Ever find that you’re the one always reaching out but no one reaches out to you?

[Kramer]

I have people who will respond most likely if I text them, but no one texts me first besides my mom. It’s pretty much always been this way even though I’ve been able to attract women. I’m just never good enough.

 

[Soul]

Being a giver or a receiver can be a way of life. Sometimes givers don't notice how much they're being given, because they're so focused on their own giving.

Being the giver lets you retain control of things, so some people never bother trying to be takers sometimes as well. Advice like "let X contact you, instead of taking the initiative" can freak some givers out, because it would mean relinquishing control of the contact. But it doesn't have to be permanent; we can all be givers *and* takers.

 

[Lordsudbury]

I never text first

 

[Kramer]

I never text first

Why? Too good to initiate contact?

 

[Deleted member 23586]

I feel THIS. Yes I relate to this.

 

[Lordsudbury]

Why? Too good to initiate contact?

Feel like a burden to everyone don't want to bother people

 

[waterstrider]

I feel like it’s always me reaching out. Lately (as my depression has hit me hard) I don’t find the strength to talk to them first and they don’t even ask how I‘m doing. It’s so sad.

 

[TheSoulless]

I don't reach out, but neither do the people I know. My family is the only exception.

 

[Caspers]

I tried not texting first for once and have lost most of my friends that way. I guess you can tell who is a true friend that way

 

[Kramer]

I tried not texting first for once and have lost most of my friends that way. I guess you can tell who is a true friend that way

Yeah I’m down to zero