Do you want a funeral?

[wordsoutb4sumnelsin]

sorry to bring that thought up for you, my condolences. your best option would be cremation/hydrolysis, leaves behind a couple pounds of ash & bone fragments ground up, have it scattered somewhere that'll essentially turn to nothing.

i find it interesting that people feel strongly about wanting to truly become nothing, even though by the point that you're dead, your body is nothing but a cicada shell after a molt. i understand not wanting to exist, but my remains mean nothing beyond bringing closure or perhaps being useful in some way- i'll already be gone. i want my consciousness gone, the rest is up to whoever has to deal with it.

Oh no, all good. Grandma jumped to her death cuz of constant medical pain. Even at like 15, I was glad for her even if there were tears while I jammed "The Game-My Love" on repeat as we drove across the country to the funeral/services. Sadness I meant was the way family then needing to deal with ones ashes, at least for us, extended things. More time thinking about the person, speeches, well-wishes into the afterlife and whatnot. I was just recalling the hike we went on to go spread the ashes. As you say, I agree: If it's ultimately for the family and makes them feel better in whatever way, they can go right ahead. It just also makes sense to not want anyone to HAVE to deal with anything. Cuz yeah, just like so much in life, it can also NOT be closure/useful and instead be a burden, pain, etc...

But hey, all goes to show "sumn sumn Yin and Yang!" (Or sumn)


EDIT:
Hadn't listened to that song in years... The lyrics can still HIT ME HARD. And this may be a forum where people can relate...:
"I'm walking without a heart, can somebody hold that?"

 

[TwistedNightmares]

No. No one would come to it, and it would be just a huge waste of money.

 

[thegreatminderaser]

I'd prefer nothing. Certainly no grave that's a horrifying thought. Cremation and dump the ashes in the garbage. Just to completely disappear would be amazing.

what is it about having a grave thats horrifying to you? unfortunately i don't think they can dispose of ashes in that way, best case maybe you can scatter in a dump but perhaps not. it's a shame that even in death what we do with our bodies is legislated.

 

[itsgone2]

what is it about having a grave thats horrifying to you? unfortunately i don't think they can dispose of ashes in that way, best case maybe you can scatter in a dump but perhaps not. it's a shame that even in death what we do with our bodies is legislated.

As for the grave I just do not want to be remembered. At all. It's odd about the ashes. Basically dumping in water is ok but trying to properly dispose of is not.
I know someone that found a lot of cremated remains of pets in a shed, that belonged to a previous owner. She threw them all out. So it happens anyway.

 

[hao☆]

i was looking into hydrolysis & green burials, trying to figure out how much i'd need to save to help the financial aspect of my death. even if i flinch or change my mind, it's not like it'll go to waste. i don't want or need anything fancy, just put me straight in the ground and then let anybody celebrate however they want. i don't have any grand visions, i just want to be convenient in death as i like to be in life.

have you thought about having a funeral? any final wishes regarding that? i'd love to hear them, i think funerals are neat even if i don't personally have any grand desire for one.

i dont need people faking tears and pretending they cared about me infront of other people, so nah (great cuptoast pfp btw)

 

[gunmetalblue11]

I think having a funeral for my death is one of my worst fears. I'd much rather be cremated and have my ashes thrown into the sea by a friend.

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

I would like for my body to be donated to medicine and/or science (if any of my organs could be donated to someone who needs a donor, that'd be sick, but it also depends on how and where I die).

Outside of that, my loved ones are welcome to do whatever they need to in order to process my death. Funeral, no funeral, burial, cremation, tombstone, no tombstone. They say funerals are for the living. I'll be too dead to care.

I have always said that I'd want people to plant a community garden as opposed to putting flowers on a grave, but, again, whatever they need to process my death in the way that makes the most sense to them.

 

[somewhatdeadly]

i really don't i hope it does not occur.

 

[nihilistic_dragon]

No. I just want to disappear and be forgotten as if I never existed.

 

[frail]

no. i want to be in nature and i don't want to be found. i hope to avoid people having the opportunity to pretend to have known me. it's embarrassing for them.

 

[Kathel]

there's a road bridge over a train nearby that has always been one of the two spots i imagine myself dying at, i think id like it if my ashes from cremation were scattered there

if there is a version of the afterlife where im stuck there, id atleast get to see trains go by :3

 

[littlecutecorpse]

honestly, i don't really care if i have one or not. i'll be dead, so it doesn't matter....or maybe it does, idk. as long as i'm cremated, maybe with my ashes scattered in nature or kept somewhere safe. but my parents are hella religious, so they would probably throw a funeral with a bunch of christian bullcrap anyways.

