shared experiences together...

I feel there are things I could be passionate about, I just can't have them
there's also a tiny part of me which still believes in spiritual things, but it's probably all in my mind

 

[sserafim]

I'm sorry you feel like this as well. I've felt empty/lonely most of the time for most of my life

I feel I agree to some extent, but not entirely
Although I hate capitalism and I agree a lot of people get stuck working for years in jobs they don't like, there are some people who do have jobs that they love and are passionate about, and that makes life meaningful for them
and there are times when people are not working - holidays, days off - although of course work can take up a HUGE amount of time for people - when they can do other things, I don't think hobbies are just coping mechanisms necessarily, people can be genuinely passionate about them, some people do have the capacity to feel a lot of joy
and I think there are some things that can be exciting, at least for some people - being in love, travel, various sensations/experiences... for some people having a family, having shared experiences together...

I feel there are things I could be passionate about, I just can't have them
there's also a tiny part of me which still believes in spiritual things, but it's probably all in my mind

Work is modern day slavery. Anyone who enjoys their job has Stockholm Syndrome. Even if you love and are passionate about your job, you're still being exploited for your labor. They say that if you love your job, it won't feel like work, but it still is. How does work make one's life meaningful? I don't understand this and never will. I like traveling though. I'm a NEET right now and will stay one until I ctb. I might have to eventually buy into the system though because I probably won't attempt (because of fear of failing). So far, I refuse to participate in society. I won't let myself get used or exploited by the system

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, I've never had any interest in something as futile and pointless as existence, being conscious and aware is such a curse to me, I'm tired of suffering in this existence. Honestly I don't understand why anyone would want to exist, more than anything I wish I never existed at all, it fills me with dread to think of how this could potentially continue for many more decades.

 

[tronix]

does anyone else feel this
I can't focus on anything because nothing holds my attention
I don't care about anything - well I do, there's one person I really care about but they have no interest in me any more, and things I would've been passionate about I can't do for various reasons
everything else just seems so pointless or unrewarding

This is exactly how I've been feeling lately. Even if there are some activities I used to enjoy, now I just can't focus and relax. Someone abandoned me and since then, I lost the ability to do the smallest things. Taking a shower is difficult. Eating. Brushing my teeth.
Everything is boring, nothing makes sense. I'm grieving not only losing someone but also losing the fantasy for the future: family, vacations, all the plans I had. Over a month and still I'm in this dark place, lying in OUR bed and feeling so worthless, confused, unwanted, and b o r e d. All I can do is thinking and overthinking, nothing helps me to run away from my thoughts. I hate it.

 

[wildflowers1996]

Work is modern day slavery. Anyone who enjoys their job has Stockholm Syndrome. Even if you love and are passionate about your job, you're still being exploited for your labor. They say that if you love your job, it won't feel like work, but it still is. How does work make one's life meaningful? I don't understand this and never will. I like traveling though

I don't necessarily see all work as exploitation; if no one in the world worked nothing would ever function, and there would be nothing interesting to do or to explore, so I can understand why contribution is necessary and I think that's ok if you enjoy your work/ are paid fairly for it - even if it is exploitation, if you're happy, does it matter? idk
I'm glad you enjoy travelling :)

 

[BlendedHeart]

Anhedonia is a terrible state of mind. It took away from me things that were very important.

I'm sure listening to music saved my life lots of times. Now, sometimes I overanalyze it and I see it like a nonsensical set of sounds, a placebo. I cycle through my playlist and I'm incapable of enjoying any song. Other times I can still get that feeling, in those brief moments of euphoria I rarely get.

 

[wildflowers1996]

This is exactly how I've been feeling lately. Even if there are some activities I used to enjoy, now I just can't focus and relax. Someone abandoned me and since then, I lost the ability to do the smallest things. Taking a shower is difficult. Eating. Brushing my teeth.
Everything is boring, nothing makes sense. I'm grieving not only losing someone but also losing the fantasy for the future: family, vacations, all the plans I had. Over a month and still I'm in this dark place, lying in OUR bed and feeling so worthless, confused, unwanted, and b o r e d. All I can do is thinking and overthinking, nothing helps me to run away from my thoughts. I hate it.

I'm so sorry :(

it's so, so painful being abandoned by someone you love. I know the feeling...

