I thought about something similar. I restarted writing this thread. The first name was "Should children know the harsh truth about reality?" I thought about how I would explain to a child the war in Ukraine or when someone close would die. I asked myself which behavior would be right. I was not sure if this title was appropriate in a suicide forum. I just thought about what would it be like if I was a parent.
My parents made a horrible job (abuse, etc.), I would really fear to repeat the same mistakes my parents did. I am VERY convinced I never want to have children. My genes are horrible and I am really scared about the fact my sister wants to procreate...our illnesses and my suicidality have a genetical component. But I am not sure if noone should have children. I won't elaborate on that the main topic is not antinatalism.
I am not sure if it was possible to do a way worse job than my parents when raising children. On the other hand at least both of my parents had jobs. This is something I probably could not deliver. And I absolutely don't want to raise a child in poverty. There is always this narrative our children must have a better life than the current generation. This is often the meaning of life for many people. Though I think this promise often can't be made. You play a lottery if you procreate especially if you are poor and have bad genes.
I am not sure how I would explain to a child the war in Russia. I would probably never endure the responsibility you have as a parent. I would immediately collapse. I cannot even keep my own act together. How should I have the capacity to raise a child? On the other hand I would educate my child in a more healthy way. My parents had horrible takes (on politics) and this infuenced me when I was younger.
I am not sure if I would lie to a child when someone died. Maybe I would replace the circumstances if they would have been very horrible. I would never visit a church with my children. I would rather teach them some important ethical principles. Moreover I would never make them believe there was Santa Clause.
Not sure if I would raise them secular or show them different religions and let them choose one/or atheism. Kids do often the same things as their parents. So probably the hypothetical child would be atheist.
I think children are so fragile and vulnerable. You can traumatize them so easily and it is quite arbitrarily. I remember just random bullshit that happened to me when I was a child and noone could have prevented it. The risks are so high to leave damage when raising children. I would be always scared to hurt my children emotionally. Probably similar as my parents did but I would never be violently to them. It must be pretty difficult to be a good parent. I could never carry that responsibilty.
My parents made a horrible job (abuse, etc.), I would really fear to repeat the same mistakes my parents did. I am VERY convinced I never want to have children. My genes are horrible and I am really scared about the fact my sister wants to procreate...our illnesses and my suicidality have a genetical component. But I am not sure if noone should have children. I won't elaborate on that the main topic is not antinatalism.
I am not sure if it was possible to do a way worse job than my parents when raising children. On the other hand at least both of my parents had jobs. This is something I probably could not deliver. And I absolutely don't want to raise a child in poverty. There is always this narrative our children must have a better life than the current generation. This is often the meaning of life for many people. Though I think this promise often can't be made. You play a lottery if you procreate especially if you are poor and have bad genes.
I am not sure how I would explain to a child the war in Russia. I would probably never endure the responsibility you have as a parent. I would immediately collapse. I cannot even keep my own act together. How should I have the capacity to raise a child? On the other hand I would educate my child in a more healthy way. My parents had horrible takes (on politics) and this infuenced me when I was younger.
I am not sure if I would lie to a child when someone died. Maybe I would replace the circumstances if they would have been very horrible. I would never visit a church with my children. I would rather teach them some important ethical principles. Moreover I would never make them believe there was Santa Clause.
Not sure if I would raise them secular or show them different religions and let them choose one/or atheism. Kids do often the same things as their parents. So probably the hypothetical child would be atheist.
I think children are so fragile and vulnerable. You can traumatize them so easily and it is quite arbitrarily. I remember just random bullshit that happened to me when I was a child and noone could have prevented it. The risks are so high to leave damage when raising children. I would be always scared to hurt my children emotionally. Probably similar as my parents did but I would never be violently to them. It must be pretty difficult to be a good parent. I could never carry that responsibilty.
