Help Does having a partner make life easier?

[webb&flow]

I feel like the thing that's more important than love is being understood. I currently have someone in my life who I can't pursue romantically but she's the most important person to me because she understands me, understands my pain and doesn't see me as less for thinking like that. She's much better than any relationship I ever had.

Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.

—David W. Augsburger

 

[HNR17114168]

Not always

 

[lilb0wpeep]

A partner may help with the loneliness and finding some comfort. But to find, let alone maintain a relationship and a healthy one at that, you should def try taking some smaller steps to break out of your comfort(current) zone and to build up your confidence within yourself. I say that because it's easy become dependent/reliant on one person if you find some comfort in someone but don't have the ability to hold yourself up on your own. That's being because they're also holding themselves up, they're no longer there, or because you've then closed off other connections/you should be able to rely on and connect with a variety of people. It's why "support networks" are super important when working on yourself.
One way to ease into interactions with other is a part time job like a cashier position, specifically at food places where you'd be order taking. I know it can sound like a big step but it's one of the things that has made me able to talk and eventually connect with people. With order taking it's scary at first cause ur talking to so many people but it's practically just reading a script, so for the most part it's predictable and repetitive(more practice). Over time you learn to work in new 'tips/tricks' and connections. And while you get comfortable speaking and holding yourself up with costumers you also start to talk and make actual/deeper connections with your coworkers as you learn about and open up with eachother. And of course it takes time, I definitely didn't see a big change until years after I started when looked back was practically mind blown. I say this as someone who lowkey hates my job in fast food and doesn't actually want to be real friends with the people I work with(not my kind of people…), my job has changed me and my life so much in simple ways I never thought it would. Honestly scares me to think about where I would be had I of not started working there.
But ya build relationships for sure, just do so in a variety of manners and don't limit yourself/restrict you're connections.

 

[charlavail]

No, it doesn't. They can always leave you, and that is a risk. and when the guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with left me that was the last thing I had hope on. It's like accelerated my want to die by 10000x.

 

[unloveable27]

In my experience it doesn't just make life easier but makes it worth living in the first place, even if the relationship is strained at times. Not ever having another girlfriend is my main reason for CTB. It makes everything easier and life so much brighter. And I've only had one online relationship. I can't imagine how amazing it is to have someone there for you in person to hug and hold. And people say "it won't fix your problems" but these are my problems. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't want to CTB at all. Its the main reason I'm miserable. And it's not codependency, people need other people including romantically. They need that validation to function. Trying to live without it as some kind of "challenge" isn't worth the effort and pain.
My life would change overnight with another chance at a girlfriend. Just one chance.