It's not a competition. Have you never stopped to think that people who are deemed 'desirable' are also treated unfairly from the get go by those who are jealous? So yes, some people treat you better, and some worse. So it's swings and roundabouts. Everyone can be treated unfairly for different reasons.
No, it's not a "competition", yet people who are physically attractive certainly treat it like one, every time this subject is brought up.
It's unlike any other privilege/disadvantage discussion, somehow every topic about suffering on the ugly side of things..becomes a pity party for those who live on the pretty side.
A fight to invalidate the unattractive..because their specific pain and suffering is seen as an affront to people without that specific pain and suffering.
Beauty feels the need to become the face of everything, obfuscating all else, and the world obliges. Tale as old as time.
Those who are "jealous"?
Are you accusing them?
And why would that be?
Could it possibly be because there's a significant privilege to envy in the first place?
Could it possibly be because you are biased towards those with said privilege?
Could it possibly be because you have a tendency to demonize those without said privilege?
(The real victims of unfairness.)
Hmm.
Have you never stopped to think about that?
I have never accused anyone of being "jealous" of me, even over things they very well could have been envious about, in a vacuum.
That's an extremely narcissistic way of thinking and conducting oneself.
Using someone else's response to disparity and disadvantage, to victimize yourself.
Something only the very privileged among us, can get away with.
And who cares if someone is envious and upset about something you got lucky with?
I'll gladly take that option contentedly and even rub the shoulders of the envious person, because they're the ones with the heaviest, most excruciating burden to bear in all of this.
Envy isn't a crime, it's a natural reaction to significant unfairness, being teased and tortured with what can never be had.
Physical beauty is a trait unearned, one those without desperately try to obtain, one that those with desperately try to maintain…although it's a trait far easier to lose than gain, so there's really no excuse to complain about it if you already have it…it's just talk. It's bs.
What are you doing to lose the beauty?
Nothing.
What are people doing to gain it?
Everything.
For those who are already good looking..all I see is a bunch of humble bragging and primping of the very privilege being complained about.
This is not a "grass is always greener" situation. One side of the looks spectrum is treated far better overall-greatly privileged and the other side is greatly disadvantaged, with degrees in-between.
Part of the reason people even get away with the narrative that there's some type of balancing act going on..is because most people who make that argument are attractive, thus more likely to be heeded and conceded to.
Looks also mean so much to human beings, that it becomes their mission to hide this fact, when inconvenient. Thus, the platitudes.
Nobody likes admitting when they're privileged or when they are sycophantic towards the privileged..a pleasant appearance being the massive privilege that it is, only bolsters this general truth and makes people act even more unreasonable or disingenuous when conversing with the disadvantaged side.
Swings and roundabouts? Um, no.
Not with this.
Privilege is not defined as "perfect", but being imperfect doesn't mean it's not massively preferable and more conducive to a healthy, coveted life.
I swear..some people are so incredibly privileged that they think minor pitfalls=disadvantage.
That's like me complaining that my hands feel sore from typing, and then trying to compare that to people who have no hands at all.
Ridiculous.