 

[sserafim]

I don't necessarily see all work as exploitation; if no one in the world worked nothing would ever function, and there would be nothing interesting to do or to explore, so I can understand why contribution is necessary and I think that's ok if you enjoy your work/ are paid fairly for it - even if it is exploitation, if you're happy, does it matter? idk
I'm glad you enjoy travelling :)

I'd rather see the world for what it is (a system of modern day slavery and exploration) than have fake happiness. It's delusional and gives you false hope that things will get better and that things are better than they actually are. Ignorance is bliss. My main reason to ctb is to prevent myself from being exploited. Why should *I* have to buy into the system? I refuse. I also don't see anything inherently valuable about working versus not working. In my opinion, there's no merit to work

 

[wildflowers1996]

I'd rather see the world for what it is (a system of modern day slavery and exploration) than have fake happiness. It's delusional and gives you false hope. Ignorance is bliss

for me I feel like happiness is the end goal, I don't think there is such thing as "false" happiness

 

[amra81nz]

does anyone else feel this
I can't focus on anything because nothing holds my attention
I don't care about anything - well I do, there's one person I really care about but they have no interest in me any more, and things I would've been passionate about I can't do for various reasons
everything else just seems so pointless or unrewarding

Yes I feel the same. I haven't gotten out of bed cause I can't occupy myself with anything. My thoughts overwhelming me I'm in my own personal mental hell. I have stopped eating as well

 

[tronix]

I'm so sorry :(

it's so, so painful being abandoned by someone you love. I know the feeling...

Thanks for your understanding. It is very painful and lonely... I hope it will get better for you.

 

[broth0100]

im rlly bored n cant get myself to do anything, it's humiliating

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I relate. Everything is so boring for me. Though, I think that I always felt bored with existence. There was never anything that I enjoyed about existence to begin with

 

[divinemistress36]

I find everything to be pointless things people find fun I just can't. People need more fun in their life for happiness but depression sucks the fun out of anything

 

[Throwawayacc3]

for me I feel like happiness is the end goal, I don't think there is such thing as "false" happiness

It's environment that will have a big factor. If I could go to the sanctuary 5 times a week and just spend time in the aviary, with the lemurs, the monkeys, the goats - would I happy? Im not sure but leaning to no. Would I be content? Very much so. Because I don't give a shit about myself or my body but I can do something for the animals that had humans treat them like shit. At least this meat sack can do something that I think has a "good outcome".

for me I feel like happiness is the end goal, I don't think there is such thing as "false" happiness

To add: I don't think you'll find this "happiness" with people. It's extremely unlikely or a very very tiny percentage. You've got better odds with animals - even the little shits that bite you and stuff - over time you understand why they do it and still like them even though they are a handful - I've had this with ferrets but I still did somehow smile (even though it's pretty painful they bite lol).

 

[divinemistress36]

It's environment that will have a big factor. If I could go to the sanctuary 5 times a week and just spend time in the aviary, with the lemurs, the monkeys, the goats - would I happy? Im not sure but leaning to no. Would I be content? Very much so. Because I don't give a shit about myself or my body but I can do something for the animals that had humans treat them like shit. At least this meat sack can do something that I think has a "good outcome".

To add: I don't think you'll find this "happiness" with people. It's extremely unlikely or a very very tiny percentage. You've got better odds with animals - even the little shits that bite you and stuff - over time you understand why they do it and still like them even though they are a handful - I've had this with ferrets but I still did somehow smile (even though it's pretty painful they bite lol).

Even mean dogs I still like better than people

 

[wljourney]

I can relate.

Can't even watch TV. Nothing grabs my interest. Nothing brings joy.

It's like … I'm at a club but the bouncer has decided that the DJ can't come in. Or anyone else for that matter.

So I stand alone in a dark room, just waiting for a party that never happens.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

Even mean dogs I still like better than people

See this is where it gets interesting - dogs (or should we say puppies) are not mean. You may have a litter where some puppies are more shy/reserved, some are curious and some are dominant but it's never mean/aggresive. This is where shit humans come in. They don't train them correctly and wonder why they are going ape shit destroying everything.

E.g. when you have. Puppy it's best to crate train them- this does a few things:

1: the crate is their safe space. It's where the puppy can relax and be happy.
2: it's their bedtime area.
3: You have wee mats outside the cage so they understand that toilet is on the paper mats and not in the bed.
4: you also train them to be alone with their own company (for a few hours - not 10 hours a day, again this would be a shit owner).

Where people go wrong is that as soon as the puppy goes into the cage they start to whelp and whine and the reaction is "oh no poor puppy" which is creating really unhealthy behaviours.

Sorry about the information dump but ultimately = shit people can't look after sentient creatures or other humans. Fucking garbage humans.

 

[sserafim]

Even mean dogs I still like better than people

People suck. Animals are much better than people

 

[Throwawayacc3]

for me I feel like happiness is the end goal, I don't think there is such thing as "false" happiness

I'm just guessing here but I think a dog or a cat might help you. They aren't boring at all and sometimes do some really silly shit that does change your attitude - my dog decided to yeet her toy (quite a hard squeaky ball) right into my face. Hit me on the nose. Ok you can say it's an injury but it's not intentional. If you have the space and resources (dog requires way more than a cat) then think about it. If not maybe two hamsters or two gerbils. You'll just need to clean their cage a bit more often and change the sawdust.