 

[enditplz]

No, no one will come and its a waste of time and money. I want to die somewhere no one will ever find my body. Not like anyone would come looking for me.

 

[SomeAdvice]

Weighted dive vest with me hanging of the side of a boat in the water with my gun is my plan, Hopefully they never find me. I feel like my funeral would just inconvenience people.

 

[SentimentalTrip]

Yes. I know I won't be around to see it but I would like if there were a funeral. That's one of the things I find unappealing about flying abroad to acquire N and taking it there. I might end up in a pauper's grave thousands of miles from where I lived my life. I don't know why I care about this, but I do. Maybe I should get over it.

 

[endoftheroad45]

No, funerals are for people that care. Nobody would come anyway

 

[Naz667]

I want a marker. I don't have much of an IRL presence, but I'm online alot, and I want to post the coordinates of my gravestone/marker/whatever on my accounts so my friends can visit. Plus, I like to visit graves occasionally and chat with the non-responsive markers, so I hope I can do that for someone else

 

[Green Destiny]

Personally I want to be cremated, or used as basis for a sapling.

 

[Happy Cat]

This is probably a not popular opinion but I feel like cemeteries are a waste of space and are bad for the environment... If I was just buried into the ground and that's it I would feel much better about it. That's why I'm hoping to be cremated instead

 

[cheaptrick]

No. I cant stand the thought of people waisting what little precious, God given time they have, remembering me. Heck, I don't even want to remember myself.

 

[Lost.Empyrean]

No. I don't want my corpse to be exploited for profit and If my wishes are disrespected (which they likely will be because that's just how the world works) I don't want any of my family to be there. The people who deserve to mourn me can go, which I know they won't accept because they insist on using me in any way they can and taking every opportunity to make everything about their own religion.

I'm well aware of the fact that my passing will likely be taken advantage of in more ways than one. If not used for financial gain within the system, my family will find a way to milk my death and who I was socially because that's the only way they've ever known how to interact with me. Through disrespect. Disgusting isn't it?

 

[shylady222]

Nope, I'm not close to my family, I'm single, and have no friends so a funeral would be a waste of time and money. I want to be directly cremated (direct cremation)

 

[ObsidianWatcher]

I would prefer either for my body to be used for scientific purposes, be that for education or experimentation, or to simply be left out to be consumed and decompose naturally.

 

[Gangrel]

not at all, i don't even want my body to found, just let me rot in nature and have plants consume my skeleton

 

[kouna]

At the Orthodox Christian church (my tradition) people who take their lives don't get a funeral and I'm not sure if they even get a grave, I think they are buried at the edge of the cemetery without a proper burial and without the marble tomb with the cross etc

I don't care if I get a funeral. I wish my parents chose the cheapest option. No need to waste money.

 

[fadedghost]

no

i don't really have friends anymore, and my family doesn't really care about me

if i died, it would maybe be two family members there, possibly, and it would be talk about how my suffering is over, and talk about "mental illness" and challenges even though i don't consider myself mentally ill

i consider myself depressed after being treated like shit, depressed after being the victim of sexual violence, and really exploited and fucked over by trusting the mental health system to help me. and the fact that i was treated like garbage by family would not be brought up... they would possibly fight over the ashes and keep me in an urn, what i would want least of all, being enclosed and kept... so i'm sure that's what they would do.

i'd rather just have a normal burial, but i am actually too poor, family wouldn't spend that on me...

 

[pokerrkitty]

I want my close friends and boyfriend to get together and spend time with eachother. Maybe hold a small remembrance ceremony with my ashes. That's all- definitely nothing religious, personally.

 

[XiaroX]

no
i consider myself depressed after being treated like shit, depressed after being the victim of sexual violence, and really exploited and fucked over by trusting the mental health system to help me. and the fact that i was treated like garbage by family would not be brought up... they would possibly fight over the ashes and keep me in an urn, what i would want least of all, being enclosed and kept... so i'm sure that's what they would do.

I relate to the violence, depression and how the mental health system is dysfunctional. It's not ill to have difficult reactions to horrific life situations and a medical/psych/authority situation that is out of touch. It's strength.

I won't have a funeral, and don't want one. I have one person in my life who will probably manage to get me cremated and scattered in the ocean, although it's probably more environmentally friendly to have myself composted. I was a little shocked to find out human remains when cremated are highly acidic, and if you spread them in a garden it can be hard on plantlife. But what do I know? But apparently, the ocean can handle it, for now.

 

[thegreatminderaser]

No, funerals are for people that care. Nobody would come anyway

for what its worth, i would