I don't feel incompetent. I know i have capabilities. It's just I'm fucked up emotionally, i have low tolerance to frustration, i think i know what in my education trapped me into this. I'm emotionally incapable and that ruins my capabilities, I can't express them, i've become an underachiever. I doubt i can change, perhaps a bit but is it worth it ?
I can definitely relate. I was never taught anything important or any life lessons because I was severely sheltered as a child. I am so embarrassed by my lack of knowledge about basic things and I am in my late 20s. If I was younger I wouldn't feel so bad but late 20s with absolutely no life experience is very very hard for me. Most everything I learned was self taught or from my fist bf. It is just so hurtful when people say "I can't believe you don't know how to do that or I can't believe you don't know that at your age" ...so yeah it's one of my very long list of reasons to ctb.
When you don't know something, do you ask for help or guidance or are you afraid of it ?
By my experience, asking for guidance, saying « i don't know how to do this, can you help me ? » attracts kindness not scorn. I know some people can find it charming and sweet and you attract sympathy. Really. Showing humility (or derision, which is funny humility) can be seductive with girls, i think.
But if you're afraid to ask, because you feel lame and you're shameful, you cut yourself from the positive reaction and close doors.
Nobody was born knowing things, you know. There was always a first time for everything and you need a little push.