miauimon
Member
- Oct 16, 2018
- 29
I'm just wondering. Because everywhere it says that friends&family shouldn't blame themselves for when it happens because they couldn't have prevented it anyway.
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skitliv
Le mort joyeux
- Jul 11, 2018
- 484
jaemus12
Earth’s Parasite
- May 11, 2018
- 562
Lara Francis
Enlightened
- Jun 30, 2018
- 1,627
Once someone is fully committed then there' nothing anyone can do to stop your determination to ctb.
Temporarilyabsurd
NOISE:signal
- Apr 27, 2018
- 438
That is a very potent question .
Lots of different answers depending on your perspective .
Culture , family , conditioning , politics , religion , wealth ... genes ?It is not my fault I was born this way, in this world, in this reality, etc. But it is also not the fault of anyone else.
Temporarilyabsurd
NOISE:signal
- Apr 27, 2018
- 438
The boundaries are fuzzy and stretch from birth to the present.
Sure , we all have responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings TODAY , but how did we develop those ?
what were we mirroring ?
Why did we develop suicidal ideation ?
Why was that such a great idea ?
My harshest judgement on myself is that as a young person in my teens I felt so disempowered , bullied and oppressed that ( on reflection ) eliminating myself was the only thing that I felt I had power over , because everything else was so 'polluted ' with the disagreeable cultural garbage I was filled to the brim with . It was all so toxic I just wanted it all to end .
Participating in the world felt dirty and evil.
I've been trying to figure out why I drew those conclusions for ages .
Intellectually I'm getting a grip , but emotionally I'm still circling that little black hole I formed way back then .
Midnight
Beyond solace
- Jun 30, 2018
- 624
It's a mismatch between my psychological makeup and the kind of world we live in. Not anybody's fault, though. And we have to take full responsibility for our choice.As everything has a cause and effect I find the concept of responsibility irrelevant.
In a physical sense, you're correct. But as far as human interactions go, responsibility is a meaningful concept.
Trashcan
Trash
- Aug 31, 2018
- 1,233
TheCrow
Invisible Spirit
- Sep 26, 2018
- 802
When I was younger, I would've blamed at least half of it on other people (abusive relationships, etc.). Later, I put more blame on my mental illness, and questioned why I was born with such a disadvantage. Now, I mostly blame myself and my inability to have made enough good decisions to create a life worth living.
Mr2005
Don't shoot the messenger, give me the gun
- Sep 25, 2018
- 3,622
I'm angry at my parents and I 'm angry at the mental health services that they didn't help. No one did. It was down to me and me alone and I didn't do anything so yes it is my fault and I find it hard to live with myself
RM5998
Sack of Meat
- Sep 3, 2018
- 2,201
Eloquently put. I do subscribe to the idea there, and that was mostly because not feeling the blame felt good, but there is a lot more that happened after my birth that can majorly be attributed to me in an aggregative sense. And I do accept responsibility (again, in the aggregative sense) for that.
ParamitePie
Experienced
- Oct 11, 2018
- 218
I'm certain there's a genetic component (family history of mental illness). Furthermore, if my life had gone differently, I likely wouldn't be like this. That said, suicide is an action, and the person who undertakes it is responsible. .
oldgray
i wish i'd melt with the snow
- Oct 19, 2018
- 82
it is my fault if i am like this? my parents? maybe society? i don't know, a mix of all of them probably, even if i don't blame anyone in particular but myself.
i like to think that everyone is made to be alive but not everyone is made to live in the world / society as it is now.
