Discussion Does anyone else find the idea of a funeral being held for them troubling?

[Emily_Numb]

I guess I was mostly talking about the memorial service. The 'celebration of life'. Sure you can have your corpse donated to science but you can't really ensure that people respect your wish to be forgotten

My father in law had no 'celebration of life' or 'memorial' service of any kind. I guess if people decide to do some sort of private event without your corpse or remains then you can't really dictate that, you can formally request that in your will, it's up to the people left behind to respect that. You don't however, have autonomy over how people wish to deal with their grief. You can certainly put it in your will that you absolutely do want a funeral service and this will be upheld. You can also wish for your remains to be disposed of rather than returned.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes. It is a waste of time trying to pay "tribute" to someoone, because we are all are forgotten about eventually given enough time. Plus depending on the circumstances of your death there might be virtual signallers that you have no way of fighting off or calling out once you are gone.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I find it comical; a bunch of people, most of which haven't thought about me in months or even years, standing round my grave talking as if I was special to them in some way - peak comedy if you ask me.

 

[TooConscious]

Very much so. My family will want a funeral because they will have an excuse for attention like my nan will most likely end up footing the bill but it will be her and my dad wanting one they will have no issue going against my wishes of personal reasons existential the idea of people having me on their mind might bring me out of death or some info ite possibilities. My nan will be more concerned /excited what outfit to wear than my being dead.

 

[Lost Magic]

I will be cremated with no service.

 

[FuneralCry]

I do not want a funeral. I want to just be cremated. I do not want to be remembered in any way, ideally I would love for my entire existence to be erased from the memory of others. I want to completely disappear. Despite this funerals are for the living and in a way I do not care if others want to have one, as by that point I will be gone, it is none of my concern.

 

[sully]

I don´t want to be buried, just cremated and thrown in the ocean or something. I´m going to leave a picture on my phone explaining that.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I don't want any kind of funeral or service.

My mother died in October; she had cancer and killed herself. She requested no funeral, no service, just to be cremated and done with.

 

[filthyrottendirty]

Yes to everything in here

 

[CoolGuy9]

I now feel like the oddball in here. I want to leave my "mark" in this world, and while a funeral wouldn't be my ideal mark, its better than nothing.

 

[Sans]

I know of at least a few dozen people who would, if given the opportunity, desecrate my grave. That's probably what I deserve, but it's all the more reason to just get cremated, or even better, just left to decompose.

 

[SleepDealer]

This used to bother me a lot, but I've slowly come to terms with the fact that I can't control what happens after I die. I can't write an official will because of the witness requirements where I live. I can't afford to raise suspicion by writing a will anyway. So, my wish for cremation with no funeral is nothing more than that, a wish.

 

[justtiredofit]

I can't support the idea of a funeral for me, when most people couldn't be bothered with me when alive. That's why I made all my arrangements in advance, to just be cremated and ashes tossed. No obituary, no viewings, just straight from the morgue to the crematorium and be done with it.

 

[Crazy4u]

I am the same way. I don't want one and I don't expect it because I have noone and my direct family members are poor. I will be requesting direct cremation if body donation or sky burial is not possible

 

[ameliacecelia]

In the notes I'm leaving behind, I'm asking to be cremated because I don't have enough to cover the cost of a funeral, and that's a horrible burden to leave to my family. I feel ya.