Venting Embarrassed I tried Therapy (x5)

[Spectre]

They're not allowed to give advice, so it's just like talking to a brick wall. The fake sympathy just made me feel like I was being made fun of. It's clear "go to therapy" is just society's way of shrugging off people to someone else to listen to at a high compensation rate. Never again. And don't say it's just a bad fit, I've met enough to know this is just how it is. ChatGPT is honestly much more helpful, and at least I go in fully knowing it's a robot.

 

[SadLoser]

I was thinking of going just to talk about my problems with dating. I want to know why every single woman who initially shows clear interest in me ends up ghosting me. There's something severely wrong with me and I want to know why. I wonder if therapy would help with that.

What did you go in to talk about?

 

[TAW122]

I second this and relate to exactly what you said. That was indeed my experiences with psychotherapy and counseling back in the days when I went (and I went to no less than 10 different counselors and psychotherapists, all of which offered no real solution for the problems and issues I faced in the world). It sucks that a lot of people think that talk therapy (psychotherapy) is some solution and it gets into a circular loop, runaround of "one never found the right therapist/professional" and/or "one just didn't try hard enough". I get fed up with the gaslighting that society does and in real life I just don't even have the conversation with anyone who mentions it, and if they do, I pretty much just write off whatever they say and to me their credibility goes down...

Anyways, I also wrote many threads and articles with regards to my take on the topic, subject matter, and I completely relate to what you said here. As for ChatGPT, I don't trust it enough to feed it sensitive information or various topics and now with GPT-5, it's just total shit (even worse than 4.o, 4.1, etc.) but I digress. I hope you are able to find peace elsewhere and also it's not embarassing, but it's just the state of society as well as the mental health system and prejudices, presumptuous that most people have 'different' people..

 

[patheticparasite]

Personally I think therapy is a nice time sink. I like the attention and sympathy they offer. Even though I know they fake it, I'm too dumb to realize that on an emotional level. Talking to a therapist feels good, but has never changed anything in my case. Therapy and chatbots have that in common.

 

[dumbnhappy]

Honestly I get it. One time I tried talking to a therapist at my uni and he literally went on his phone. lmao. I never went to one again

 

[Spectre]

Honestly I get it. One time I tried talking to a therapist at my uni and he literally went on his phone. lmao. I never went to one again

They clearly think they're so much better than their patients too. Like that's so disrespectful.

 

[dumbnhappy]

They clearly think they're so much better than their patients too. Like that's so disrespectful.

I think they just dont care. it sucks so bad cause really thats all I want is for someone to care. and to your point about feeling made fun of, it seriously felt like bullying. how can they treat mentally ill people like this expecting us to get better? I just ended up bottling everything up even more than before

 

[juliaiscrazyer]

Theres nothing worng with trying to get help, really you should try a lot of things before CTB if you can.

 

[mysideofthemountain]

I've had therapists I like and therapists I don't. Some therapists help...sort of (will say more later)...and some hurt more than they help. Some are useless.

The fact of the matter is that even the ones who help aren't actually helping long term. Therapy is a transaction, not a relationship. Any help that therapy legitimately offers is tempered by the reality that it takes place in a transaction.

Something I joke about: "the stripper loves me, and so does my therapist."


Transactions have their places though. I may not find therapy to be a helpful long term solution, but I do appreciate that the transactional nature of it means that it is at least honest, whether bad or good.

Sometimes people (like "friends" or "family") also want a relationship to be a transaction. They want me to provide them with some mood or service or benefit without seeing me fully for who I am. I believe this is the root cause of people telling me to "go to therapy" when I'm hurting and feeling lonely. The cure to hurt and loneliness is belonging, and that comes from being seen within a relationship. If you export belonging to therapy then it's never going to be a real cure, because the belonging ends as soon as the transaction does.

 

[lachrymost]

Can't wait until society wakes up to the extreme limitations of therapy.

 

[Xiaojiu]

Therapy helped me when I was younger (When I was a teen going through depression). But, it is so fucking ableist for chronic illnesses, chronic pain, and disability. It doesn't help me with my problems because well, they're permanent and for the rest of my life. No amount of talking will take my physical pains away. They do nothing for my issues.

I notice other people I know go through therapy and it helps them (Traffic, work stress, family drama, marriage issues, etc.) So, I support it for other people I guess