Does life have to be like this?

[wantingdignity]

Does anyone else feel like you'd be fine if life was just a little bit better? For me, I feel like if I just had a better salary, I could figure out the rest. It wouldn't fix everything, but it would be so much easier to actually improve if I wasn't in fight or flight mode all of the time.

How do people actually get their lives together? How do people actually gain financial stability in today's economy? How do people actually access their free will and live these dreamy lifestyles? I'm just trying to get by right now and I feel like I'm failing.

 

[fedup1982]

Yeah its hard. I think the thing is to take things one small step at a time, enjoy the little things, be easy on yourself, and to make progress, be consistent if you can

 

[Someplace_nice]

Does anyone else feel like you'd be fine if life was just a little bit better? For me, I feel like if I just had a better salary, I could figure out the rest. It wouldn't fix everything, but it would be so much easier to actually improve if I wasn't in fight or flight mode all of the time.

How do people actually get their lives together? How do people actually gain financial stability in today's economy? How do people actually access their free will and live these dreamy lifestyles? I'm just trying to get by right now and I feel like I'm failing.

I understand, I am poor, a house wife, and had bought a house. But we took our dream grabbed it and are making it out bitch, it's not easy and I would recommend doing it with someone to lean on, but you still got a practice cheaper spending habits not enjoying the little things too much and be strict with your budget. It's extremely stressful and almost impossible at some points, you have to want to do better. I hold my husband accountable when he gets soft and buys willy nilly or is putting something important off, I would definitely start with a budget. You need to see how much you spend what you spend on and what can you live without.

 

[KlixxFoxe]

Yeah its hard. I think the thing is to take things one small step at a time, enjoy the little things, be easy on yourself, and to make progress, be consistent if you can

I really enjoyed this answer. Life is always hard (or always seems to be hard), and you can never say "Finally, my life is fine!"

 

[fedup1982]

I really enjoyed this answer. Life is always hard (or always seems to be hard), and you can never say "Finally, my life is fine!"

Thanks, yeh I totally agree, life is never finished until it's over, and that can be a depressing thought. I think the trick is to try to pick your battles so its not as hard as it could be. Often in our minds things seem harder than they actually are, and techniques like the 54321 grounding technique can help settle your mind. It helps you feel grateful for what you have which makes you happier, although I understand it won't help everyone but its worth a try

 

[vitbar]

Definitely. Feels like I'm just about staying afloat. Functional in that I'm independent and fully employed. Not enough time or energy to fix the issues outside of work. My diet is trash, I have unattended health issues, sleep routine is broken, social life neglected, etc. When I have time off work I function so much better. Wish I could afford to work fewer hours.

Things aren't sustainable, but I feel ok or good most of the time.